Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Dear a C. It is so sad when we lose someone we love to their own destructive behavior......I had a dear friend, who also happened to be "My wife- in- law." .....Who "self - medicated "herself to death. She had bipolar disorder, and drank a 12 pack of beer a day on top of the medications prescribed for her illness......She died last year of cirhosis (sp?) of the liver. But we lost the lovely person she was .....long before she passed......to her destructive behavoir. C. Re: a Z Yes Carla Sue has gone VERY backwards. Her DR is giving her big bottles of vicadin again as well as the strongest durogesic patch and whatever pain meds her rhuemy gives her. She stole the money that her room mate was going to pay that he owed her. She showed up on my door last week without calling and upset VERY much. It has been seven months since she has seen him and he has so many bad feelings right now that we had sent him to a friends house the one day she called that she was coming over. I guess she caught on so she didn't warn us ahead of time. She is going to therapy for herself and the lady told her to make some appointments for Matt but she wont do it. I guess she doesn't want the therapist to hear what Matt will say. Anyway, she has gone all the way back to where she was when we took him and it doesn't look like he will be going home any time soon.Thanks for asking!a How is Carla Sue doing? I thought I saw where you said she has gone backwards again. "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Dear a C. It is so sad when we lose someone we love to their own destructive behavior......I had a dear friend, who also happened to be "My wife- in- law." .....Who "self - medicated "herself to death. She had bipolar disorder, and drank a 12 pack of beer a day on top of the medications prescribed for her illness......She died last year of cirhosis (sp?) of the liver. But we lost the lovely person she was .....long before she passed......to her destructive behavoir. C. Re: a Z Yes Carla Sue has gone VERY backwards. Her DR is giving her big bottles of vicadin again as well as the strongest durogesic patch and whatever pain meds her rhuemy gives her. She stole the money that her room mate was going to pay that he owed her. She showed up on my door last week without calling and upset VERY much. It has been seven months since she has seen him and he has so many bad feelings right now that we had sent him to a friends house the one day she called that she was coming over. I guess she caught on so she didn't warn us ahead of time. She is going to therapy for herself and the lady told her to make some appointments for Matt but she wont do it. I guess she doesn't want the therapist to hear what Matt will say. Anyway, she has gone all the way back to where she was when we took him and it doesn't look like he will be going home any time soon.Thanks for asking!a How is Carla Sue doing? I thought I saw where you said she has gone backwards again. "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 You are exactly right , I lost my sister long ago. Now I am just trying to salvage what is left of her relationship with her son, I just don't know how. a But we lost the lovely person she was .....long before she passed......to her destructive behavoir. C. ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 You are exactly right , I lost my sister long ago. Now I am just trying to salvage what is left of her relationship with her son, I just don't know how. a But we lost the lovely person she was .....long before she passed......to her destructive behavoir. C. ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 You are exactly right , I lost my sister long ago. Now I am just trying to salvage what is left of her relationship with her son, I just don't know how. a But we lost the lovely person she was .....long before she passed......to her destructive behavoir. C. ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2004 Report Share Posted July 10, 2004 I'm really sorry to hear all that about Carla Sue. She was always such a good and nice person. I hope some day she realizes what she is doing and can get the help she needs and sticks with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2004 Report Share Posted July 10, 2004 a Z., Hi, honey. Sometimes, you can't fix things. Sometimes, you have to let go and let God. I know, because that's how it is with my eldest son and daughter. I have had to cut off all contact with my daughter and my two youngest sons, and I only see her once or twice a year by myself. I cannot have contact with her children, nor can she or her children have contact with my kids. She made that impossible by her own actions, and yet, she can't see that she did anything to make this all happen. She probably never will. My next younger sister in age to me, Kathy, has taken her part in this, and can't understand why I won't "come around", and keeps trying to force "surprise" reconciliations which I have managed, so far, to avoid. Niether of them get it that to have any contact between the kids at all, or with her kids and me, is leaving us all wide open to further trouble from the authorities if they make any more false accusations against any one or all of us regarding inappropriate touching of her kids. I pray for them every day, send gifts at appropriate times, and keep in touch by phone when necessary. My eldest son, diagnosed as a sociopath, wants no contact at this time, so I keep enough life insurance on him to bury him if anything happens, and pray a lot for him, too. It is too frustrating to know that I can't fix either one of them, or help them on in life, but I must console myself with what little I CAN do, and let go and let God. Best advice I was ever given. Hope it helps you a little, too. Love you, honey, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2004 Report Share Posted July 10, 2004 a Z., Hi, honey. Sometimes, you can't fix things. Sometimes, you have to let go and let God. I know, because that's how it is with my eldest son and daughter. I have had to cut off all contact with my daughter and my two youngest sons, and I only see her once or twice a year by myself. I cannot have contact with her children, nor can she or her children have contact with my kids. She made that impossible by her own actions, and yet, she can't see that she did anything to make this all happen. She probably never will. My next younger sister in age to me, Kathy, has taken her part in this, and can't understand why I won't "come around", and keeps trying to force "surprise" reconciliations which I have managed, so far, to avoid. Niether of them get it that to have any contact between the kids at all, or with her kids and me, is leaving us all wide open to further trouble from the authorities if they make any more false accusations against any one or all of us regarding inappropriate touching of her kids. I pray for them every day, send gifts at appropriate times, and keep in touch by phone when necessary. My eldest son, diagnosed as a sociopath, wants no contact at this time, so I keep enough life insurance on him to bury him if anything happens, and pray a lot for him, too. It is too frustrating to know that I can't fix either one of them, or help them on in life, but I must console myself with what little I CAN do, and let go and let God. Best advice I was ever given. Hope it helps you a little, too. Love you, honey, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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