Re: very quiet overdue member needs to vent about a doc

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I think that doc just showed how IGNORANT he really is. He has NO CLUE about

wls or the WOMEN who are getting pregnant, LOL. I would definately tell your

regular doc what this idiot told you. Definately don't listen to the fool, he

has no clue. I hope that little one comes out for you soon. MY daughter had to

be induced out, she was stubborn then and will be 5 New Years Day and is like

having a stubborn 15 year old around the house. God Bless and good luck,

HUGS, ROBIN, NY

Age- 41

Due Date- July 27th, 2004

OPEN RNY

10-18-02

378/246/170???

DR.EDWARD HIXSON

SARANAC LAKE, NY

Mom to:

&

7 1/2 year twin boys and

Madison age 4 1/2 yrs.

Miscarraige August 2001

Miscarraige August 2003

Married to Pup:

15 years this

Halloween : )

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JoAnn

talk to his superior, express your conerns regarding his words

expecially since you may have to face him again...he had no right to

say that because weather planned or not, this is your body your baby

and your decisions...Deanna

> So glad to hear you have found a nice environment for your

pregnancy!

>

> On the subject of doctors, I really need to vent....

>

> I had WLS August of 2001. My weight had stabilized at goal and all

my labs

> had always been good since surgury - with the only deficiency being

a slight

> anemia -- which I had pre-surgury as well.

>

> Once I reached the safe zone-according to all we had read and

surgeons

> recommendations for pregnancy waiting period, and with no reason to

believe I wasn't

> perfectly healthy, my husband and I discovered we were pregnant.

And although

> unplanned from our perspective, we were pleasantly surprised and

excited.

>

> Unfortunately, the pregnancy has taken a toll on me -- I am B12

deficient

> (taking shots now) and severely anemic. Tests show that I don't

absorb much of

> the iron I injest and that with the influx of pregnancy blood

volume, my

> hematocrit just can't keep up. As a result I am on iron infusions

now replaced with

> iron shots.

>

> Now the venting....I go in everyday for an iron shot hoping to pump

up my

> levels before delivery. The doc I met today in L&D came to talk to

me and asked

> about whether the pregnancy was planned, am I considering tubal

ligation,

> etc....I said no, it wasn't planned and no I wasn't planning on

ligation for

> religious reasons. He asked me about my surgury date and if I'd

stbilized weightwise

> before becoming pregnant...etc...etc...He asked if I'd considered

the

> nutritional difficulties before becoming pregnant --to which I

explained that all my

> deficiencies and the severity of the anemia only revealed

themselves with the

> pregnancy...had they been apparemnt before hand, my spouse and I

would have

> continued to take more meticulous precautions.Then he said WE CAN'T

HAVE YOU

> GASTRIC BYPASS LADIES HAVING ALL THESE UNPLANNED PREGNANCIES. I was

so shocked I

> couldn't reply...in the phrase he made me feel so irresponsible for

even

> attempting a pregnancy PLUS keep in mind I am 40weeks 3 days

pregnant and this

> little " pregnancy " of mine although unplanned in my eyes was

planned in GOD'S (I

> had told him already of my religious affiliation). I am also not a

young

> child...married...financially secure...well educated and a

professional ....I still

> can't believe the way this went. I was tongue-tied and told myself

I was

> perhaps being hypersensitive, but looking back it still bothers me

and I am

> angry.Never had any of my docs suggested I was irresponsible and I

have been

> absolutely compliant with my docs and their suggestions for

treatment. So...how do I

> approach this? Do I ask my doc to pull this dunderhead aside or do

I talk to

> him myself? I am slightly nervous that he may be the " on call " doc

when I

> deliver (if I ever do...).

>

> Thanks for listening. I feel much better.

>

> Jo Ann

>

>

>

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OMG! Jo Ann, I am so very sorry that this bone head doc said such stupid things

to you!! I think you should absolutely say something to your doc about how you

feel. In fact, I think you should preface the whole conversation with exactly

what you said to us, especially the part where you considered the fact that you

may be receiving what the doc said in a hypersensitive manner because you are

pregnant, but after careful, logical thought you could see that you were not.

You not only need to do this for your own self esteem, but for those other women

you are going to save from this docs bone headed comments as you speaking to

your doc and him/her hopefully getting thru this this stupid docs thick scull

may make him think twice before speaking such thoughtless remarks again. You

have obviously proven you are a very responsible mom from the moment you were

blessed.

Axelrod

very quiet overdue member needs to vent about a doc

So glad to hear you have found a nice environment for your pregnancy!

On the subject of doctors, I really need to vent....

I had WLS August of 2001. My weight had stabilized at goal and all my labs

had always been good since surgury - with the only deficiency being a slight

anemia -- which I had pre-surgury as well.

Once I reached the safe zone-according to all we had read and surgeons

recommendations for pregnancy waiting period, and with no reason to believe I

wasn't

perfectly healthy, my husband and I discovered we were pregnant. And although

unplanned from our perspective, we were pleasantly surprised and excited.

Unfortunately, the pregnancy has taken a toll on me -- I am B12 deficient

(taking shots now) and severely anemic. Tests show that I don't absorb much of

the iron I injest and that with the influx of pregnancy blood volume, my

hematocrit just can't keep up. As a result I am on iron infusions now replaced

with

iron shots.

Now the venting....I go in everyday for an iron shot hoping to pump up my

levels before delivery. The doc I met today in L&D came to talk to me and

asked

about whether the pregnancy was planned, am I considering tubal ligation,

etc....I said no, it wasn't planned and no I wasn't planning on ligation for

religious reasons. He asked me about my surgury date and if I'd stbilized

weightwise

before becoming pregnant...etc...etc...He asked if I'd considered the

nutritional difficulties before becoming pregnant --to which I explained that

all my

deficiencies and the severity of the anemia only revealed themselves with the

pregnancy...had they been apparemnt before hand, my spouse and I would have

continued to take more meticulous precautions.Then he said WE CAN'T HAVE YOU

GASTRIC BYPASS LADIES HAVING ALL THESE UNPLANNED PREGNANCIES. I was so shocked

I

couldn't reply...in the phrase he made me feel so irresponsible for even

attempting a pregnancy PLUS keep in mind I am 40weeks 3 days pregnant and this

little " pregnancy " of mine although unplanned in my eyes was planned in GOD'S

(I

had told him already of my religious affiliation). I am also not a young

child...married...financially secure...well educated and a professional ....I

still

can't believe the way this went. I was tongue-tied and told myself I was

perhaps being hypersensitive, but looking back it still bothers me and I am

angry.Never had any of my docs suggested I was irresponsible and I have been

absolutely compliant with my docs and their suggestions for treatment.

So...how do I

approach this? Do I ask my doc to pull this dunderhead aside or do I talk to

him myself? I am slightly nervous that he may be the " on call " doc when I

deliver (if I ever do...).

Thanks for listening. I feel much better.

Jo Ann

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Hello Everyone!

First I would like to thank all of you for responding to my post -- I truly

felt better about the whole situation once I'd gotten it off my chest.

I chose not to confront the doc in question directly, but did speak to my

incredibly wonderful and supportive OB who said she would address it in the OB

team meeting to insure it doesn't happen to anyone else. I also spoke to another

hospital employee who has had WLS so that she could approach him from " our "

general perspective and clue him in. I feel very confident that he will be

educated on pregnancy after WLS and the insensitivity of his remark to me.

On the baby front....I am now one week past due. Hopefully baby is using the

time to grow a little bigger. If labor hasn't started on it's own, the docs

are giving me til Monday, when we will begin an induction. I'll let you know!

Happy Holidays to all and special Congrats to NEWMESHARON whose family just

grew by one beautiful girl on DEC 15th.

Jo Ann