Re: catching up/showing

[Guest guest]

Oh, just one more question. What are your opinions about registering yourself

for a baby shower? Do you think it is a good idea or do you think that it is

rude? Just looking for opinions...... thanks, Kristi

My husbands co-workers thru him a baby shower (I am the one doing the work, pg

with 2nd baby and NEVER gotten a shower, go figure. LOL), and they requested

that we go to walmart and register so they knew what we wanted/needed since I

had saved everything of s until he was 4 yrs old. With all the newborn

clothes that I had, plus what we were given, I don't think RJ will ever have to

wear something more than once before he would grow out of it. I really thought

we needed t-shirts, until I started washing and putting stuff into the dresser,

and found about 30(!!) of them. If anyone else has been asking what we

want/need, I have been saying diapers/wipes, any baby can ALWAYS use those!

Niki

[Guest guest]

Hi Kristi,

I am way late on responding to this (was away for the holidays) but wanted

to share my experience. I am 19 weeks pregnant and not showing AT ALL! I am

still in my pre-pregnancy jeans with almost no notice of tightness even

around the waist. I haven't gained any weight, either. BUT, my baby seems to

be

doing just fine. I can " feel " my grapefruit sized uterus when I am " flat on my

back " . I am set to have another ultrasound on the 14th and will hopefully

see for myself that the baby is fine. It's very difficult to believe I'm

pregnant when I've started my 5th month and show no outwardly noticeable signs

of it

(other than feeling yukky and tired and grouchy!). I guess this is all

pretty normal. I lost a lot of weight after surgery and did have a tummy tuck,

so

maybe that is helping to keep the baby " reined in " so to speak. My doctor

tells me that every indication shows that the baby is growing at just the right

rate, and that I shouldn't worry. So I'm trying not to. I also haven't felt

any movement yet... but I'm convinced that it will happen by next week! )

This is my first baby and I'm 39 years old (hence the reason why this will

be my second ultra-sound.... I am considered high risk due to age).

Keep me posted on your progress and try not to worry!

Dee

[Guest guest]

I am 18 weeks pregnant and showing have not gained but a little over an

ounce- I can't wear any of my 10/12 pants wear XL pants with ties to tie

them I like really lose clothes-

Good Luck to all of you..

Michele

-- Re: catching up/showing

I'm only 11 weeks and 5 days, but am showing. Not sure if it's baby or

partially because of my hernia, but considering I can't get anywhere near my

size 10's, either the baby or the hernia or a combination thereof is causing

quite a thickness. I'm unfortunatley able to wear size 16's or maternity

clothing. AND I've gained 10 pounds since finding out I'm pregnant. I'm

trying not to have issues with this, although hearing the rest of you not

gaining weight is REALLY bothering me!

Jacque

EDD 7/20/04

Boy 10, girl 3.5

ORNY 5/21/02 - minus 186 prior to pregnancy!!!!

[Guest guest]

Jacque,

I would bet that you are showing primarily because of your hernia. And

believe me, I would LOVE to be gaining weight and showing. I don't feel that

I'm really " pregnant " without those factors. I guess I am just a natural

worrier. I know that if I WAS gaining, I'd probably be freaked out by that,

too. I

just don't know what to expect, so every little thing seems like it's some

kind of " sign " . I just read the post from someone saying that they felt

movement with both children at 16 weeks, and here I am at 19 weeks without a

single

" kick " . Now I can freak out about that, too! LOL I guess I won't be sure of

anything until the little peanut is safely in my arms. Although all of you

Mom's out there are probably laughing at that because I'm sure that's just the

BEGINNING of all the worrying! ) I think all I can do is hope and pray that

what I've been doing thus far is right for the baby. I just can't wait to see

that ultrasound next week to prove that he/she is still in there!!!!

Hope everyone is having a good evening...

Dee

[Guest guest]

Jacque,

I would bet that you are showing primarily because of your hernia. And

believe me, I would LOVE to be gaining weight and showing. I don't feel that

I'm really " pregnant " without those factors. I guess I am just a natural

worrier. I know that if I WAS gaining, I'd probably be freaked out by that,

too. I

just don't know what to expect, so every little thing seems like it's some

kind of " sign " . I just read the post from someone saying that they felt

movement with both children at 16 weeks, and here I am at 19 weeks without a

single

" kick " . Now I can freak out about that, too! LOL I guess I won't be sure of

anything until the little peanut is safely in my arms. Although all of you

Mom's out there are probably laughing at that because I'm sure that's just the

BEGINNING of all the worrying! ) I think all I can do is hope and pray that

what I've been doing thus far is right for the baby. I just can't wait to see

that ultrasound next week to prove that he/she is still in there!!!!

Hope everyone is having a good evening...

Dee

[Guest guest]

I thought I would add to this and tell everyone my little experience at the

doc's office this last Friday. I have had to switch to a new pain management

doc and my first appointment was on Friday. I first met with the nurse and as

she was going over my chart she said, " Your 6 months pregnant, where is the

baby? " Now, I know I look pregnant and so does my husband, but I feel that with

all my hanging skin on my belly, and the fact that I am carrying high, I think I

just look fat. With the comment that the nurse said that kinda confirmed my

suspicions and bummed me out, though I'm trying not to let it get me down. My

Mom was sweet enough to buy me my first maternity shirt as one of my Christmas

gifts and when I wore it she said it looked cute, but I feel totally weird in

it, especially since it is medium in size. Personally I don't think it fits

properly but my Mom says that I buy all my clothes in to big of a size. I know

that this is still me dealing with body image issues and now being pregnant I

guess its becoming more of an issue. The only clothes I feel " right " in are the

few sweat pants and sweat shirts that I didn't get rid of after losing so much

weight and I still am strongly compelled to dress in any way as to make my belly

look as small as possible. Wearing maternity pants is very hard for me because

there is nothing there to help me push my belly in, a totally foreign concept

for me. Does this make any sense to anyone? Most days I feel like my belly is

sticking out a mile and I find myself constantly " sucking it in " . I really hope

that this doesn't become more of an issue for me. Does anyone else seem to be

dealing with this? Having these feelings about my body in combination with

seeing the scale creep up is making me just feel fat again, not pregnant.

Axelrod

Re: catching up/showing

jacque

i know how you feel, as far as having issues with the weight gain

although i have gained 4 pnds its really bothering even though i know

i need to gain for babys sake..i am almost 19 weeks and im showing

also, i feel fat even though everyone says im small its still the

thought of gaining and getting bigger...im sure you look good though!

[Guest guest]

Dee and Kristi,

I, too, am 39 with my first pregnancy. I didn't start to show until

the end of my 5th month/beginning of my sixth, and then I just

suddenly seemed to pop out there! LOL! Now, you can DEFINATELY tell

I'm pregnant at 30 weeks! LOL!

Sharon

> Hi Kristi,

> I am way late on responding to this (was away for the holidays)

but wanted

> to share my experience. I am 19 weeks pregnant and not showing AT

ALL! I am

> still in my pre-pregnancy jeans with almost no notice of tightness

even

> around the waist. I haven't gained any weight, either. BUT, my

baby seems to be

> doing just fine. I can " feel " my grapefruit sized uterus when I

am " flat on my

> back " . I am set to have another ultrasound on the 14th and will

hopefully

> see for myself that the baby is fine. It's very difficult to

believe I'm

> pregnant when I've started my 5th month and show no outwardly

noticeable signs of it

> (other than feeling yukky and tired and grouchy!). I guess this

is all

> pretty normal. I lost a lot of weight after surgery and did have

a tummy tuck, so

> maybe that is helping to keep the baby " reined in " so to speak.

My doctor

> tells me that every indication shows that the baby is growing at

just the right

> rate, and that I shouldn't worry. So I'm trying not to. I also

haven't felt

> any movement yet... but I'm convinced that it will happen by next

week! )

>

> This is my first baby and I'm 39 years old (hence the reason

why this will

> be my second ultra-sound.... I am considered high risk due to age).

>

> Keep me posted on your progress and try not to worry!

>

> Dee

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I COMPLETELY understand where you are coming from. I am dealing with

the exact same issues. I just feel FAT... I went to my first

birthing class on Friday, and of the ten other couples there, I was

the only one didn't have the " typical " pregnant curve... because of

my loose skin. It is so disheartening. My dh (wonderful, wonderful

man), keeps reassuring me that it isn't fat, it's baby... and I keep

having to tell myself that, too.

Sigh... I keep feeling like I " got a hippopotumus " for Christmas,

myself... lol. Wearing Maternity clothes instead of my " fat " clothes

has helped some. I keep making myself NOT tighten my tummy, too...

my abs start hurting if I hold myself in too much. Plus, on

doesn't really like it (my little yump!) and lets me know about it

by kicking the heck out of me! LOL!

I guess the best way I know to deal with this is by constantly

reassuring myself that it isn't fat... it's baby... and it will be

okay.

SO... I'm telling YOU: It IS NOT fat... It's BABY! And, it WILL BE

OKAY! :~)

Hugs

Sharon

> I thought I would add to this and tell everyone my little

experience at the doc's office this last Friday. I have had to

switch to a new pain management doc and my first appointment was on

Friday. I first met with the nurse and as she was going over my

chart she said, " Your 6 months pregnant, where is the baby? " Now, I

know I look pregnant and so does my husband, but I feel that with

all my hanging skin on my belly, and the fact that I am carrying

high, I think I just look fat. With the comment that the nurse said

that kinda confirmed my suspicions and bummed me out, though I'm

trying not to let it get me down. My Mom was sweet enough to buy me

my first maternity shirt as one of my Christmas gifts and when I

wore it she said it looked cute, but I feel totally weird in it,

especially since it is medium in size. Personally I don't think it

fits properly but my Mom says that I buy all my clothes in to big of

a size. I know that this is still me dealing with body image issues

and now being pregnant I guess its becoming more of an issue. The

only clothes I feel " right " in are the few sweat pants and sweat

shirts that I didn't get rid of after losing so much weight and I

still am strongly compelled to dress in any way as to make my belly

look as small as possible. Wearing maternity pants is very hard for

me because there is nothing there to help me push my belly in, a

totally foreign concept for me. Does this make any sense to

anyone? Most days I feel like my belly is sticking out a mile and I

find myself constantly " sucking it in " . I really hope that this

doesn't become more of an issue for me. Does anyone else seem to be

dealing with this? Having these feelings about my body in

combination with seeing the scale creep up is making me just feel

fat again, not pregnant.

> Axelrod

> Re: catching up/showing

>

>

> jacque

>

> i know how you feel, as far as having issues with the weight

gain

> although i have gained 4 pnds its really bothering even though i

know

> i need to gain for babys sake..i am almost 19 weeks and im

showing

> also, i feel fat even though everyone says im small its still

the

> thought of gaining and getting bigger...im sure you look good

though!

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I know exactly how you are feeling. I am currently sitting here in some

" lounging " pants that I bought when I was about 4 months along, and they are

still a little lose. I did buy them in a 2x thinking I would be able to wear

them the whole pregnancy. I am currently wearing a large size (12-14) in

" regular clothing. Last week I was in the baby section at walmart looking for

foot rattles, and when I asked the sales woman if they had any, she looked at me

and asked how old my baby was, and when I said I was due in about 4 weeks she

looked at my stomach and said " you are so tiny! I wouldn't believe you were

going on 9 months!! " I tried to put it off to the fact that I was wearing

sweats and a long shirt, but honestly, if you didn't know I was pregnant, you

really wouldn't be able to tell. I hit 36 weeks thursday, and having daily

contractions, but all I really see when I look in the mirror is this minor mound

under my breasts (he is sitting high also) and this hanging skin that I swear

looks like an udder! I figure that since our skin is so stretched out from

being heavy that it filling out to allow for the baby isn't stress on the body,

it is just kind of reacting in a " memory " roll. I don't know if that makes

sense or not.

Niki

Re: catching up/showing

jacque

i know how you feel, as far as having issues with the weight gain

although i have gained 4 pnds its really bothering even though i know

i need to gain for babys sake..i am almost 19 weeks and im showing

also, i feel fat even though everyone says im small its still the

thought of gaining and getting bigger...im sure you look good though!

[Guest guest]

Thanks Sharon, your words brought a smile to my face.

Axelrod

Re: catching up/showing

>

>

> jacque

>

> i know how you feel, as far as having issues with the weight

gain

> although i have gained 4 pnds its really bothering even though i

know

> i need to gain for babys sake..i am almost 19 weeks and im

showing

> also, i feel fat even though everyone says im small its still

the

> thought of gaining and getting bigger...im sure you look good

though!

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Good... I'm glad to help. It helped ME to write it out, too! :~)

I have that hippo song stuck in my head... so I changed the words:

I got a hippopotomus for Christmas,

I might get as big as even TWO!

No tinker toys, just a little boy,

Just a little boy to play with and enjoy!

LOL... I guess if you don't know what you are having you could

sing, " just a little one, just a little one to play with and have

fun! "

Gotta do SOMETHING to keep my spirits up! :~)

Sharon

> > I thought I would add to this and tell everyone my little

> experience at the doc's office this last Friday. I have had to

> switch to a new pain management doc and my first appointment was

on

> Friday. I first met with the nurse and as she was going over my

> chart she said, " Your 6 months pregnant, where is the baby? "

Now, I

> know I look pregnant and so does my husband, but I feel that

with

> all my hanging skin on my belly, and the fact that I am carrying

> high, I think I just look fat. With the comment that the nurse

said

> that kinda confirmed my suspicions and bummed me out, though I'm

> trying not to let it get me down. My Mom was sweet enough to

buy me

> my first maternity shirt as one of my Christmas gifts and when I

> wore it she said it looked cute, but I feel totally weird in it,

> especially since it is medium in size. Personally I don't think

it

> fits properly but my Mom says that I buy all my clothes in to

big of

> a size. I know that this is still me dealing with body image

issues

> and now being pregnant I guess its becoming more of an issue.

The

> only clothes I feel " right " in are the few sweat pants and sweat

> shirts that I didn't get rid of after losing so much weight and

I

> still am strongly compelled to dress in any way as to make my

belly

> look as small as possible. Wearing maternity pants is very hard

for

> me because there is nothing there to help me push my belly in, a

> totally foreign concept for me. Does this make any sense to

> anyone? Most days I feel like my belly is sticking out a mile

and I

> find myself constantly " sucking it in " . I really hope that this

> doesn't become more of an issue for me. Does anyone else seem

to be

> dealing with this? Having these feelings about my body in

> combination with seeing the scale creep up is making me just

feel

> fat again, not pregnant.

> > Axelrod

> > Re: catching up/showing

> >

> >

> > jacque

> >

> > i know how you feel, as far as having issues with the weight

> gain

> > although i have gained 4 pnds its really bothering even

though i

> know

> > i need to gain for babys sake..i am almost 19 weeks and im

> showing

> > also, i feel fat even though everyone says im small its

still

> the

> > thought of gaining and getting bigger...im sure you look

good

> though!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >