Re: Girls are Growing Up Too Fast

[Guest guest]

It isn't safe to let our girls be out like we were. There are too many

dangerous people snatching our kids on their walks home from school. And yes

the internet offers lots of bad choices. I am a mom of a teenage girl and we

struggle daily to keep her happy and safe. There are many parents who don't

even know where their kids at when they aren't home.

You should read the books they have our kids read for school. Life is an every

changing challenge to keep our kids happy, safe and doing the right thing.

Lorraine

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Girls are Growing Up Too Fast

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The sexualisation of girlhood is currently a huge concern. Ten is the

new fifteen and eight is the new thirteen. Girls are dressing and acting

older than ever before. They move from toys to boys in the blink of an

eye. Not only are girls worried about how they look and dress at an

early age many are concerned about their body image

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[Guest guest]

Not that I find this post germane to the topic(s) for which this

group exists, but it struck me and I have a couple of questions:

Your comments and criticisms are limited to girls, because?

In your view, which is it -- are parents too permissive or

overprotective? You say both. Whether intentionally or not, you

illustrate the inherent difficulty and perplexing conflict that

parents face today. Thanks.

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> and the reason WHY girls are growing up too soon ?

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> their parents allow / encourage it - plain and simple!

> who allows them free access to television?

> who buys them laptops with internet access?

> who allows them to set up a my space page?

> who allows them free access to a computer?.

> who buys them the CD's?

> who lets them watch MTV?

> who lets them do what ever they want whenever they want? (just as

long as they are inside the house that is)

> who never says no?

> who indulges their every whim?

> who brings them to concerts?

> who buys them every electronic gadget on the market?

> who buys them clothes made for kids 4 years older?

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> I have been working with children for 23 years and I have seen

such a dramatic change in parenting during this time- not a good

change.

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> parents are so over protective about everything i.e.: not

letting them go out & play unattended, not letting them walk to /

home one block from school (with a friend or sibling) , organizing

every single minute of their time so they have no imagination, no

ability to be kids- no ability to learn how to think, no ability to

keep them selves busy or occupied without an adult telling them

every step. they have no opportunity to be dirty/messy/creative

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> it is all do to the individual children's parents, this cannot be

blamed on society or our culture - it only affects those whose

parents allow it to. this is an individual making the choice to

allow their child to do these things.

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> Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 1:32 AM

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> Girls are Growing Up Too Fast

> <http://www.womenbrands.com/parenting/girls-are-growing-up-too-

fast.htm>

>

> The sexualisation of girlhood is currently a huge concern. Ten

is the

> new fifteen and eight is the new thirteen. Girls are dressing

and acting

> older than ever before. They move from toys to boys in the blink

of an

> eye. Not only are girls worried about how they look and dress at

an

> early age many are concerned about their body image

>

> >>>>Read More..

> <http://www.womenbrands.com/parenting/girls-are-growing-up-too-

fast.htm>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I agree with all of your comments and have tried diligently not to

raise my children with fear because it limits them from learning. I

have talked and preached about the safety of network social sites,

placed parental controls on the tv and internet, but there is always

a childs curiosity that detracts them from what they know they

shouldnt be doing.

I found an internet monitor software program called Spector Pro.

For those of you who do not have your computer in a designated area

you may want to look at eBlaster spy software.. . it automatically

records everything they do on the internet. You have an option in

placing it in stealth mode.

No matter how much you preach, how smart your child is, there is a

possibility your child may come in contact with someone they think

is their friend and get into trouble. Corporations have been

downloading these spy software programs for their own employees b/c

they want work production, not personal time spent on the computer.

I have four children ranging in age from 19 to 10. There is no clear

cut answer for each one of them but I try to limit the amount of

time spent on tv and computers. I still need to find a way to put a

time limit on AOL aim which has been causing some serious problems.

My 17 year old had been having conversations with a supposedly 19

year old male for the past 6 months. . . she thought he was a

friend of a friend, but come to find out no one has actually

physically met this boy and I cant get any information from the cell

phone company or florist (he sent flowers on Valentines Day)because

there is no criminal investigation . . . it seems a crime has to be

committed before the police can be involved and you have to tell

your child to stop all contact with this " friend " because he may be

a predator . . . Who do you think she believes?

I contacted myspace and facebook regarding this boy and they are

evaluating his accounts . . . I would like to talk to the ex-

girlfriends mother but have no way of reaching her without becoming

a stalker myself. She suposedly lives an hour away.

I think Iming, text messaging and social networking websites are

turning our children into socially inept young adults. It is not

allowing our children to communicate face to face. How many of you

are seeing this too?

How do you know the person Iming or texting is really " Joe " . I

guess I'm showing my age, but keeping kids busy and out of the house

seems to be the only solution to keep them off the computer for

entertainment. And talking to kids helps, but after awhile the kids

tune their parents out especially during high school years. Ive

told them if you dont want your conversations on the front page of

the New York times, dont put it on the computer. They just dont get

it!

all the best,

Joanne