Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 Hi I post every now and again... I have not told my parents or in-laws about the wls. I am still in the waiting period of hearing from the Ins co and getting a wls date. I will tell them once I know for sure that I am going to have it done and have a deffinate date. For you see, If I told my parents now (specially my mom) they would look at me like I was crazy and get a very long negative lecture that I am not ready to here right now. But I know....sooner or later Im gonna have to tell them b/c they are the only ones that will be able to watch my kids when I go in the hospital.My hubby works plus go to school but has enough vacation time to take off for that week. I hate asking my mom for help(she and I have never gotten along very well).She is more helpful and appreciative towards my brothers(29,20)than me. So I dont know how to tell her or going abouts telling my parents...In laws will be a whole lot easier.... So any suggestion on how to tell them????? Thanks so much for listing LEslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 Hi , It's just the opposite for me. I DON'T want my in-laws to know but my side of the family has been great so far. I know once it gets close to my actual surgery I will have to let my in-laws know but I don't want to hear stuff from them so I know what you mean. Here's what I would do about your family, especially since you're counting on their support: Have your mother or even both your parents meet with your doctor. I think if they hear it straight from the doctor about how important the surgery is to you, that it is done all the time without any problems, etc. that they will be able to handle this. The biggest problem with our families and friends is that they just don't understand what its like for us to be this way and they don't understand what the surgery is really about. They hear something in the news and make up their minds about things without knowing the real facts. Talk to your doctor and see if your folks can go with you to meet him or her sometime. Take care, Bridget Northam > Hi I post every now and again... > > I have not told my parents or in-laws about the wls. I am still in > the waiting period of hearing from the Ins co and getting a wls date. > I will tell them once I know for sure that I am going to have it > done and have a deffinate date. For you see, If I told my parents now > (specially my mom) they would look at me like I was crazy and get a > very long negative lecture that I am not ready to here right now. > But I know....sooner or later Im gonna have to tell them b/c they > are the only ones that will be able to watch my kids when I go in > the hospital.My hubby works plus go to school but has enough > vacation time to take off for that week. I hate asking my mom for > help(she and I have never gotten along very well).She is more > helpful and appreciative towards my brothers(29,20)than me. > So I dont know how to tell her or going abouts telling my > parents...In laws will be a whole lot easier.... > > So any suggestion on how to tell them????? > > Thanks so much for listing > LEslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 I have you in my prayers to have a date soon.As for your mother.I understand.All the years growing up my mother and I never got along.Only thing different is my mother beat me until finally I was older and could run.and the law to me from her.But after a few years the goverment gave me back at 15 years and she throught me back on the road just a hour after they dropped me off.I still love her and forgive her.She was sick and still sick.I finally called her and told her what I did and she made me cry one more time.But this time was for Good reason not bad.She was worried I wouldn't get enough to eat or something asked alot of questions about the surgery.And she said she Loved me for the frist time in my hole Life.So talk to your mom things do change and mostly when they think they might not see you again.Sorry so Long but Talk to mom and dad and work it out and maybe she'll wake up before it gets to many years down the road.And you really lose each other.Wish you and your's the best and get a daate for your new life to began.God Bless and hang in there.a friend debkroll of Iowa. > Hi I post every now and again... > > I have not told my parents or in-laws about the wls. I am still in > the waiting period of hearing from the Ins co and getting a wls date. > I will tell them once I know for sure that I am going to have it > done and have a deffinate date. For you see, If I told my parents now > (specially my mom) they would look at me like I was crazy and get a > very long negative lecture that I am not ready to here right now. > But I know....sooner or later Im gonna have to tell them b/c they > are the only ones that will be able to watch my kids when I go in > the hospital.My hubby works plus go to school but has enough > vacation time to take off for that week. I hate asking my mom for > help(she and I have never gotten along very well).She is more > helpful and appreciative towards my brothers(29,20)than me. > So I dont know how to tell her or going abouts telling my > parents...In laws will be a whole lot easier.... > > So any suggestion on how to tell them????? > > Thanks so much for listing > LEslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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