Re: weight gain & now upset over it

[Guest guest]

Deanna,

I feel the same way you do....pretty much to a T. I haven't seen my PCP

since I got pregnant. My gyne shows me gaining 9 pounds since my first

appt. I totally disagree with his scale. I had lost weight the first

trimester due to morning sickness. At my 2nd visit, I had weighed myself

on my own scale that morning at 144, and when I went into the office

their scale weighed me at 156...I was like holy crap!! I mean a 12

pound difference. The first visit it was only a 4 pound different from

their scale to mine. So, as far as their records show they have me

starting at 152 pounds and at my last visit 161.....My scale says 155.

We'll see what their scale says on Wednesday when I have another visit.

According to what I have been watching for the past month, I have only

gained a couple pounds. My OB says I am doing fine. Not too worry. That

we have to gain weight. My husband thinks I don't eat enough. I feel

like I eat all the time. I truly hate snacking. Even though I choose

healthier foods than I would have pre op, I still feel like I doing

something wrong. I am craving carbs like mad. I hate it. I am 22 weeks

myself so I right behind you. I don't think you are gaining too fast

personally. I feel like I am a weirdo since i am hardly showing at all.

Do you have a cute little pregnant belly to finally show off??? It

totally freaked me out when my regular pants wear too snug to wear. It

was a real battle to finally give in to the maternity pants. I swore I

would never wear elastic waisted pants once I lost all the weight.

Are you gaining anywhere else besides your belly??? I am just curious

why your PCP is thinking you are gaining too much too early. If your

are just belly, what's the big deal?? I am almost 2 years out and I can

completely understand your fears with eating and gaining weight. I have

read a lot that post op pregnant women comsume more and after the baby

it subsides. How that works really puzzles me. And to be honest, I don't

know if I want to find out if that's the case. I still watch myself. I

don't want to just say, oh , I am pregnant it doesn't matter. Because it

does. I wish things didn't have to be so difficult.

Well, sorry to be so long winded. It's nice to know that I am not alone.

Hope I made you feel a little better. Feel free to email me anytime!!

Beverly

Pittsburgh, PA

RNY 4/10/02 335----------145

EDD 6/16/04

Deanna wrote:

>Hi all,

>

>I went to the drs today because I have a sore throat he is my reg dr

>I have seen him since 1996 owe what a cutie he is lol.. anyways he

>has been taking care of me while over weight and through wls and

>weight loss. I am 2 yrs and 2 months out from wls and 24 1/2 weeks

>pregnant, here is my problem, im feeling the blues over this weight

>gain, back in sept (according to my scale) I was 132 (from 280-dec

>01) and today i am 148, my weight has always fluctuated a few pnds

>and always been about a 3 pnds differece from the drs scale but it

>all boils down to about a 15/16 pnds weight gain since I got

>pregnant. Well he made me feel like I was gaining to much to fast

>and I am not mad at him because I know how he is but it just disturbs

>me and now im stressed over it. My gyn says i am doing fine and has

>no complaints so why would my reg dr say something. He says he just

>dosnt want to see me gain to much to fast but am I gaining to much?

>to fast? i have had people tell me im small for 6 months so I just

>dont get and my gyn said im all baby...so what gives? i do notice i

>can eat more since i got pregnant and i am 2 yrs out that scares me

>that i am doing something wrong here. what are your thoughts ? am i

>headed down that weight problem road again. I still have 15 more

>weeks to go and if i gain the alotted pnd a week thats another 15

>pnds onto of what i have gained already..what do i do? I dont mean to

>obesse over this but gosh all my dreams are coming true weight loss

>and now baby i just dont want to face heartache down the road with

>the weight gain thing...ok im done wining for now...thanx for

>listening Deanna in lasvegas, nv

>

>edd may 30th

>boy-kyle jacob wise

>wls 12/18/01- dr wittgrove, san diego, calif

>280 pnds/132

>

>

>

>

>Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3

>

[Guest guest]

Beverly

My gyn says im all baby so just a little belly showing not gaining

any where else that i know of, but i could be wrong! lol...i think my

dr was just being cautious because of my previous weight problem but

he is young and blond and i think when he bleached his hair it soaked

up into his brain lol...but in any case i just put photos of my belly

on my photo album under deanna wise .. i think he thinks i have

gained more in a shorter period of time too becuz his nurse wrote

sloppy and he got himself all confused .. but it still bothered me to

no end because now its all i think about. I have been eating more and

snacking because i am hypogycemic and have already passed out at the

grocery store because of it so i eat every couple of hours .. I have

read in books and on here that i am right on track so i am still

puzzled by his comment and will check with my gyn on it to make sure

im on track i certainly dont want to gain to much weight and have

problems getting it off after the baby.. i dont think you have

gained to much either and i think what i am gonna do is just weigh

myself on my scale every time i got to the drs and go by that number

because as i said before its usually a 3 pnds difference not to

mention when i go to the drs i have eaten, drank water and im wearing

my clothes.. as for your drs scale wow that is way off, i would go by

your scale since you weigh yourself mostly on that one. thanx for

writing and yes i do feel better knowing im not alone sometimes i

feel guilty i certainly want my baby to be healthy and want him more

then anything in the world and know i have to gain weight for him so

that helps me too.. keep in touch with me and let me know how things

go, we can compare notes at drs app's! Deanna

>

> >Hi all,

> >

> >I went to the drs today because I have a sore throat he is my reg

dr

> >I have seen him since 1996 owe what a cutie he is lol.. anyways he

> >has been taking care of me while over weight and through wls and

> >weight loss. I am 2 yrs and 2 months out from wls and 24 1/2

weeks

> >pregnant, here is my problem, im feeling the blues over this

weight

> >gain, back in sept (according to my scale) I was 132 (from 280-dec

> >01) and today i am 148, my weight has always fluctuated a few pnds

> >and always been about a 3 pnds differece from the drs scale but it

> >all boils down to about a 15/16 pnds weight gain since I got

> >pregnant. Well he made me feel like I was gaining to much to fast

> >and I am not mad at him because I know how he is but it just

disturbs

> >me and now im stressed over it. My gyn says i am doing fine and

has

> >no complaints so why would my reg dr say something. He says he

just

> >dosnt want to see me gain to much to fast but am I gaining to

much?

> >to fast? i have had people tell me im small for 6 months so I just

> >dont get and my gyn said im all baby...so what gives? i do notice

i

> >can eat more since i got pregnant and i am 2 yrs out that scares

me

> >that i am doing something wrong here. what are your thoughts ? am

i

> >headed down that weight problem road again. I still have 15 more

> >weeks to go and if i gain the alotted pnd a week thats another 15

> >pnds onto of what i have gained already..what do i do? I dont mean

to

> >obesse over this but gosh all my dreams are coming true weight

loss

> >and now baby i just dont want to face heartache down the road with

> >the weight gain thing...ok im done wining for now...thanx for

> >listening Deanna in lasvegas, nv

> >

> >edd may 30th

> >boy-kyle jacob wise

> >wls 12/18/01- dr wittgrove, san diego, calif

> >280 pnds/132

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3

> >

[Guest guest]

I think you are doing great and I do not see 15 pounds as too much at all.

There hae been others on this group who have gained more than that in the first

2 trimesters and even the 3rd and have lost it all right after the baby is

born. I would listen to the Ob/gny and go by what they want for a healthy baby.

You will lose the weight after the baby is born, Promise. SOme say it comes off

easier than their other pre-op pregnancies. Please try to not stres the

weight. I think you are doing a great job

HUGS, ROBIN, NY

Age- 41

Due Date- #4 July 27th, 2004

OPEN RNY

10-18-02

378/246/170???

DR.EDWARD HIXSON

SARANAC LAKE, NY

Mom to:

&

7 1/2 year twin boys and

Madison age 5

Miscarraige August 2001

Miscarraige August 2003

Married to Pup:

15 years

[Guest guest]

Deanna,

I looked at your pictures. You look great. You do look like just

belly like your OB says. Believe it or not, I am jealous of you!! I

want to " look " pregnant. I don't have a belly hardly at all. Not

enough to wear maternity tops anyway. I will keep you updated, I have

an appointment with my OB on Wednesday so let's see how off his scale

is compared to mine!! LOL

Hugs!!

Beverly

Pittsburgh,PA

RNY 4/10/02 335---------145

EDD 6/16/04

> Hi all,

>

> I went to the drs today because I have a sore throat he is my reg

dr

> I have seen him since 1996 owe what a cutie he is lol.. anyways he

> has been taking care of me while over weight and through wls and

> weight loss. I am 2 yrs and 2 months out from wls and 24 1/2 weeks

> pregnant, here is my problem, im feeling the blues over this weight

> gain, back in sept (according to my scale) I was 132 (from 280-dec

> 01) and today i am 148, my weight has always fluctuated a few pnds

> and always been about a 3 pnds differece from the drs scale but it

> all boils down to about a 15/16 pnds weight gain since I got

> pregnant. Well he made me feel like I was gaining to much to fast

> and I am not mad at him because I know how he is but it just

disturbs

> me and now im stressed over it. My gyn says i am doing fine and

has

> no complaints so why would my reg dr say something. He says he

just

> dosnt want to see me gain to much to fast but am I gaining to much?

> to fast? i have had people tell me im small for 6 months so I just

> dont get and my gyn said im all baby...so what gives? i do notice i

> can eat more since i got pregnant and i am 2 yrs out that scares me

> that i am doing something wrong here. what are your thoughts ? am

i

> headed down that weight problem road again. I still have 15 more

> weeks to go and if i gain the alotted pnd a week thats another 15

> pnds onto of what i have gained already..what do i do? I dont mean

to

> obesse over this but gosh all my dreams are coming true weight loss

> and now baby i just dont want to face heartache down the road with

> the weight gain thing...ok im done wining for now...thanx for

> listening Deanna in lasvegas, nv

>

> edd may 30th

> boy-kyle jacob wise

> wls 12/18/01- dr wittgrove, san diego, calif

> 280 pnds/132

[Guest guest]

Deanna and Beverly,

Try not to worry. Listen to your OBs, both of whom are saying that

you're on track. From what I've read, the guideline is for " normal

weight " women to gain between 25 and 35 pounds. I know that after

WLS, it takes a long time to feel " normal " , but you ARE normal now!

So you should gain weight! It is really hard to see the scale going

up, and believe me, I check it every day. I started pregnancy a

little above normal, so I'm hoping not to gain more than 25 pounds,

but even that will put me over 200 again, and I'm not thrilled about

that. But I keep reminding myself that it's for the baby. I am

trying to focus less on how much I gain and more on making healthy

choices and eating when I feel hungry. It's hard to make healthy

choices all the time, especially since I'm also suffering from

hypoglycemia, so sometimes I have to eat something right away,

whether there's a healthy snack available or not. But all we can do

is our best, and I weigh every day just to make sure I'm keeping in

check. And the good news is that we still have the " tool " of WLS to

help us lose the weight after the baby arrives.

Please don't let your doc make you feel bad, Deanna, especially

since your OB is happy with your progress. Sometimes docs can be

well meaning but have no idea how their comments affect us. People

who have never been obese just can't possibly understand. My OB,

knowing that I'm a WLS patient, said he wanted my weight to stay

pretty constant. I totally blew that remark off -- I'm almost 3

years post op! If I were still losing weight from the surgery, it

would be a different story, but there's no way I could not gain

weight. At my last appt, I was about 16 or 17 weeks (I get

confused!), and I'd gained 5-6, and he was happy with that, so

apparently he'd forgotten his comment about not gaining. I think

when he said it, he was just not thinking about how long ago I'd had

my surgery.

Some of our friends on this list are more recent post-ops and will

not gain as much, or maybe even keep losing. But don't forget that

you had already lost your weight, so you NEED to gain for your baby.

I know it's easier said than done, but please try not to be so hard

on yourself!!!

I hope this helps some. We definitely are in the same boat, and

sometimes we just need each other to remind us not to worry.

Happy V-Day!

Dallas, TX

Lap RNY 4/5/01

EDD #1 7/15/04

> >

> > >Hi all,

> > >

> > >I went to the drs today because I have a sore throat he is my

reg

> dr

> > >I have seen him since 1996 owe what a cutie he is lol.. anyways

he

> > >has been taking care of me while over weight and through wls

and

> > >weight loss. I am 2 yrs and 2 months out from wls and 24 1/2

> weeks

> > >pregnant, here is my problem, im feeling the blues over this

> weight

> > >gain, back in sept (according to my scale) I was 132 (from 280-

dec

> > >01) and today i am 148, my weight has always fluctuated a few

pnds

> > >and always been about a 3 pnds differece from the drs scale but

it

> > >all boils down to about a 15/16 pnds weight gain since I got

> > >pregnant. Well he made me feel like I was gaining to much to

fast

> > >and I am not mad at him because I know how he is but it just

> disturbs

> > >me and now im stressed over it. My gyn says i am doing fine

and

> has

> > >no complaints so why would my reg dr say something. He says he

> just

> > >dosnt want to see me gain to much to fast but am I gaining to

> much?

> > >to fast? i have had people tell me im small for 6 months so I

just

> > >dont get and my gyn said im all baby...so what gives? i do

notice

> i

> > >can eat more since i got pregnant and i am 2 yrs out that

scares

> me

> > >that i am doing something wrong here. what are your thoughts ?

am

> i

> > >headed down that weight problem road again. I still have 15

more

> > >weeks to go and if i gain the alotted pnd a week thats another

15

> > >pnds onto of what i have gained already..what do i do? I dont

mean

> to

> > >obesse over this but gosh all my dreams are coming true weight

> loss

> > >and now baby i just dont want to face heartache down the road

with

> > >the weight gain thing...ok im done wining for now...thanx for

> > >listening Deanna in lasvegas, nv

> > >

> > >edd may 30th

> > >boy-kyle jacob wise

> > >wls 12/18/01- dr wittgrove, san diego, calif

> > >280 pnds/132

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3

> > >