Re: Have baby now or surgery now??

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I'm a hippy (surgery planned for Aug 11th w/ Dr s in Baltimore)

and nurse-midwife. You may want to consider a modern, high-tech

option: If you delay having a baby now, why not consider having some

of your 37 yr old " eggs " put in storage to use with inVitro

fertilization? I don't know if this is financially feasible in the

UK. If you wait, you'll be very close to 40 when you give birth to

the baby. Adding the worry of chromosomal problems due to " advance

maternal age " may be quite a stress in and of itself.

On the other hand, when women are pregnant, they have very high

circulating levels of Estrogen & Progesterone. These can function as

steroids in body and reduce inflammatory responses, almost like

Prednisone. If you don't gain an excessive amount of weight (try to

keep it under 25 lbs) you may not experience as much pain as you might

anticipate. The postpartum time may be physically difficult because

of rapidly dropping hormones (sometimes inducing those famous " baby

blues " ). Since you will be unable to exercise much, your muscle

strength may be quite compromised at this time.

It will be much more complicated to recover from such an invasive

surgery if you have a toddler who you can't chase. I think I would

personally choses to postpone the baby and look forward to how well

you will feel when you eventually do have a later in life baby. Your

older child will be much better able to handle your recovery without

the competition of a new baby.

You need to do whatever feels right....I don't know about you, but in

my debilitated state, I feel much more vulnerable and unable to run

after a young child, etc.

I hope I haven't raised more questions than I have answered.

Sincerely,

Marie

> I have just been told by my GP that I have advanced hip

> degeneration - somewhat a surprise after only 1 month of hip pain

> (15 years of back pain though- I guess it was referred!!) He has

> suggested resurfacing and has said it's up to me when I get it done.

>

> I am 37 and not in enormous pain but the discomfort is there all the

> time. It occasionally wakes me at night and I have a 3 year old

> child and it can be tough coping with her needs.

>

> My husband and I were planning on having a 2nd baby this year. We

> are trying to decide should go for the baby and have to cope without

> pain killers and surgery for some months, or should I get the

> surgery done and then try for a baby later.

>

> Has anyone else had to make this kind of decision? Would

> labour/pregnancy be problematic after resurfacing ? I know that my

> reduced range of movement in my hip currently might make standard

> labour difficult!

>

> Also, my GP has offered to refer me to McMinn in Birmingham,

> UK , however, there are surgeons closer who offer the operation.

> Should I travel or can anyone recommend someone good near Bagshot in

> Surrey.

>

> thanks

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I'm a hippy (surgery planned for Aug 11th w/ Dr s in Baltimore)

and nurse-midwife. You may want to consider a modern, high-tech

option: If you delay having a baby now, why not consider having some

of your 37 yr old " eggs " put in storage to use with inVitro

fertilization? I don't know if this is financially feasible in the

UK. If you wait, you'll be very close to 40 when you give birth to

the baby. Adding the worry of chromosomal problems due to " advance

maternal age " may be quite a stress in and of itself.

On the other hand, when women are pregnant, they have very high

circulating levels of Estrogen & Progesterone. These can function as

steroids in body and reduce inflammatory responses, almost like

Prednisone. If you don't gain an excessive amount of weight (try to

keep it under 25 lbs) you may not experience as much pain as you might

anticipate. The postpartum time may be physically difficult because

of rapidly dropping hormones (sometimes inducing those famous " baby

blues " ). Since you will be unable to exercise much, your muscle

strength may be quite compromised at this time.

It will be much more complicated to recover from such an invasive

surgery if you have a toddler who you can't chase. I think I would

personally choses to postpone the baby and look forward to how well

you will feel when you eventually do have a later in life baby. Your

older child will be much better able to handle your recovery without

the competition of a new baby.

You need to do whatever feels right....I don't know about you, but in

my debilitated state, I feel much more vulnerable and unable to run

after a young child, etc.

I hope I haven't raised more questions than I have answered.

Sincerely,

Marie

> I have just been told by my GP that I have advanced hip

> degeneration - somewhat a surprise after only 1 month of hip pain

> (15 years of back pain though- I guess it was referred!!) He has

> suggested resurfacing and has said it's up to me when I get it done.

>

> I am 37 and not in enormous pain but the discomfort is there all the

> time. It occasionally wakes me at night and I have a 3 year old

> child and it can be tough coping with her needs.

>

> My husband and I were planning on having a 2nd baby this year. We

> are trying to decide should go for the baby and have to cope without

> pain killers and surgery for some months, or should I get the

> surgery done and then try for a baby later.

>

> Has anyone else had to make this kind of decision? Would

> labour/pregnancy be problematic after resurfacing ? I know that my

> reduced range of movement in my hip currently might make standard

> labour difficult!

>

> Also, my GP has offered to refer me to McMinn in Birmingham,

> UK , however, there are surgeons closer who offer the operation.

> Should I travel or can anyone recommend someone good near Bagshot in

> Surrey.

>

> thanks

[Guest guest]

Dear Marie

Thanks for your advice. I am swaying towards the hip first, baby

later idea. I agree that post-surgery the last thing I really need

is a 3 year old and a new baby to look after, as well as myself !!

It's still tough. Saving eggs and in-vitro is very expensive in the

UK and delaying having my next baby does worry me. I had a number of

miscarriages before I had my first baby, so who knows how long it

might take now.

Good luck with the surgery. I will keenly watch for how things go!

Best wishes

> > I have just been told by my GP that I have advanced hip

> > degeneration - somewhat a surprise after only 1 month of hip

pain

> > (15 years of back pain though- I guess it was referred!!) He has

> > suggested resurfacing and has said it's up to me when I get it

done.

> >

> > I am 37 and not in enormous pain but the discomfort is there all

the

> > time. It occasionally wakes me at night and I have a 3 year old

> > child and it can be tough coping with her needs.

> >

> > My husband and I were planning on having a 2nd baby this year.

We

> > are trying to decide should go for the baby and have to cope

without

> > pain killers and surgery for some months, or should I get the

> > surgery done and then try for a baby later.

> >

> > Has anyone else had to make this kind of decision? Would

> > labour/pregnancy be problematic after resurfacing ? I know that

my

> > reduced range of movement in my hip currently might make

standard

> > labour difficult!

> >

> > Also, my GP has offered to refer me to McMinn in

Birmingham,

> > UK , however, there are surgeons closer who offer the operation.

> > Should I travel or can anyone recommend someone good near

Bagshot in

> > Surrey.

> >

> > thanks

[Guest guest]

Dear Marie

Thanks for your advice. I am swaying towards the hip first, baby

later idea. I agree that post-surgery the last thing I really need

is a 3 year old and a new baby to look after, as well as myself !!

It's still tough. Saving eggs and in-vitro is very expensive in the

UK and delaying having my next baby does worry me. I had a number of

miscarriages before I had my first baby, so who knows how long it

might take now.

Good luck with the surgery. I will keenly watch for how things go!

Best wishes

> > I have just been told by my GP that I have advanced hip

> > degeneration - somewhat a surprise after only 1 month of hip

pain

> > (15 years of back pain though- I guess it was referred!!) He has

> > suggested resurfacing and has said it's up to me when I get it

done.

> >

> > I am 37 and not in enormous pain but the discomfort is there all

the

> > time. It occasionally wakes me at night and I have a 3 year old

> > child and it can be tough coping with her needs.

> >

> > My husband and I were planning on having a 2nd baby this year.

We

> > are trying to decide should go for the baby and have to cope

without

> > pain killers and surgery for some months, or should I get the

> > surgery done and then try for a baby later.

> >

> > Has anyone else had to make this kind of decision? Would

> > labour/pregnancy be problematic after resurfacing ? I know that

my

> > reduced range of movement in my hip currently might make

standard

> > labour difficult!

> >

> > Also, my GP has offered to refer me to McMinn in

Birmingham,

> > UK , however, there are surgeons closer who offer the operation.

> > Should I travel or can anyone recommend someone good near

Bagshot in

> > Surrey.

> >

> > thanks

[Guest guest]

Hey ! I worked for years with developmentally delayed/cerebral

palsied infants and children........my vote is go for the baby now

while you are young! Either way it's going to be a challenge! Of

course it's an immensely personal decision....and be confident that

whatever you go with is the best for you....it's ultimately up to you

and no one knows all the little idiosyncrisies factering into your

decision making! Best of luck. Susie in Memphis

> Thanks for your advice. I am swaying towards the hip first, baby

> later idea. I agree that post-surgery the last thing I really need

> is a 3 year old and a new baby to look after, as well as myself !!

>

> It's still tough. Saving eggs and in-vitro is very expensive in the

> UK and delaying having my next baby does worry me. I had a number

of

> miscarriages before I had my first baby, so who knows how long it

> might take now.

>

> Good luck with the surgery. I will keenly watch for how things go!

>

> Best wishes

>

>

>

> > > I have just been told by my GP that I have advanced hip

> > > degeneration - somewhat a surprise after only 1 month of hip

> pain

> > > (15 years of back pain though- I guess it was referred!!) He

has

> > > suggested resurfacing and has said it's up to me when I get it

> done.

> > >

> > > I am 37 and not in enormous pain but the discomfort is there

all

> the

> > > time. It occasionally wakes me at night and I have a 3 year old

> > > child and it can be tough coping with her needs.

> > >

> > > My husband and I were planning on having a 2nd baby this year.

> We

> > > are trying to decide should go for the baby and have to cope

> without

> > > pain killers and surgery for some months, or should I get the

> > > surgery done and then try for a baby later.

> > >

> > > Has anyone else had to make this kind of decision? Would

> > > labour/pregnancy be problematic after resurfacing ? I know that

> my

> > > reduced range of movement in my hip currently might make

> standard

> > > labour difficult!

> > >

> > > Also, my GP has offered to refer me to McMinn in

> Birmingham,

> > > UK , however, there are surgeons closer who offer the

operation.

> > > Should I travel or can anyone recommend someone good near

> Bagshot in

> > > Surrey.

> > >

> > > thanks

[Guest guest]

Such a personal decision. . . . .

I believe you just never know when & IF you are going to have a bavy. I . .

.. if I were you and could would have my baby first. Then the hip. I was 40

when my hip was injured. . . .I hoped to have a child but over the next 9

years it never worked for me. I had my hip resurfaced last year and at my age

now

will not have a baby. . . . . A baby is such a gift. . . . . . . I spoke

personally with a woman who at the time was in her early 30's who had here

second baby post-hip-resurface. It's all decided from you comfort level I

guess.

Alyce

[Guest guest]

I'm was in a similar position to you, I am 35 and have needed to make

the decision whether to have a baby before or after. I am now 6

weeks post op and have often thought how different it would have been

with a young baby. Although I am doing better than I ever expected I

have still needed a lot of support from my friends and family, I

don't think for the first few months at least you could look after a

baby for any period of time on your own.

I remember a hippy once posting about how on becomming pregnant pre

op she became a lot worse and needed crutches most of her pregnancy

from about 6 weeks in. I've decided to have a baby afterwards and

think I have made the right decision. I don't know how long you will

have to wait but if it is done on the NHS a lot of lists are running

at about 11 months including referral. I deteriorated a lot while I

was on the waiting list so much so I ended up having a ceramic THR,

you could end up running out of time for a resurfacing. I was

advised that if I had a baby pre op that I would need a c section.

Regards

Joy

> I have just been told by my GP that I have advanced hip

> degeneration - somewhat a surprise after only 1 month of hip pain

> (15 years of back pain though- I guess it was referred!!) He has

> suggested resurfacing and has said it's up to me when I get it done.

>

> I am 37 and not in enormous pain but the discomfort is there all

the

> time. It occasionally wakes me at night and I have a 3 year old

> child and it can be tough coping with her needs.

>

> My husband and I were planning on having a 2nd baby this year. We

> are trying to decide should go for the baby and have to cope

without

> pain killers and surgery for some months, or should I get the

> surgery done and then try for a baby later.

>

> Has anyone else had to make this kind of decision? Would

> labour/pregnancy be problematic after resurfacing ? I know that my

> reduced range of movement in my hip currently might make standard

> labour difficult!

>

> Also, my GP has offered to refer me to McMinn in Birmingham,

> UK , however, there are surgeons closer who offer the operation.

> Should I travel or can anyone recommend someone good near Bagshot

in

> Surrey.

>

> thanks

[Guest guest]

Dear Joy,

Thanks, it is good to hear that you are doing well. I have BUPA

cover but there is some question on if my cover is sufficient for

this procedure. I may need to throw in a few hundred £s myself. But

if that means I get the surgery sooner and I can get fit enough to

have my baby before i get too old, then it is worth the money I

guess.

I am also convinced the range of movement in my hip would prohibit a

normal delivery and c-section is best avoided.

Who know, if we both get to have our babies post hip - perhaps we

should set up a surface-hippy babies section of the forum!!

Best wishes

> > I have just been told by my GP that I have advanced hip

> > degeneration - somewhat a surprise after only 1 month of hip

pain

> > (15 years of back pain though- I guess it was referred!!) He has

> > suggested resurfacing and has said it's up to me when I get it

done.

> >

> > I am 37 and not in enormous pain but the discomfort is there all

> the

> > time. It occasionally wakes me at night and I have a 3 year old

> > child and it can be tough coping with her needs.

> >

> > My husband and I were planning on having a 2nd baby this year.

We

> > are trying to decide should go for the baby and have to cope

> without

> > pain killers and surgery for some months, or should I get the

> > surgery done and then try for a baby later.

> >

> > Has anyone else had to make this kind of decision? Would

> > labour/pregnancy be problematic after resurfacing ? I know that

my

> > reduced range of movement in my hip currently might make

standard

> > labour difficult!

> >

> > Also, my GP has offered to refer me to McMinn in

Birmingham,

> > UK , however, there are surgeons closer who offer the operation.

> > Should I travel or can anyone recommend someone good near

Bagshot

> in

> > Surrey.

> >

> > thanks