Advice please!

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Hi everyone

I`ve been reading the emails for years but never needed any input

until now so hoping someone has some similar stories to tell.

My husband was diagnosed with MS a couple of years ago -

been on 4.5 mg for over a year and a half now with no problems and

the most recent MRI was good - showed no progression and even some

lesions " gone " . He has never taken any CRAB drugs and has only

every used LDN.

He has never had much in the way of impairments apart from fatigue -

his first sign of MS was Nystagmus which comes back VERY

occasionally when he`s sick or very stressed.

He works as a stone mason every day and has never had to take a day

off due to the MS. But as a result of working physically he gets a

lot of aches and pains and sore muscles etc. I treated him to a

session of acupucture for his 45th birthday recently and he loved it

and so continued to go twice a month. On his third visit the

practitioner hit a nerve on his arm with a needle and he said the

pain was awful and it hurt for a couple of days after that. Then

for the first time ever he experienced numbness. From his waist

down to his feet although it seems to be just the front of his

body. He can still walk (he always has a slight balance problem)

and feel (I pinched him with his eyes shut!) but he said it feels

like when you get a shot at the dentist and it`s just starting to

wear off.

Been that way for a couple of weeks now. Needless to say he is not

returning to the acupucturist. Has anyone had acupucture before and

has any similar experiences? We are hoping somehow the treatment

triggered the numbless especially since a nerve was hit. It would

be very disappointing to think he is showing signs of progression as

he was doing so well and will in fact be part of the official trial

when it gets going at UCSF in the new year.

Sorry for the long winded post but thought some background info

might

be helpful.

Any input would be welcome.

Thanks!

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He really needs to be in contact with that acupuncturist for advice on reversal of the condition.

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Been that way for a couple of weeks now. Needless to say he is not returning to the acupucturist. Has anyone had acupucture before and has any similar experiences? We are hoping somehow the treatment triggered the numbless especially since a nerve was hit. It would be very disappointing to think he is showing signs of progression as he was doing so well and will in fact be part of the official trial when it gets going at UCSF in the new year.Sorry for the long winded post but thought some background info might be helpful.Any input would be welcome.Thanks!

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I am mobile with a walker. I went for ,one acupuncture visit about 5 months ago. One needle in the web between thumb and index finger, left my thumb twitching most of the day so I didn't go back. The twitching lasted 3 or 4 weeks. That's all that was affected gppd or bad.Big Al  On Nov 27, 2006, at 10:59 AM, cat707k wrote:0Hi everyoneI`ve been reading the emails for years but never needed any input until now so hoping someone has some similar stories to tell.My husband was diagnosed with MS a couple of years ago - been on 4.5 mg for over a year and a half now with no problems and the most recent MRI was good - showed no progression and even some lesions "gone". He has never taken any CRAB drugs and has only every used LDN.He has never had much in the way of impairments apart from fatigue - his first sign of MS was Nystagmus which comes back VERY occasionally when he`s sick or very stressed.He works as a stone mason every day and has never had to take a day off due to the MS. But as a result of working physically he gets a lot of aches and pains and sore muscles etc. I treated him to a session of acupucture for his 45th birthday recently and he loved it and so continued to go twice a month. On his third visit the practitioner hit a nerve on his arm with a needle and he said the pain was awful and it hurt for a couple of days after that. Then for the first time ever he experienced numbness. From his waist down to his feet although it seems to be just the front of his body. He can still walk (he always has a slight balance problem) and feel (I pinched him with his eyes shut!) but he said it feels like when you get a shot at the dentist and it`s just starting to wear off.Been that way for a couple of weeks now. Needless to say he is not returning to the acupucturist. Has anyone had acupucture before and has any similar experiences? We are hoping somehow the treatment triggered the numbless especially since a nerve was hit. It would be very disappointing to think he is showing signs of progression as he was doing so well and will in fact be part of the official trial when it gets going at UCSF in the new year.Sorry for the long winded post but thought some background info might be helpful.Any input would be welcome.Thanks!

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I have been going for accupuncture weekly for almost 3 yrs. When he hits a nerve which is rarely, it feels like a burning sensation. He pulls the needle out and it stops almost immediately. I don't know how it would continue to hurt, but I will ask my accupuncturist when he gets back from vacation. So sorry this happened to your husband.

PS..I love you name Doofus.

Kiki

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NO!!!! The little girl needs to be taught how to act with your son, what to do, what NOT to do around him; if she is going to hit, he will too. Spit, he'll spit back; my five year old has learned to not participate with our just turned 7 year old AS; the 5 year old NT is now tattling on the 7 year old and he knows it is NOT TATTLING in this case, it is keeping his brother safe and from damaging more things we own; he is doing a great job; he (5 year old) gets rewards for doing the right thing to support the 7 year old.............the girl is as much to blame; she broke the rules / your son cannot handle them being broken 'cuz rules are rules. He hit back, she should not have hit to start with, so they are both at 'fault.' The girl started it though. No one should be mad at anyone, as they are related and KNOW your son, so I would have them get over it already.

As for discipline, NONE, but you talk about it, give him a 'corrected' version in his book of rules / how to handle when things not go his way, social story perhaps and teach him what TO DO RIGHT and different next time...........give him the TOOLS!!!

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From: mom2two23@...Date: Wed, 28 May 2008 17:16:28 +0000Subject: ( ) advice please!

How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and will hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the pool water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her because she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell in his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard as he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head on a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head. Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad at his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have known that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three he is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she knows how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my son and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in law and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone up but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to feel this way? Stacey

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>

> How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and

will

> hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the

pool

> water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her

because

> she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell

in

> his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard

as

> he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head

on

> a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head.

>

> Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what

> kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him

> understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad

at

> his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have known

> that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three

he

> is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she

knows

> how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and

> gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my

son

> and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in

law

> and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on

> him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone

up

> but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At

> least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to

feel

> this way? Stacey

>

I have just put in a similiar question as didn't see this one. My son

is 7 and has violent outbursts. He has hit,kicked,bitten and shoved

me and left marks. He hits other children less but still can. As soon

as he gets frustrated which can be over something that appears

minor,he loses the plot and sets out to hurt. He is very sorry

afterwards. We did try all the punishments and he got more angry and

hated himself and the world. Now I try and restrain him but after he

has apologised for ages and is upset at what he did it seems

pointless to punish but it can be hard as sometimes I feel very upset

with him afterwards.

When he has hit other children it can get very hard. Their parents

don't care he has aspergers or see it as an excuse and I have been

threatened in the playground. I have also had trouble with neighbours

or some mums saying he can't play with their children after an

incident and my son is devestated. It is very hard on both of us. I

would say my mood revolves around my son's behaviour. I agree it can

be awful and impossible to know what to do about it.

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medication has helped my son. Geodon, ask your doctor about it.

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>> How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and will > hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the pool > water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her because > she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell in > his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard as > he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head on > a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head. > > Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what > kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him >

understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad at > his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have known > that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three he > is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she knows > how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and > gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my son > and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in law > and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on > him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone up > but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At > least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to feel > this way? Stacey>I have just put in a similiar question as didn't see this

one. My son is 7 and has violent outbursts. He has hit,kicked,bitten and shoved me and left marks. He hits other children less but still can. As soon as he gets frustrated which can be over something that appears minor,he loses the plot and sets out to hurt. He is very sorry afterwards. We did try all the punishments and he got more angry and hated himself and the world. Now I try and restrain him but after he has apologised for ages and is upset at what he did it seems pointless to punish but it can be hard as sometimes I feel very upset with him afterwards.When he has hit other children it can get very hard. Their parents don't care he has aspergers or see it as an excuse and I have been threatened in the playground. I have also had trouble with neighbours or some mums saying he can't play with their children after an incident and my son is devestated. It is very hard on both of us. I would

say my mood revolves around my son's behaviour. I agree it can be awful and impossible to know what to do about it.

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Teach him how to calm himself down when he gets upset. I know it's easier said than done! But it can be done and practiced until he can manage his anger better. One thing we did was teach our ds "Use your self control." He had to sit on his hands for the count of ten. We did this when he was not upset to practice. Then when he was getting out of hand and upset, we would cue him, "Use your self control" and help him to sit and count to ten.

Figure out something that might work with your ds and then practice it and cue him, whatever it is that works. Eventually, he's doing to start using it if you work at it.

RoxannaAutism Happens

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>> How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and will > hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the pool > water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her because > she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell in > his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard as > he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head on > a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head. > > Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what > kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him > understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad at > his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have known > that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three he > is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she knows > how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and > gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my son > and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in law > and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on > him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone up > but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At > least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to feel > this way? Stacey>I have just put in a similiar question as didn't see this one. My son is 7 and has violent outbursts. He has hit,kicked,bitten and shoved me and left marks. He hits other children less but still can. As soon as he gets frustrated which can be over something that appears minor,he loses the plot and sets out to hurt. He is very sorry afterwards. We did try all the punishments and he got more angry and hated himself and the world. Now I try and restrain him but after he has apologised for ages and is upset at what he did it seems pointless to punish but it can be hard as sometimes I feel very upset with him afterwards.When he has hit other children it can get very hard. Their parents don't care he has aspergers or see it as an excuse and I have been threatened in the playground. I have also had trouble with neighbours or some mums saying he can't play with their children after an incident and my son is devestated. It is very hard on both of us. I would say my mood revolves around my son's behaviour. I agree it can be awful and impossible to know what to do about it.

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Roxanna, this is good. What other advice can you give us for self

calming down. All I know is my mother's stand by phrase, " take a deep

breath! " DS is 23, but still has bouts of anger. Probably sometimes

justified, but it's the handling of the situation when he's angry. So

any thing else you know...send it on.

sue

> >

> > How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad

and

> will

> > hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the

> pool

> > water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her

> because

> > she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to

yell

> in

> > his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as

hard

> as

> > he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her

head

> on

> > a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her

head.

> >

> > Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but

what

> > kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him

> > understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be

mad

> at

> > his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have

known

> > that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was

three

> he

> > is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she

> knows

> > how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him

and

> > gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for

my

> son

> > and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister

in

> law

> > and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame

on

> > him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating

everyone

> up

> > but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise

choice. At

> > least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to

> feel

> > this way? Stacey

> >

> I have just put in a similiar question as didn't see this one. My

son

> is 7 and has violent outbursts. He has hit,kicked,bitten and

shoved

> me and left marks. He hits other children less but still can. As

soon

> as he gets frustrated which can be over something that appears

> minor,he loses the plot and sets out to hurt. He is very sorry

> afterwards. We did try all the punishments and he got more angry

and

> hated himself and the world. Now I try and restrain him but after

he

> has apologised for ages and is upset at what he did it seems

> pointless to punish but it can be hard as sometimes I feel very

upset

> with him afterwards.

> When he has hit other children it can get very hard. Their

parents

> don't care he has aspergers or see it as an excuse and I have

been

> threatened in the playground. I have also had trouble with

neighbours

> or some mums saying he can't play with their children after an

> incident and my son is devestated. It is very hard on both of us.

I

> would say my mood revolves around my son's behaviour. I agree it

can

> be awful and impossible to know what to do about it.

>

>

>

>

>

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I just remembered something I had heard about explaining deep breathing to a child....

You can make cue cards....and have them

-Smell the cake (or brownie)

then

-Blow out the candles

Makes sense and easy to understand!

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Roxanna, this is good. What other advice can you give us for self calming down. All I know is my mother's stand by phrase, "take a deep breath!" DS is 23, but still has bouts of anger. Probably sometimes justified, but it's the handling of the situation when he's angry. So any thing else you know...send it on.sue> >> > How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and > will > > hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the > pool > > water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her > because > > she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell > in > > his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard > as > > he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head > on > > a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head. > > > > Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what > > kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him > > understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad > at > > his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have known > > that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three > he > > is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she > knows > > how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and > > gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my > son > > and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in > law > > and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on > > him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone > up > > but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At > > least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to > feel > > this way? Stacey> >> I have just put in a similiar question as didn't see this one. My son > is 7 and has violent outbursts. He has hit,kicked,bitten and shoved > me and left marks. He hits other children less but still can. As soon > as he gets frustrated which can be over something that appears > minor,he loses the plot and sets out to hurt. He is very sorry > afterwards. We did try all the punishments and he got more angry and > hated himself and the world. Now I try and restrain him but after he > has apologised for ages and is upset at what he did it seems > pointless to punish but it can be hard as sometimes I feel very upset > with him afterwards.> When he has hit other children it can get very hard. Their parents > don't care he has aspergers or see it as an excuse and I have been > threatened in the playground. I have also had trouble with neighbours > or some mums saying he can't play with their children after an > incident and my son is devestated. It is very hard on both of us. I > would say my mood revolves around my son's behaviour. I agree it can > be awful and impossible to know what to do about it.> > > > > > > --------------------------------------------------------------------> > > > No virus found in this incoming message.> Checked by AVG. > Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 269.24.4/1475 - Release Date: 5/30/2008 2:53 PM>

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"How Does Your Engeine Run" is a self regulartory program. OT's teach this program in small groups. Suppose to work for all age groups.

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Roxanna, this is good. What other advice can you give us for self calming down. All I know is my mother's stand by phrase, "take a deep breath!" DS is 23, but still has bouts of anger. Probably sometimes justified, but it's the handling of the situation when he's angry. So any thing else you know...send it on.sue> >>

> How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and > will > > hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the > pool > > water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her > because > > she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell > in > > his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard > as > > he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head > on > > a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head. > > > > Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what > > kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him > > understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad > at > > his cousin and place some of the blame

on her? I mean we have known > > that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three > he > > is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she > knows > > how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and > > gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my > son > > and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in > law > > and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on > > him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone > up > > but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At > > least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to > feel > > this way? Stacey> >> I have just put in a similiar question as didn't see this

one. My son > is 7 and has violent outbursts. He has hit,kicked,bitten and shoved > me and left marks. He hits other children less but still can. As soon > as he gets frustrated which can be over something that appears > minor,he loses the plot and sets out to hurt. He is very sorry > afterwards. We did try all the punishments and he got more angry and > hated himself and the world. Now I try and restrain him but after he > has apologised for ages and is upset at what he did it seems > pointless to punish but it can be hard as sometimes I feel very upset > with him afterwards.> When he has hit other children it can get very hard. Their parents > don't care he has aspergers or see it as an excuse and I have been > threatened in the playground. I have also had trouble with neighbours > or some mums saying he can't play with their

children after an > incident and my son is devestated. It is very hard on both of us. I > would say my mood revolves around my son's behaviour. I agree it can > be awful and impossible to know what to do about it.> > > > > > > ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -----------> > > > No virus found in this incoming message.> Checked by AVG. > Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 269.24.4/1475 - Release Date: 5/30/2008 2:53 PM>

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It is part her fault too but unfortunately, they are such little kids that they can't control themselves. I would just say you should keep an adult nearby them at all times so you can intervene before the shoving starts. That is the best way to teach better behaviors.

RoxannaAutism Happens

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How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and will hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the pool water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her because she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell in his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard as he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head on a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head. Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad at his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have known that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three he is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she knows how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my son and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in law and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone up but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to feel this way? Stacey

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I would try to think of ways that you can see he calms down and use that to your advantage - teaching him how to go there when out of control - like shoot 10 baskets or run around the block twice or take the dog for a walk. I guess it depends on the child. Some can go to a quiet area set up for when they are stressed out filled with books or MP3 player or some squishies for the hands. You could have a hammock chair set up for sitting and spinning if that calms him, or a bean bag chair. Of course, those things can't be used if he gets mad in the middle of Walmart. Then your mom's idea is better as it is something he can do anywhere. I think that is why the behavior guy picked having our ds sit on his hands while counting to ten - it was "portable." <g> It is not something he likes doing either so just saying, "Do you need to practice your self control?" can prevent him from escalating. He was always pretty good at school but hyper - so he could get wound up fast.

RoxannaAutism Happens

( ) Re: advice please!

Roxanna, this is good. What other advice can you give us for self calming down. All I know is my mother's stand by phrase, "take a deep breath!" DS is 23, but still has bouts of anger. Probably sometimes justified, but it's the handling of the situation when he's angry. So any thing else you know...send it on.sue> >> > How do you deal with an AS child who is violent? DS gets mad and > will > > hit before he thinks. Yesterday his cousin was playing with the > pool > > water which she shouldn't have been anyway. He got mad at her > because > > she got water on his shoe and he shoved her. She proceded to yell > in > > his face and repeativly shove him back. He then shoved her as hard > as > > he could to get her away from him. By doing this she hit her head > on > > a wooden post that left a huge goose-egg on the side of her head. > > > > Now I know that my son didn't mean to hurt her like that but what > > kind of punishment should have been done to him to help him > > understand that what he did wasn't okay? Am I wrong to also be mad > at > > his cousin and place some of the blame on her? I mean we have known > > that my son has problems and violent tendicies since he was three > he > > is now six. These two are only a year apart. So obiviously she > knows > > how he acts. I just think that she shouldn't have shoved him and > > gotten into his face. I think those actions made it worse for my > son > > and that's why he pushed her as hard as he did. Now my sister in > law > > and mother in law aren't really mad at him but place all blame on > > him. I'm not saying that my son should go around beating everyone > up > > but I don't think allowing her to hit him back is a wise choice. At > > least not until we can get him some further help. Am I wrong to > feel > > this way? Stacey> >> I have just put in a similiar question as didn't see this one. My son > is 7 and has violent outbursts. He has hit,kicked,bitten and shoved > me and left marks. He hits other children less but still can. As soon > as he gets frustrated which can be over something that appears > minor,he loses the plot and sets out to hurt. He is very sorry > afterwards. We did try all the punishments and he got more angry and > hated himself and the world. Now I try and restrain him but after he > has apologised for ages and is upset at what he did it seems > pointless to punish but it can be hard as sometimes I feel very upset > with him afterwards.> When he has hit other children it can get very hard. Their parents > don't care he has aspergers or see it as an excuse and I have been > threatened in the playground. I have also had trouble with neighbours > or some mums saying he can't play with their children after an > incident and my son is devestated. It is very hard on both of us. I > would say my mood revolves around my son's behaviour. I agree it can > be awful and impossible to know what to do about it.> > > > > > > --------------------------------------------------------------------> > > > No virus found in this incoming message.> Checked by AVG. > Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 269.24.4/1475 - Release Date: 5/30/2008 2:53 PM>

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