Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 Hi Jen... Your 'red spot' questions were already answered, I just wanted to add that I feel your pain on the attention you get from strangers. Altho' we live in the deep south where most people are friendly and speak anyway.... we usually get the accusatory, " How did your baby break his leg? " during those times he wore casts. The other night at dinner, the waiter stopped me and asked me about the brace and looked at Elijah like he was an alien. Then he claimed, " Ive had two children of my own and Ive NEVER seen anything like that. " I said, pointing at the table where my family sat.. " Well it took me having 4 children before I saw it. " Then my husband and I chuckled later at his ignorance. Drew, the girls and myself enjoyed making up stories for people when they'd ask about the casts in an ugly tone. We'd tell them that he was waterskiing, riding his dirtbike, bungie jumping and he broke his leg. Keep in mind he's just 6 months old now LOL... Ive been in the checkout line and had a small child behind me pointing at the brace and showing his parents and watch the parents shush him like its something to be ashamed of. They dont even make eye contact with me. I just walk over to the child and explain that Elijah was born with a hurt foot and he needs special shoes that will help him to run and jump like other little boys when he gets older and offer to let him touch the brace. My advice is to do your best to not take the ignorance of others personally. I believe that we were chosen to be parents of children with clubfoot b/c we're strong enough for it. Other people arent so strong. Keep your chin up, it gets easier. Lori Mom to , 13 Nova, 8 Ethan, 2 and Elijah 6.5 months RCF w/ plantaris DBB 23/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 Hi Jen... Your 'red spot' questions were already answered, I just wanted to add that I feel your pain on the attention you get from strangers. Altho' we live in the deep south where most people are friendly and speak anyway.... we usually get the accusatory, " How did your baby break his leg? " during those times he wore casts. The other night at dinner, the waiter stopped me and asked me about the brace and looked at Elijah like he was an alien. Then he claimed, " Ive had two children of my own and Ive NEVER seen anything like that. " I said, pointing at the table where my family sat.. " Well it took me having 4 children before I saw it. " Then my husband and I chuckled later at his ignorance. Drew, the girls and myself enjoyed making up stories for people when they'd ask about the casts in an ugly tone. We'd tell them that he was waterskiing, riding his dirtbike, bungie jumping and he broke his leg. Keep in mind he's just 6 months old now LOL... Ive been in the checkout line and had a small child behind me pointing at the brace and showing his parents and watch the parents shush him like its something to be ashamed of. They dont even make eye contact with me. I just walk over to the child and explain that Elijah was born with a hurt foot and he needs special shoes that will help him to run and jump like other little boys when he gets older and offer to let him touch the brace. My advice is to do your best to not take the ignorance of others personally. I believe that we were chosen to be parents of children with clubfoot b/c we're strong enough for it. Other people arent so strong. Keep your chin up, it gets easier. Lori Mom to , 13 Nova, 8 Ethan, 2 and Elijah 6.5 months RCF w/ plantaris DBB 23/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 Not exactly CF related but on this subject of asking questions......while in Iowa last having Everett treated, my son (6) and I were on the city bus going someplace when a blind man got on. He sat across from us and was very curious about the man's cane. Hearing whisper me a question about it the man spoke up nicely and said it was OK for us to ask him questions if the child had any. I appreciated his openness; he and had a pretty in-depth conversation about being blind. s. Hi Jen... Your 'red spot' questions were already answered, I just wanted to add that I feel your pain on the attention you get from strangers. Altho' we live in the deep south where most people are friendly and speak anyway.... we usually get the accusatory, " How did your baby break his leg? " during those times he wore casts. The other night at dinner, the waiter stopped me and asked me about the brace and looked at Elijah like he was an alien. Then he claimed, " Ive had two children of my own and Ive NEVER seen anything like that. " I said, pointing at the table where my family sat.. " Well it took me having 4 children before I saw it. " Then my husband and I chuckled later at his ignorance. Drew, the girls and myself enjoyed making up stories for people when they'd ask about the casts in an ugly tone. We'd tell them that he was waterskiing, riding his dirtbike, bungie jumping and he broke his leg. Keep in mind he's just 6 months old now LOL... Ive been in the checkout line and had a small child behind me pointing at the brace and showing his parents and watch the parents shush him like its something to be ashamed of. They dont even make eye contact with me. I just walk over to the child and explain that Elijah was born with a hurt foot and he needs special shoes that will help him to run and jump like other little boys when he gets older and offer to let him touch the brace. My advice is to do your best to not take the ignorance of others personally. I believe that we were chosen to be parents of children with clubfoot b/c we're strong enough for it. Other people arent so strong. Keep your chin up, it gets easier. Lori Mom to , 13 Nova, 8 Ethan, 2 and Elijah 6.5 months RCF w/ plantaris DBB 23/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 Not exactly CF related but on this subject of asking questions......while in Iowa last having Everett treated, my son (6) and I were on the city bus going someplace when a blind man got on. He sat across from us and was very curious about the man's cane. Hearing whisper me a question about it the man spoke up nicely and said it was OK for us to ask him questions if the child had any. I appreciated his openness; he and had a pretty in-depth conversation about being blind. s. Hi Jen... Your 'red spot' questions were already answered, I just wanted to add that I feel your pain on the attention you get from strangers. Altho' we live in the deep south where most people are friendly and speak anyway.... we usually get the accusatory, " How did your baby break his leg? " during those times he wore casts. The other night at dinner, the waiter stopped me and asked me about the brace and looked at Elijah like he was an alien. Then he claimed, " Ive had two children of my own and Ive NEVER seen anything like that. " I said, pointing at the table where my family sat.. " Well it took me having 4 children before I saw it. " Then my husband and I chuckled later at his ignorance. Drew, the girls and myself enjoyed making up stories for people when they'd ask about the casts in an ugly tone. We'd tell them that he was waterskiing, riding his dirtbike, bungie jumping and he broke his leg. Keep in mind he's just 6 months old now LOL... Ive been in the checkout line and had a small child behind me pointing at the brace and showing his parents and watch the parents shush him like its something to be ashamed of. They dont even make eye contact with me. I just walk over to the child and explain that Elijah was born with a hurt foot and he needs special shoes that will help him to run and jump like other little boys when he gets older and offer to let him touch the brace. My advice is to do your best to not take the ignorance of others personally. I believe that we were chosen to be parents of children with clubfoot b/c we're strong enough for it. Other people arent so strong. Keep your chin up, it gets easier. Lori Mom to , 13 Nova, 8 Ethan, 2 and Elijah 6.5 months RCF w/ plantaris DBB 23/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2004 Report Share Posted October 15, 2004 Good advise Lori, it is hard sometimes though. It really doesn't bother me when people ask, but the whispering pisses me off! We were standing in line at the weekend and I could " feel " the whispering. I did the turn around glance once and it was a high school age couple looking and whispering. Second time I turned around he was snickering and she was doing the dumb girl slap on him. I wanted to kick him in the head and walk out, but I ignored it . . and no, I am not a physical person. I guess I could have swung Zoe around and knocked him in the head, or better yet, n**ts, with the FAB. Most people who approach us say that they, or someone they know had the brace which is nice. Take care, Louisa 6-27-99 Zoe 2-22-04 RCF FAB 18/7 Dr. appt. Monday. Pray for 12h > > Hi Jen... > > Your 'red spot' questions were already answered, I just wanted to add > that I feel your pain on the attention you get from strangers. > Altho' we live in the deep south where most people are friendly and > speak anyway.... we usually get the accusatory, " How did your baby > break his leg? " during those times he wore casts. > > The other night at dinner, the waiter stopped me and asked me about > the brace and looked at Elijah like he was an alien. Then he > claimed, " Ive had two children of my own and Ive NEVER seen anything > like that. " I said, pointing at the table where my family sat.. " Well > it took me having 4 children before I saw it. " Then my husband and I > chuckled later at his ignorance. > > Drew, the girls and myself enjoyed making up stories for people when > they'd ask about the casts in an ugly tone. We'd tell them that he > was waterskiing, riding his dirtbike, bungie jumping and he broke his > leg. Keep in mind he's just 6 months old now LOL... > > Ive been in the checkout line and had a small child behind me > pointing at the brace and showing his parents and watch the parents > shush him like its something to be ashamed of. They dont even make > eye contact with me. I just walk over to the child and explain that > Elijah was born with a hurt foot and he needs special shoes that will > help him to run and jump like other little boys when he gets older > and offer to let him touch the brace. > > My advice is to do your best to not take the ignorance of others > personally. I believe that we were chosen to be parents of children > with clubfoot b/c we're strong enough for it. Other people arent so > strong. > > Keep your chin up, it gets easier. > > Lori > > Mom to > , 13 > Nova, 8 > Ethan, 2 > and Elijah 6.5 months RCF w/ plantaris DBB 23/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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