Re: Potty Training Issues

February 26, 2007

I think that we need to teach our kids the right thing! I am starting

on potty-training my girl who just turned 2! SHe loves the real

potty right now as well; we have one that snaps on the potty plus one

on the floor. SHe has her own step stool. She was scared the first

she saw her shit but they will get over it. Our biggest thing right

now is tissue paper using to much and making a mess wih unrolling the

paper! Good luck all!

Barb

>

> Hey all. My 3yr old (apraxic w/ sensory issues) initiated potty

training almost a year ago. One night he just walked over to the

toddler potty in the living room, pulled down his pants and stood

there and peed into the pot like a pro. I was astonished. So, we

began the potty training process. He was very cooperative with being

taken to the potty (he preferred the real potty) but after a few

months, he started balking. He continues to do so. Now, he doesn't

even tell me when he's wet or dirty (even in cotton pants). He just

doesn't seem to care. I will say that he seems to be going through

the " terrible two's " right now and is not near as compliant and

cooperative as he used to be-which is actually a good sign I think

but it's making potty training impossible! I've just totally laid

off because I didn't want to make it a battle and because he's got so

much on his plate right now-OT and ST each twice/week and preschool 4

times/week. So we're on the go a lot. He's

> doing fabulous with his speech and other issues so I just laid off

giving him (and me)anything else to worry about but I'm a little

concerned. He'll be 3 1/2 in March and most of my friends have kids

who are his age and younger who are potty trained. Am I doing the

right thing or should I push him a little. If so, how?

>

February 26, 2007

Hi! I just wanted to say that my typically developing, extremely verbal

4 year old potty trained in almost exaxtly the same way you are

describing. At about 20 mos, she took her diaper off and went in the

potty. For a while she did very well, but then she began resisting

potty trips, no matter where we put the potty. Well, two and a half

years later, she has just begun being dry all day long. She still has

accidents occasionally, especially if she is very tired or very busy

playing. And we haven't even begun overnight training. The good news

is it will happen. I did the same thing you are doing and tried to not

let it bother me. I even put her back in diapers after she had been

out for almost a year because the accidents were so frequent. It

really did seem to help when I started just letting her deal with it

and not letting it bother me. Hope this helps.

Meilani

Mom to Nick (5), Molly (4), and Owen (almost 2 apraxia?)

February 26, 2007

hello my son is 4 1/2 he will be 5 in august 7th 07 and he in 2nd year in

preschool and he not potty train at all there has been a few mornings that his

pull up have been dry but i have tryed to put him in under wear thomas the

tank and told him if he needs to go potty and if he pottys in his under wear

thomas will get mad at him and he will cry and it didnt face him a bit he wet in

his underwear and he just started talking about 2 months ago

april / mark jr

Sherry <houndog3_1@...> wrote:

Hey all. My 3yr old (apraxic w/ sensory issues) initiated potty

training almost a year ago. One night he just walked over to the toddler potty

in the living room, pulled down his pants and stood there and peed into the pot

like a pro. I was astonished. So, we began the potty training process. He was

very cooperative with being taken to the potty (he preferred the real potty) but

after a few months, he started balking. He continues to do so. Now, he doesn't

even tell me when he's wet or dirty (even in cotton pants). He just doesn't seem

to care. I will say that he seems to be going through the " terrible two's " right

now and is not near as compliant and cooperative as he used to be-which is

actually a good sign I think but it's making potty training impossible! I've

just totally laid off because I didn't want to make it a battle and because he's

got so much on his plate right now-OT and ST each twice/week and preschool 4

times/week. So we're on the go a lot. He's

doing fabulous with his speech and other issues so I just laid off giving him

(and me)anything else to worry about but I'm a little concerned. He'll be 3 1/2

in March and most of my friends have kids who are his age and younger who are

potty trained. Am I doing the right thing or should I push him a little. If so,

how?

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February 26, 2007

I'm not sure what this means ...teach our kids the right thing? I

think that the right thing is to gauge where your individual child is

at. They are all different, especially with potty training. My first

daughter was very ready and completely potty trained at two years old.

Whew, did I feel like a pro. Until my second daughter was not at all

ready at 2 and was actually three and a half, with accidents for a

good year after that. My son, my apraxic child, will be 5 in June and

is finally potty trained as of a couple months ago.

So, there is no absolute for every child and making them fit into a

mold is just not going to happen. You can try, but well...it's futile.

It is frustrating and feels like it will never end. And sometimes it

feels like they are able to do it but just refuse. Well, it's up to

you to pay attention and decide what is what and take it day by day.

And know, it will come out alright eventually. Only you can tell where

your child is at with this issue. Sure there are great tricks, tips

and advice. But, when the brain and the bladder are in sync..there it

will be and there is no magic number (age) for all kids.

Good luck

> >

> > Hey all. My 3yr old (apraxic w/ sensory issues) initiated potty

> training almost a year ago. One night he just walked over to the

> toddler potty in the living room, pulled down his pants and stood

> there and peed into the pot like a pro. I was astonished. So, we

> began the potty training process. He was very cooperative with being

> taken to the potty (he preferred the real potty) but after a few

> months, he started balking. He continues to do so. Now, he doesn't

> even tell me when he's wet or dirty (even in cotton pants). He just

> doesn't seem to care. I will say that he seems to be going through

> the " terrible two's " right now and is not near as compliant and

> cooperative as he used to be-which is actually a good sign I think

> but it's making potty training impossible! I've just totally laid

> off because I didn't want to make it a battle and because he's got so

> much on his plate right now-OT and ST each twice/week and preschool 4

> times/week. So we're on the go a lot. He's

> > doing fabulous with his speech and other issues so I just laid off

> giving him (and me)anything else to worry about but I'm a little

> concerned. He'll be 3 1/2 in March and most of my friends have kids

> who are his age and younger who are potty trained. Am I doing the

> right thing or should I push him a little. If so, how?

> >

>

February 26, 2007

All of mine trained early. I had one who fought me tooth and nail on

the process. One that was trying to out do his sister and didn't want

to be left behind. And the third was equally as independent and

strong willed as the first and also didn't want to be out done by the

first two so even at my best attempts she did it on her own. I

believe in training early. My sister-in law did it all opposite and

all of hers trained close to age 4 when they could say " I'm ready for

underwear Mom. " I believe it's whatever you as a Mom are ok with.

And the personality of the child not to mention if there are sensory

issues play such a big role. My children are strong willed in

everything. My nephews are laid back. My youngest was almost

offended to have pee and poop on her. I couldn't keep her in diapers.

Go figure. I've heard of other children at age 4 with sensory

problems that really have no idea what is happening with their bodies.

The best thing is not to let anyone tell you there is one right way.

You and your child will find your way. And some days, life is so

full, the last thing to worry about is whether or not you're doing

toilet training right or not. You are good mother because you are

concerned. I think it's good to encourage our children to move past

their fears and overcome these hurdles/milestones, seeing that we are

the parents; but don't gauge your parenthood on it. You are a good

parent. Tara

February 26, 2007

Well, a famous saying my friend has is that she has yet to see a

groom walk down the aisle in a diaper. That said, most gentlemen that

are wearing diapers in their twenties are not going to walk down the

aisle - so it was never a calming aphorism to me.

My son is 5.5 years and just got the potty thing down. We didn't work

on it until after he was five because we didn't have a strong way to

communicate with him until last spring. He also did not have the

focus. He has such a hard time with anything that involves motor

planning (did not walk until 3.5 years) and has very low tone (so we

are still very involved in the potty process of helping with pants up

and down and getting on and off potty). We just did not sweat the

fact that he was not potty trained - there were always bigger

elephants to slay. Ironically, we started training his two year old

sister at the same time and I think that really helped understand

that this is something everyone has to learn and that everyone has

problems mastering. If you have other things you are working on and

you are always on the go - it may not be the right time. There is no

rule book on potty training our kids. You do what is right for your

family. We had to spend a lot of time for six weeks in the house or

close to home while he learned. Now we are free!!

It also needs to be said that whatever school your child is in needs

to be totally consistent with whatever approach you are using to

potty training. If they aren't then you shouldn't start training

until they can follow through. At Carson's school they were pottying

him every fifteen minutes for two hour periods of time. That is a

serious committment to potty training for a school.

Best of luck,