Guest guest Posted January 2, 2004 Report Share Posted January 2, 2004 > it helps the > adoptive mom produce a small amt of milk, although from my > understanding it will never be enough to complete nurse the baby with > out supplementing formula. Depends on the mom..(and on the adoption situation..are you adopting a newborn right after delivery? or a 4 week old? or a 10 week old?) (so says the woman who adopted her first baby and nursed him... and who is also the director of CAPPA's Advanced Adoption Certification Program. *grin*) Most adoptive mothers will need *some* supplimentation...especially in the beginning. But many can end up exclusively nursing. Soderblom CCCE CD(DONA) CLD Student Midwife - Mesa, AZ CAPPA Board of Directors Doula/CBE/Pregnancy/Birth Photography Owner: Birth Story Diaries - real births, real photos http://www.birthdiaries.com Owner: SouthwestDoulas.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2004 Report Share Posted January 2, 2004 > You can bond with your baby without using your breast as a pacifier. > If you are going to use your breast as a pacifer.. it should only be > the MOTHER of the baby who does that. Letting your " partner " use her > breast as a pacifier is disgusting. She is not the baby's mother.. you > are. > Ouch...that was rather harsh. I understand that this is your opinion..and everyone is entitled to their opinion...therefore, I won't comment on your opinion but will just offer mine as well. there is nothing wrong with both mothers nursing the baby. It can be a beautiful way to love and bond with the baby and share in the mothering of the baby. Many nursing moms have nursed babies that aren't their own (nursed friend's babies while babysitting, or sister's baby while babysitting, for example)... and to say that she isn't the baby's mother is.. oops...I forgot..I'm not going to comment on your opinon. Both women are the baby's mother. Carrying a baby does not make you a mother. > > Why have your baby suckle on your " partners " breast.. when the > reality is that your odds of staying together in the long run is so > slim?? > Ye gads... then why have the father involved at all..after all, there's a chance he could die or you could divorce, so why do that to your children? or..why should your children have anything to do with YOU..since something could happen to YOU as well. sheesh. What a grim outlook on life you have. > Demrie.. you opened up the topic... and I can't sit here and pretend > it is normal. > And you don't have to ...you're entitled to your opinion. but there's also a difference between giving your opinion..and being rude/mean. (BTW...do you know how LOW the separation rate is among committed same-sex couples? Your comment was on divorce rates...those are heterosexual couples.) Soderblom CCCE CD(DONA) CLD Student Midwife - Mesa, AZ CAPPA Board of Directors Doula/CBE/Pregnancy/Birth Photography Owner: Birth Story Diaries - real births, real photos http://www.birthdiaries.com Owner: SouthwestDoulas.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2004 Report Share Posted January 2, 2004 I agree I think this is such an amazing thing melinda Sharon, That just sounds neat. Maybe I am wierd but the idea that they have produced human " udders " that allows someone that ability is fantastic. I never would have thought such a device existed. Rasley a.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2004 Report Share Posted January 2, 2004 I agree I think this is such an amazing thing melinda Sharon, That just sounds neat. Maybe I am wierd but the idea that they have produced human " udders " that allows someone that ability is fantastic. I never would have thought such a device existed. Rasley a.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2004 Report Share Posted January 2, 2004 " The Truth only offends those who are not living the way God intended for us to live. " I was going to keep my comments to myself, simply because I didn't want to start any kind of flaming, but you stepped over the line on this comment! I am a MARRIED, HETEROSEXUAL woman, and was married in a Methodist church. I feel that I live in a way that God intended, and *I* was offended by your comments. Having your opinions and stating them are one thing, and I agree that being PC is a bunch of BS at times, but there is such a thing as TACT. You slammed anyone who didn't agree with you by saying that they are not living the way God intended. If you want to make a comment about a certain email, and you HAVE the right to your opinion, please make it, but PLEASE don't group everyone who may not agree totally with you as " not living the way God intended " because all that does is show why YOU might be living in sin since you are teaching your son not to be tolerant of others differences, AS THE BIBLE SAYS. Again, this is just my opinion, as is my GOD and GOVERNMENT right to do. Niki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2004 Report Share Posted January 2, 2004 > Demrie, > > I too had breast reduction surgery about 13 years ago and when I had > my daughter almost 10 years ago, I wanted to breastfeed so I tried it > one day but not enough came out so that idea went out the window. I > believe that you should do what you feel will make you closer to the > baby. Good luck to you and best wishes!! > > > DE the first day after delivery NOBODY makes milk...and there is very very little colostrum that most people produce before their milk comes in. usually it takes 3-5 days for your milk to come in. Some people have it come in after 24-48 hours, but that's more uncommon. Babies don't usually need ANYTHING for the first 6-7 days anyways...so trying to nurse exclusively for the first 5 days isn't dangerous for your baby to see what type of milk supply you can build. And if you're really worried about it, you can rent a baby scale...weigh them before and after each feeding and see how much exactly they are eating.... Soderblom CCCE CD(DONA) CLD Student Midwife - Mesa, AZ CAPPA Board of Directors Doula/CBE/Pregnancy/Birth Photography Owner: Birth Story Diaries - real births, real photos http://www.birthdiaries.com Owner: SouthwestDoulas.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2004 Report Share Posted January 2, 2004 I agree with , you don't need to have the baby actually suck on your nipple for bonding. When my daughter stopped breastfeeding she still liked it when I fed her while she was close to my bare skin. I think it is just the smell and the feel of the skin. If my shirt was too low she thought it was time to eat and cuddle!! Good luck with whatever choice you make. Whatever you choose will be the right thing for you. Just enjoy motherhood, both of you. Suzanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2004 Report Share Posted January 4, 2004 I regret to inform all of you that I am removing myself from this group due to the personal emails I have been receiving that are harrassing and prejudice in nature. I don't know how to stop them except to remove myself from the group. I thank those of you who have not judged me by my sexuality, but have responded to me as one mother and/or mother-to-be to another. Unfortunately, these personal attacks, to my personal email, are something I cannot allow. Demrie " DD " from Wisconsin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2004 Report Share Posted January 4, 2004 Demrie I have no clue what is going on or your personal business but I hate to see you leave because of the stupidity of others....its up to the moderators (and no offense to them) to do something about this, perhaps they can hide our email addressess from members? I will see if their is a way on my support group and let you know if you like? If you need a wls pregnancy pal im here, just email me... deanna6204@.... > I regret to inform all of you that I am removing myself from this > group due to the personal emails I have been receiving that are > harrassing and prejudice in nature. I don't know how to stop them > except to remove myself from the group. > > I thank those of you who have not judged me by my sexuality, but have > responded to me as one mother and/or mother-to-be to another. > Unfortunately, these personal attacks, to my personal email, are > something I cannot allow. > > Demrie " DD " from Wisconsin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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