Re: Do I let him cry himself to sleep???

[Guest guest]

,

Please accept advise from an older Mom -- my baby turns 21 next

month.

Unless you know that he is in pain (then you need to correct the

pain), let him fuss himself to sleep. At this point in time he is

just training you to comfort him, because he likes to be comforted

(don't we all). Good luck it is really hard to listen to them cry,

but really is the best thing in the long run. Unless you want to be

committed to responding to every want. We need to respond to all

their needs, but not all their wants.

Hope this helps,

Sally

(Logan's & Meegan's Grandma " Boo " )

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep

everytime after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok

or does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

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>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

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> and Christian 1/30/04

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I too have just started the shoes this week. My little guy is 1 year

old and is starting to adjust to them. The first night in the shoes

he was up off and on every half hour. He wanted comfort, so we rocked

for a bit and snuggled and then I put him back down to sleep. The

second night he got up maybe 3 times in the night and now on his third

night in them he got up only for his normal feeding. I don't think

there is anything wrong with letting him cry himself to sleep, I just

figure this little guy has been through so much, what is it to me if

he wants some comfort through this? He is getting along very well now

at night. Mine usually falls asleep by himself too, I have always put

him in the crib awake except for the first day or so after new casts

or surgery. Now, he just wants to rock a bit longer than we normally do.

Hope this helps! Keep pressing on.

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep everytime

after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok or

does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I too have just started the shoes this week. My little guy is 1 year

old and is starting to adjust to them. The first night in the shoes

he was up off and on every half hour. He wanted comfort, so we rocked

for a bit and snuggled and then I put him back down to sleep. The

second night he got up maybe 3 times in the night and now on his third

night in them he got up only for his normal feeding. I don't think

there is anything wrong with letting him cry himself to sleep, I just

figure this little guy has been through so much, what is it to me if

he wants some comfort through this? He is getting along very well now

at night. Mine usually falls asleep by himself too, I have always put

him in the crib awake except for the first day or so after new casts

or surgery. Now, he just wants to rock a bit longer than we normally do.

Hope this helps! Keep pressing on.

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep everytime

after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok or

does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well said!

s.

We need to respond to all

their needs, but not all their wants.

Hope this helps,

Sally

(Logan's & Meegan's Grandma " Boo " )

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep

everytime after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok

or does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well said!

s.

We need to respond to all

their needs, but not all their wants.

Hope this helps,

Sally

(Logan's & Meegan's Grandma " Boo " )

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep

everytime after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok

or does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

My reaction to 's discomfort/ extra neediness was to give her

what she needed for those first few days. That meant quite a few

extra nursing sessions and cuddling. I worried also about setting a

precedent for habits I didn't want to develop but we are doing fine

now.

Marilouise

9/9/03, LCF, DBB 23/7

Owen and 3/20/99

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep

everytime after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok

or does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

My reaction to 's discomfort/ extra neediness was to give her

what she needed for those first few days. That meant quite a few

extra nursing sessions and cuddling. I worried also about setting a

precedent for habits I didn't want to develop but we are doing fine

now.

Marilouise

9/9/03, LCF, DBB 23/7

Owen and 3/20/99

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep

everytime after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok

or does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

It's such a gray area between giving them the comfort they need/want and

teaching them to learn some self-comforting tricks of their own. But as a

mother, you will learn the difference, when to pick one up, when to let one

lay....try to trust your instincts, you'll probably be right.

s.

Hi ,

I too have just started the shoes this week. My little guy is 1 year

old and is starting to adjust to them. The first night in the shoes

he was up off and on every half hour. He wanted comfort, so we rocked

for a bit and snuggled and then I put him back down to sleep. The

second night he got up maybe 3 times in the night and now on his third

night in them he got up only for his normal feeding. I don't think

there is anything wrong with letting him cry himself to sleep, I just

figure this little guy has been through so much, what is it to me if

he wants some comfort through this? He is getting along very well now

at night. Mine usually falls asleep by himself too, I have always put

him in the crib awake except for the first day or so after new casts

or surgery. Now, he just wants to rock a bit longer than we normally do.

Hope this helps! Keep pressing on.

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep everytime

after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok or

does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

It's such a gray area between giving them the comfort they need/want and

teaching them to learn some self-comforting tricks of their own. But as a

mother, you will learn the difference, when to pick one up, when to let one

lay....try to trust your instincts, you'll probably be right.

s.

Hi ,

I too have just started the shoes this week. My little guy is 1 year

old and is starting to adjust to them. The first night in the shoes

he was up off and on every half hour. He wanted comfort, so we rocked

for a bit and snuggled and then I put him back down to sleep. The

second night he got up maybe 3 times in the night and now on his third

night in them he got up only for his normal feeding. I don't think

there is anything wrong with letting him cry himself to sleep, I just

figure this little guy has been through so much, what is it to me if

he wants some comfort through this? He is getting along very well now

at night. Mine usually falls asleep by himself too, I have always put

him in the crib awake except for the first day or so after new casts

or surgery. Now, he just wants to rock a bit longer than we normally do.

Hope this helps! Keep pressing on.

> Christian usually falls asleep in his crib by himself. I lay him

down and

> he drifts off. Since he got the DBB on yesterday he cried himself

to sleep

> last night and has been requiring me to rock him to sleep everytime

after

> that (2x last night and 2 naps today). I am thinking that this is

probably

> a bad idea. Should I just let him cry if I know everything is ok or

does he

> need me to comfort him during this adjustment? He is otherwise

happy when

> playing, eating, etc. so I know he isn't in pain.

>

>

>

>

>

> Mommy to 12/17/98

>

> and Christian 1/30/04

>

>

>

>

>

>