Re: Sorry about the VBAC controversy

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/1/2004 10:10:55 AM Eastern Standard Time,

nowhiners@... writes:

With the c-section my hubby will be disappointed with me but at least I know

what to expect.

Chrystal,

I wish you the best and safest delivery! The above comment really made me

hurt for you! I can't imagine how painful it is to have DH not be " happy! "

Many hugs!! Know you are NOT a failure!

*~Joy~*

Lap RNY @ 491lbs

2/26/01

Mommy to:

(5) , Saralyn (4), Hunter (7/3/03)

and

#4 due sometime in September '04!

We have 3 kids, soon we'll have FOUR!

After this one,

Quoth Raven...

NEVERMORE!

[Guest guest]

I agree with you! This is our bodies, and how we deliver, as long as it is

safe, should not be up to the guy. JMHO

[Guest guest]

Chrystal,

No apologies are necessary at all. It really isn't a controversial

subject unless someone replies in the *tone* of being condescending

to someone because they had or preferred a c-section. It wasn't the

first and I can guarantee it won't be the last debate. It shouldn't

even really be called a " controversy " since mostly it's each

individuals own personal opinion, experiences and emotions. No one

should be made to feel bad about the choices they make or don't make.

EVER!!!

I don't know how old your husband is, but he sounds incredibly

childish (no offense meant).

you wrote: " My husband wants me to go for the VBAC because his mother

had her 6 children that way and all of his 5 sisters have done it

this way. He makes me feel like a failure because I had the c-

section although I know he doesn't mean to <--- you should tell him

that you are NOT a failure because you produced a healthy child and

that is what to be thankful for.

you wrote: " with the c-section my hubby will be disappointed with me "

<---- he needs to mature (grow up) and realize what the important

thing is------> a healthy baby!!! no matter how it gets here. It

really astounds me how men can have such argumentative and and

negative feelings and comments when it comes to something that they

have no clue about- PREGNANCY AND CHILDBIRTH!!! It's OUR bodies and

they in no way, shape or form should make US feel bad. *Grrrrrr!*

I wish you the best of luck with EVERYTHING (and everyone)!!!

Sheila

[Guest guest]

Chrystal,

No apologies are necessary at all. It really isn't a controversial

subject unless someone replies in the *tone* of being condescending

to someone because they had or preferred a c-section. It wasn't the

first and I can guarantee it won't be the last debate. It shouldn't

even really be called a " controversy " since mostly it's each

individuals own personal opinion, experiences and emotions. No one

should be made to feel bad about the choices they make or don't make.

EVER!!!

I don't know how old your husband is, but he sounds incredibly

childish (no offense meant).

you wrote: " My husband wants me to go for the VBAC because his mother

had her 6 children that way and all of his 5 sisters have done it

this way. He makes me feel like a failure because I had the c-

section although I know he doesn't mean to <--- you should tell him

that you are NOT a failure because you produced a healthy child and

that is what to be thankful for.

you wrote: " with the c-section my hubby will be disappointed with me "

<---- he needs to mature (grow up) and realize what the important

thing is------> a healthy baby!!! no matter how it gets here. It

really astounds me how men can have such argumentative and and

negative feelings and comments when it comes to something that they

have no clue about- PREGNANCY AND CHILDBIRTH!!! It's OUR bodies and

they in no way, shape or form should make US feel bad. *Grrrrrr!*

I wish you the best of luck with EVERYTHING (and everyone)!!!

Sheila

[Guest guest]

I should add something here before it gets blown out of proportion as

well: I wasn't meaning ALL men, just the ones who would try to make

their wives/gf's feel disappointment if in the end they must have a c-

section.

" It really astounds me how SOME men can have such argumentative,

negative feelings and comments when it comes to something that they

have no clue about- BEING PREGNANT AND GIVING BIRTH!!! It's OUR

bodies and they in no way, shape or form should make US feel bad.

*Grrrrrr!*

[Guest guest]

I should add something here before it gets blown out of proportion as

well: I wasn't meaning ALL men, just the ones who would try to make

their wives/gf's feel disappointment if in the end they must have a c-

section.

" It really astounds me how SOME men can have such argumentative,

negative feelings and comments when it comes to something that they

have no clue about- BEING PREGNANT AND GIVING BIRTH!!! It's OUR

bodies and they in no way, shape or form should make US feel bad.

*Grrrrrr!*

[Guest guest]

Adam,

I wish all hubby's were as understanding and supportive of their

wives as you!

Sheila