Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 Dear Liney: There is a well-known psychological phenomenon called " fear of success " . The only known cure for this is to succeed. I had hip pain for almost as long as you - about 27 years - except mine started when I was about 20. If the pain is bad enough, you won't need much convincing. When I had my surgery, I didn't give a second thought to the cutting part. I focused on the fact that I was doing something about the pain and the disability. Try that. It might work for you. Des Tuck In a message dated 6/3/2004 3:04:05 PM Pacific Standard Time, beeme_99@... writes: My problem is that I am petrified. I mean so scared it is unbelievable. I dont know that I am strong enough mentally to go through this. I cant get the fear out of my head. I dont really expect anyone to say anything but just the thought that some of you will have been scared as I am now is so comforting (sorry if that sounds like I am taking comfort from your worries) Sorry for waffling, I like to pretend that I am still a child, yet the world keeps throwing grown up things my way! Thanks for listening (even if you didnt!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 AHHAHH! I knew it. I haven't conquered my dislike of insurance companies. If you figure out a way to do that, please share it with me. I like the idea of Zen but somehow my composure evaporates when I think of the misery they cause. Des In a message dated 6/3/2004 3:37:38 PM Pacific Standard Time, beeme_99@... writes: know I dont have a choice, I have already conquered my fear of doctors and hospitals. I know I must do this too, just not used to success Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 AHHAHH! I knew it. I haven't conquered my dislike of insurance companies. If you figure out a way to do that, please share it with me. I like the idea of Zen but somehow my composure evaporates when I think of the misery they cause. Des In a message dated 6/3/2004 3:37:38 PM Pacific Standard Time, beeme_99@... writes: know I dont have a choice, I have already conquered my fear of doctors and hospitals. I know I must do this too, just not used to success Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 Thanks Des I know I dont have a choice, I have already conquered my fear of doctors and hospitals. I know I must do this too, just not used to success Cheers Liney ____________________________________________________________ Yahoo! Messenger - Communicate instantly... " Ping " your friends today! Download Messenger Now http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com/download/index.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 Liney: I second what Des says. All I could think about before the operation was the pain - it was all the time and frankly I didn't care what the doctor was going to do - I never really thought about (although my husband knew the operation forewards and backwards) Just concentrate on the fact that the pain will be gone. The only time I got suddenly felt a bit fear was the night before and that was only because I was suddenly thinking " what if the pain doesn't go away " - it did - the second I woke up I started smiling because the arthritic pain in the joint was completely gone. In fact I didn't feel any pain at all, but I suspect I am unusual in that respect - my husband had some pain afterwards - but not joint pain, just surgery pain and that didn't last long. Try to focus on your painfree life - the positive steps you are taking to take control of your body and your life. You are going to rock! Pamela In surfacehippy , destuck@a... wrote: > Dear Liney: > > There is a well-known psychological phenomenon called " fear of success " . The > only known cure for this is to succeed. > > I had hip pain for almost as long as you - about 27 years - except mine > started when I was about 20. > > If the pain is bad enough, you won't need much convincing. When I had my > surgery, I didn't give a second thought to the cutting part. I focused on the fact > that I was doing something about the pain and the disability. > > Try that. It might work for you. > > Des Tuck > > > > > In a message dated 6/3/2004 3:04:05 PM Pacific Standard Time, > beeme_99@y... writes: > My problem is that I am petrified. I mean so scared > it is unbelievable. I dont know that I am strong > enough mentally to go through this. I cant get the > fear out of my head. > > I dont really expect anyone to say anything but just > the thought that some of you will have been scared as > I am now is so comforting (sorry if that sounds like I > am taking comfort from your worries) > > Sorry for waffling, I like to pretend that I am still > a child, yet the world keeps throwing grown up things > my way! > > Thanks for listening (even if you didnt!) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 Liney: I second what Des says. All I could think about before the operation was the pain - it was all the time and frankly I didn't care what the doctor was going to do - I never really thought about (although my husband knew the operation forewards and backwards) Just concentrate on the fact that the pain will be gone. The only time I got suddenly felt a bit fear was the night before and that was only because I was suddenly thinking " what if the pain doesn't go away " - it did - the second I woke up I started smiling because the arthritic pain in the joint was completely gone. In fact I didn't feel any pain at all, but I suspect I am unusual in that respect - my husband had some pain afterwards - but not joint pain, just surgery pain and that didn't last long. Try to focus on your painfree life - the positive steps you are taking to take control of your body and your life. You are going to rock! Pamela In surfacehippy , destuck@a... wrote: > Dear Liney: > > There is a well-known psychological phenomenon called " fear of success " . The > only known cure for this is to succeed. > > I had hip pain for almost as long as you - about 27 years - except mine > started when I was about 20. > > If the pain is bad enough, you won't need much convincing. When I had my > surgery, I didn't give a second thought to the cutting part. I focused on the fact > that I was doing something about the pain and the disability. > > Try that. It might work for you. > > Des Tuck > > > > > In a message dated 6/3/2004 3:04:05 PM Pacific Standard Time, > beeme_99@y... writes: > My problem is that I am petrified. I mean so scared > it is unbelievable. I dont know that I am strong > enough mentally to go through this. I cant get the > fear out of my head. > > I dont really expect anyone to say anything but just > the thought that some of you will have been scared as > I am now is so comforting (sorry if that sounds like I > am taking comfort from your worries) > > Sorry for waffling, I like to pretend that I am still > a child, yet the world keeps throwing grown up things > my way! > > Thanks for listening (even if you didnt!) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 I know they cause lots of people mesery but they have just agreed to pay for me, and I get £100 bonus for me too!! Dont mean to make you jealous, guess this one just went my way, hope the op does too Liney ____________________________________________________________ Yahoo! Messenger - Communicate instantly... " Ping " your friends today! Download Messenger Now http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com/download/index.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 If it's of any use to you, I'm going in for my BHR in late July. My surgeon said that I have more risk of coming to harm driving to the hospital than I do during the procedure itself. (And I don't think he's the cocky type!) Good luck...but I don't think you'll need it. T > > > > > ____________________________________________________________ > Yahoo! Messenger - Communicate instantly... " Ping " > your friends today! Download Messenger Now > http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com/download/index.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 Dearest Liney. McCain was talking about fear the other day and said that fear is the foundation of courage. You are already very courageous to take steps to make yourself whole. Rest assured that fear is a natural and normal reaction to change because it throws us into the unknown and it's the unknown that's scary. Be confident that this change you are about to undergo will not only be for the better, but for the best! It is also very healthy that you acknowledge your fears so keep talking about them. We are a support group; that's what we're here for. We all have, have had, or will have, the same fears you are experiencing right now. It really helped me to focus on the positive aspects, i.e. no more pain, getting back to an active life, getting a normal night's sleep etc. Also, this may sound corny, but when I went to Belgium for my first resurfacing, I went alone, but in my mind, I was a warrior going into battle and God, through Dr. De Smet, was my Commander-In- Chief in whom I put complete faith and trust to bring me out victorious...and boy, did He ever! I am now considering going back for my second resurface and I will do the same thing when those same fears begin to creep in. In fact, maybe you'll be a part of my support system by then! Take care and best of luck to you! Donna LBHR 11/13/02 De Smet > I just need to share this with you guys as I know that > someone here will understand. > > For those of you that dont know me, I am 28 living in > London. Ive had hip troubles all my life and it has > finally come to the time of needing a resurfacing op. > > The school that I work for is wonderful and i have > health insurance through them. I learnt today that I > will have my operation done privately thanks to them. > > I have an appointment with my consultant on Monday and > see where we go from there. > > For about an hour this afternoon I was so excited that > I cant remember the last time I had such a big smile > on my face, no more pain. The thought of it is > incomprehensible to me, I have always lived with it, > ever since I was a baby and cant imagine what life > will be like if everything is successful. > > My problem is that I am petrified. I mean so scared > it is unbelievable. I dont know that I am strong > enough mentally to go through this. I cant get the > fear out of my head. > > I dont really expect anyone to say anything but just > the thought that some of you will have been scared as > I am now is so comforting (sorry if that sounds like I > am taking comfort from your worries) > > Sorry for waffling, I like to pretend that I am still > a child, yet the world keeps throwing grown up things > my way! > > Thanks for listening (even if you didnt!) > Liney > > > > > > ____________________________________________________________ > Yahoo! Messenger - Communicate instantly... " Ping " > your friends today! Download Messenger Now > http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com/download/index.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 Ditto to what Donna says! Short term pain for LONG TERM PLEASURE!!!! (and I'm not shouting..or maybe I am here, folks!) Liney... you go girl...sounds silly and cliche too...but think happy thoughts, and of the future like many hippies have shared already! I'm pre-op myself..and I'm sure I'll be in your court soon enough when the date is upcoming! GO GO GOOOOOOOOO!!! ) Best to you...we're behind you 1,000% (ok, so I SHOUT and exagerrate, too!) In surfacehippy , " donnakei " wrote: > > Dearest Liney. McCain was talking about fear the other day and > said that fear is the foundation of courage. You are already very > courageous to take steps to make yourself whole. Rest assured that > fear is a natural and normal reaction to change because it throws us > into the unknown and it's the unknown that's scary. Be confident > that this change you are about to undergo will not only be for the > better, but for the best! > > It is also very healthy that you acknowledge your fears so keep > talking about them. We are a support group; that's what we're here > for. We all have, have had, or will have, the same fears you are > experiencing right now. > > It really helped me to focus on the positive aspects, i.e. no more > pain, getting back to an active life, getting a normal night's sleep > etc. Also, this may sound corny, but when I went to Belgium for my > first resurfacing, I went alone, but in my mind, I was a warrior > going into battle and God, through Dr. De Smet, was my Commander-In- > Chief in whom I put complete faith and trust to bring me out > victorious...and boy, did He ever! I am now considering going back > for my second resurface and I will do the same thing when those same > fears begin to creep in. In fact, maybe you'll be a part of my > support system by then! > > Take care and best of luck to you! > > Donna LBHR 11/13/02 De Smet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2004 Report Share Posted June 4, 2004 Hi Liney In the last 6 months I've had both hips resurfaced, the right in Jan and the left just 6weeks ago, lucky I've only been started having problems a couple of years ago but go to last Dec I couldn't walk more than 100yard with out pain killers! However this weekend I managed a 12 mile walk in North Wales with no pain at all. The inital couple of weeks after the op are quite unpleasant but after that it's unbelievable how fast thing get better – honest. I'd recommend anyone to have the op it change my life and am now back to just about normal on the right hip with the left catching up fast. Good luck and go for it ASAP. Simon > > hello liney in london- > > i can understand your fear.....because i had to > understand my own fear and just move forward. > > but, the REALLY SCARY thing now is how GREAT > i feel just 7 months after i traded in my krappy hip > for the chic new bomber metal one. > > it took me a long time doing this type of research > and reading of everyone's positive experiences > to convince myself that this was going to work > out just fine. > > i realized that the pain and diminishing mobility > were not just challenging my sprits, they were > contributing to deteriorating overall health. > > i decided that this was not going to be my demise. > no, i was going to come up with a really cool demise > that is far better than some lame hip arthritis. so, i > decided to get this annoying side problem eliminated. > > i'm sure that everyone here has experienced > their own type of fear regarding this procedure. > so, it sounds like you are right on course. > > keep posting updates. > > best wishes, > > jeff lbhr desmet 11/03 > > p.s. > maybe try writing your fears out as a list. > then write out your reason for each fear. > then throw the list away. > it just might work. > > Got the go ahead > > > I just need to share this with you guys as I know that > someone here will understand. > > For those of you that dont know me, I am 28 living in > London. Ive had hip troubles all my life and it has > finally come to the time of needing a resurfacing op. > > The school that I work for is wonderful and i have > health insurance through them. I learnt today that I > will have my operation done privately thanks to them. > > I have an appointment with my consultant on Monday and > see where we go from there. > > For about an hour this afternoon I was so excited that > I cant remember the last time I had such a big smile > on my face, no more pain. The thought of it is > incomprehensible to me, I have always lived with it, > ever since I was a baby and cant imagine what life > will be like if everything is successful. > > My problem is that I am petrified. I mean so scared > it is unbelievable. I dont know that I am strong > enough mentally to go through this. I cant get the > fear out of my head. > > I dont really expect anyone to say anything but just > the thought that some of you will have been scared as > I am now is so comforting (sorry if that sounds like I > am taking comfort from your worries) > > Sorry for waffling, I like to pretend that I am still > a child, yet the world keeps throwing grown up things > my way! > > Thanks for listening (even if you didnt!) > Liney > > > > > > ____________________________________________________________ > Yahoo! Messenger - Communicate instantly... " Ping " > your friends today! Download Messenger Now > http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com/download/index.html > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2004 Report Share Posted June 4, 2004 Hi Liney In the last 6 months I've had both hips resurfaced, the right in Jan and the left just 6weeks ago, lucky I've only been started having problems a couple of years ago but go to last Dec I couldn't walk more than 100yard with out pain killers! However this weekend I managed a 12 mile walk in North Wales with no pain at all. The inital couple of weeks after the op are quite unpleasant but after that it's unbelievable how fast thing get better – honest. I'd recommend anyone to have the op it change my life and am now back to just about normal on the right hip with the left catching up fast. Good luck and go for it ASAP. Simon > > hello liney in london- > > i can understand your fear.....because i had to > understand my own fear and just move forward. > > but, the REALLY SCARY thing now is how GREAT > i feel just 7 months after i traded in my krappy hip > for the chic new bomber metal one. > > it took me a long time doing this type of research > and reading of everyone's positive experiences > to convince myself that this was going to work > out just fine. > > i realized that the pain and diminishing mobility > were not just challenging my sprits, they were > contributing to deteriorating overall health. > > i decided that this was not going to be my demise. > no, i was going to come up with a really cool demise > that is far better than some lame hip arthritis. so, i > decided to get this annoying side problem eliminated. > > i'm sure that everyone here has experienced > their own type of fear regarding this procedure. > so, it sounds like you are right on course. > > keep posting updates. > > best wishes, > > jeff lbhr desmet 11/03 > > p.s. > maybe try writing your fears out as a list. > then write out your reason for each fear. > then throw the list away. > it just might work. > > Got the go ahead > > > I just need to share this with you guys as I know that > someone here will understand. > > For those of you that dont know me, I am 28 living in > London. Ive had hip troubles all my life and it has > finally come to the time of needing a resurfacing op. > > The school that I work for is wonderful and i have > health insurance through them. I learnt today that I > will have my operation done privately thanks to them. > > I have an appointment with my consultant on Monday and > see where we go from there. > > For about an hour this afternoon I was so excited that > I cant remember the last time I had such a big smile > on my face, no more pain. The thought of it is > incomprehensible to me, I have always lived with it, > ever since I was a baby and cant imagine what life > will be like if everything is successful. > > My problem is that I am petrified. I mean so scared > it is unbelievable. I dont know that I am strong > enough mentally to go through this. I cant get the > fear out of my head. > > I dont really expect anyone to say anything but just > the thought that some of you will have been scared as > I am now is so comforting (sorry if that sounds like I > am taking comfort from your worries) > > Sorry for waffling, I like to pretend that I am still > a child, yet the world keeps throwing grown up things > my way! > > Thanks for listening (even if you didnt!) > Liney > > > > > > ____________________________________________________________ > Yahoo! Messenger - Communicate instantly... " Ping " > your friends today! Download Messenger Now > http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com/download/index.html > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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