Guest guest Posted November 19, 2003 Report Share Posted November 19, 2003 Just checking in to see how relaxed you are today Ms. ? > Thank you Shiela.. the only confusing part is the postive tests (faint > positive) were positive BEFORE the spotting. I will try to relax. > Rasley > mailto: drasley@c... > BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 > Re: Big time questions > > > > Should I relax? <--- this would be my reply. I know it's easier for > > me to say than for you to do. > > In my honest opinion, I would wait til your appt next week and get a > > blood test. This is the most accurate way. > > > > The pinkish spotting may be implantation bleeding since the preg > > tests don't turn positive until you've implanted. > > > > If it is another miscarriage, there is nothing that you can do to > > stop it unfortunately. > > > > Write down all of your symptoms for the next few days until you see > > your OB. That will help you a tremendous amount as well as your OB. > > Anything strange, weird, unusual....write it down. > > > > rest and try to relax... you don't need the stress of all this right > > now.... > > > > > > Sheila > > > > > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2003 Report Share Posted November 20, 2003 Okay I guess. Trying to get things straightened out as my ex is trying to get me evicted -- he believes because i got remarried I dont deserve to live in my apartment because he cosigned on it -- not that he ever paid a dime. Of course he still lives in the house which has my name on the mortgage. He is required to get it refinanced and hasn't as of yet. Other than dealing with my ex and being broke, I am okay. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Big time questions > > > > > > > Should I relax? <--- this would be my reply. I know it's easier > for > > > me to say than for you to do. > > > In my honest opinion, I would wait til your appt next week and > get a > > > blood test. This is the most accurate way. > > > > > > The pinkish spotting may be implantation bleeding since the preg > > > tests don't turn positive until you've implanted. > > > > > > If it is another miscarriage, there is nothing that you can do to > > > stop it unfortunately. > > > > > > Write down all of your symptoms for the next few days until you > see > > > your OB. That will help you a tremendous amount as well as your > OB. > > > Anything strange, weird, unusual....write it down. > > > > > > rest and try to relax... you don't need the stress of all this > right > > > now.... > > > > > > > > > Sheila > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2003 Report Share Posted November 20, 2003 Okay I guess. Trying to get things straightened out as my ex is trying to get me evicted -- he believes because i got remarried I dont deserve to live in my apartment because he cosigned on it -- not that he ever paid a dime. Of course he still lives in the house which has my name on the mortgage. He is required to get it refinanced and hasn't as of yet. Other than dealing with my ex and being broke, I am okay. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Big time questions > > > > > > > Should I relax? <--- this would be my reply. I know it's easier > for > > > me to say than for you to do. > > > In my honest opinion, I would wait til your appt next week and > get a > > > blood test. This is the most accurate way. > > > > > > The pinkish spotting may be implantation bleeding since the preg > > > tests don't turn positive until you've implanted. > > > > > > If it is another miscarriage, there is nothing that you can do to > > > stop it unfortunately. > > > > > > Write down all of your symptoms for the next few days until you > see > > > your OB. That will help you a tremendous amount as well as your > OB. > > > Anything strange, weird, unusual....write it down. > > > > > > rest and try to relax... you don't need the stress of all this > right > > > now.... > > > > > > > > > Sheila > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2003 Report Share Posted November 20, 2003 is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who is trying to take my son away from me? lol It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... but I'll spare you all! lol Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2003 Report Share Posted November 20, 2003 Sheila, Actually it is Dave. And his idea is that because I left him, I dont deserve to be a mother. So he calls me a tramp and slut (including in court), threatens to have my now husband arrested (yes i just got divorced in September and started dating my boyfriend/now husband in August but things happened) because the guy sits in MY car when I go to pick up my daughter for visitation. He screams and yells and harrasses -- he wrote me a letter stating if I dont kick Chuck (my new hubby) out he will utilize his right of entry and seize my assets due to my default (actually he is threatening breaking and entering and theft). He has also stated derogatory things about my new hubby which are not true but based on gossip (defamation anyone?). He has managed to get his child support obligation lowered from what he agreed to pay. He says he loves our daughter and my daughter has said she loves him however lately she refuses to talk to him or go with him. She screamed last week when he arrived and it took me spending ten minutes calming her down before she would go. She is three but still. He has tried to prevent me from taking her to Disney World because he was taxed with Court Costs for the divorce and a child support forgiveness action. I think that leaving him was the best thing forever. My only error was believing that I could have shared parenting with him in the hopes that that was the best thing for our daughter. I have since learned it is not because he uses the exchanges to call me names and try to intimidate me. Much more of this and he will end up with a CPO against him. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who > is trying to take my son away from me? lol > > It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not > kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. > He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a > stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex > thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just > sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for > physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't > working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a > month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more > important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as > we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have > them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, > rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating > everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, > bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them > putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my > court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and > 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social > Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed > up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol > > anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want > the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. > > besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... > but I'll spare you all! > lol > > > Sheila > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2003 Report Share Posted November 20, 2003 Sheila, Actually it is Dave. And his idea is that because I left him, I dont deserve to be a mother. So he calls me a tramp and slut (including in court), threatens to have my now husband arrested (yes i just got divorced in September and started dating my boyfriend/now husband in August but things happened) because the guy sits in MY car when I go to pick up my daughter for visitation. He screams and yells and harrasses -- he wrote me a letter stating if I dont kick Chuck (my new hubby) out he will utilize his right of entry and seize my assets due to my default (actually he is threatening breaking and entering and theft). He has also stated derogatory things about my new hubby which are not true but based on gossip (defamation anyone?). He has managed to get his child support obligation lowered from what he agreed to pay. He says he loves our daughter and my daughter has said she loves him however lately she refuses to talk to him or go with him. She screamed last week when he arrived and it took me spending ten minutes calming her down before she would go. She is three but still. He has tried to prevent me from taking her to Disney World because he was taxed with Court Costs for the divorce and a child support forgiveness action. I think that leaving him was the best thing forever. My only error was believing that I could have shared parenting with him in the hopes that that was the best thing for our daughter. I have since learned it is not because he uses the exchanges to call me names and try to intimidate me. Much more of this and he will end up with a CPO against him. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who > is trying to take my son away from me? lol > > It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not > kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. > He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a > stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex > thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just > sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for > physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't > working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a > month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more > important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as > we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have > them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, > rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating > everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, > bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them > putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my > court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and > 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social > Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed > up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol > > anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want > the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. > > besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... > but I'll spare you all! > lol > > > Sheila > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 21, 2003 Report Share Posted November 21, 2003 , I might be asking a dumb question here, but I have never had to deal with anything like this before. Is there any way that you can tape what he is saying to you? Maybe pick up one of those little pocket recorders and just turn it on before you get out of the car, or tape the conversations on an answer machine? I don't know if it will help you out, but if you can show his constant verbal abuse towards you, and in front of your daughter, the judge might be more apt to see things in your favor. Also, if he wrote you a letter stating that he was going to come in and steal from you, you might be able to take that to the police and have a file started on him, and then have that officer in court with you as well. Like I said, I don't know if these suggestions will help, but it was what came to mind when I read what you put down. Niki Re: Re: Rasley Sheila, Actually it is Dave. And his idea is that because I left him, I dont deserve to be a mother. So he calls me a tramp and slut (including in court), threatens to have my now husband arrested (yes i just got divorced in September and started dating my boyfriend/now husband in August but things happened) because the guy sits in MY car when I go to pick up my daughter for visitation. He screams and yells and harrasses -- he wrote me a letter stating if I dont kick Chuck (my new hubby) out he will utilize his right of entry and seize my assets due to my default (actually he is threatening breaking and entering and theft). He has also stated derogatory things about my new hubby which are not true but based on gossip (defamation anyone?). He has managed to get his child support obligation lowered from what he agreed to pay. He says he loves our daughter and my daughter has said she loves him however lately she refuses to talk to him or go with him. She screamed last week when he arrived and it took me spending ten minutes calming her down before she would go. She is three but still. He has tried to prevent me from taking her to Disney World because he was taxed with Court Costs for the divorce and a child support forgiveness action. I think that leaving him was the best thing forever. My only error was believing that I could have shared parenting with him in the hopes that that was the best thing for our daughter. I have since learned it is not because he uses the exchanges to call me names and try to intimidate me. Much more of this and he will end up with a CPO against him. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who > is trying to take my son away from me? lol > > It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not > kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. > He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a > stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex > thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just > sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for > physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't > working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a > month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more > important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as > we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have > them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, > rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating > everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, > bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them > putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my > court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and > 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social > Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed > up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol > > anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want > the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. > > besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... > but I'll spare you all! > lol > > > Sheila > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 21, 2003 Report Share Posted November 21, 2003 , I might be asking a dumb question here, but I have never had to deal with anything like this before. Is there any way that you can tape what he is saying to you? Maybe pick up one of those little pocket recorders and just turn it on before you get out of the car, or tape the conversations on an answer machine? I don't know if it will help you out, but if you can show his constant verbal abuse towards you, and in front of your daughter, the judge might be more apt to see things in your favor. Also, if he wrote you a letter stating that he was going to come in and steal from you, you might be able to take that to the police and have a file started on him, and then have that officer in court with you as well. Like I said, I don't know if these suggestions will help, but it was what came to mind when I read what you put down. Niki Re: Re: Rasley Sheila, Actually it is Dave. And his idea is that because I left him, I dont deserve to be a mother. So he calls me a tramp and slut (including in court), threatens to have my now husband arrested (yes i just got divorced in September and started dating my boyfriend/now husband in August but things happened) because the guy sits in MY car when I go to pick up my daughter for visitation. He screams and yells and harrasses -- he wrote me a letter stating if I dont kick Chuck (my new hubby) out he will utilize his right of entry and seize my assets due to my default (actually he is threatening breaking and entering and theft). He has also stated derogatory things about my new hubby which are not true but based on gossip (defamation anyone?). He has managed to get his child support obligation lowered from what he agreed to pay. He says he loves our daughter and my daughter has said she loves him however lately she refuses to talk to him or go with him. She screamed last week when he arrived and it took me spending ten minutes calming her down before she would go. She is three but still. He has tried to prevent me from taking her to Disney World because he was taxed with Court Costs for the divorce and a child support forgiveness action. I think that leaving him was the best thing forever. My only error was believing that I could have shared parenting with him in the hopes that that was the best thing for our daughter. I have since learned it is not because he uses the exchanges to call me names and try to intimidate me. Much more of this and he will end up with a CPO against him. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who > is trying to take my son away from me? lol > > It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not > kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. > He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a > stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex > thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just > sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for > physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't > working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a > month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more > important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as > we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have > them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, > rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating > everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, > bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them > putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my > court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and > 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social > Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed > up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol > > anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want > the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. > > besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... > but I'll spare you all! > lol > > > Sheila > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 21, 2003 Report Share Posted November 21, 2003 I have a tape recorder... it hasn't picked up much though because i have kept it in my pocket. Last night it was on the wrong speed so everyone sounds high pitched. However, my ex is on it as am I talking about the ornament. I have kept EVERY email he has sent me. But there is nothing YET that I can take to the police. YET. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > > > > is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who > > is trying to take my son away from me? lol > > > > It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not > > kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. > > He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a > > stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex > > thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just > > sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for > > physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't > > working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a > > month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more > > important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as > > we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have > > them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, > > rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating > > everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, > > bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them > > putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my > > court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and > > 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social > > Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed > > up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol > > > > anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want > > the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. > > > > besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... > > but I'll spare you all! > > lol > > > > > > Sheila > > > > > > > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 21, 2003 Report Share Posted November 21, 2003 I have a tape recorder... it hasn't picked up much though because i have kept it in my pocket. Last night it was on the wrong speed so everyone sounds high pitched. However, my ex is on it as am I talking about the ornament. I have kept EVERY email he has sent me. But there is nothing YET that I can take to the police. YET. Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > > > > is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who > > is trying to take my son away from me? lol > > > > It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not > > kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. > > He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a > > stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex > > thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just > > sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for > > physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't > > working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a > > month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more > > important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as > > we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have > > them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, > > rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating > > everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, > > bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them > > putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my > > court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and > > 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social > > Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed > > up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol > > > > anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want > > the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. > > > > besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... > > but I'll spare you all! > > lol > > > > > > Sheila > > > > > > > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 , i don't know what you have available in your state, but in Texas we have supervised exchange programs for situations like yours. My agency operates one under a grant from the Attorney General's office. you could ask your family court if there are any in your area. sorry for your troubles. ~stacey in texas Re: Rasley > is your ex named Mark? if so, perhaps he is the same ex-husband who > is trying to take my son away from me? lol > > It's a shame some days that the Lord commanded me that I shalt not > kill, b/c that is the route I have often thought I would go. > He works 2 full-time jobs, and his wife works a full-time job. I am a > stay-at-home mom 98% of the time now and a L&D RN the other 2%. My ex > thinks that his home is better able to provide for our son. He just > sued me twice for increased vistitation and now has sued me for > physical custody. He says he wants " more time " with him. If he wasn't > working 2 FT jobs and going on out of town road trips 2-3 times a > month, he'd see him more. My husband and I decided it was more > important for me to stay home with the boys and raise them as best as > we can (church, respectful of others, decent, polite etc) than have > them exposed to many things that my ex-has at his house (cursing, > rude, impolite, tattoos, beer, no consistency or routine, eating > everything and anything he wants, Playstation 2 for hours on end, > bedtime at 11pm (my house it's 8:30-9:00) fights that end with them > putting my son in the bathroom, smoking in the house although my > court order states that there is to be no smoking in the house), and > 2 *anonymous* complaints investigated by the State Police and Social > Services that ****I**** was beating/abusing my son. When they showed > up, I was cleaning house, baking a cake and reading the Bible....lol > > anyway.... not knocking anyone in here or their habits, but I want > the best for my son and it IS NOT with his father. > > besides this... I could go on and on about other things in my life... > but I'll spare you all! > lol > > > Sheila > > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2004 Report Share Posted February 4, 2004 Yep. I know that feeling -- hate the waiting. But when you get pregnant then you have to wait 9 months to see your baby! So it is just preparation maybe. The more you know about your body though, the easier it will be able to get pregnant quickly. Good luck to you! Rasley mailto: drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Rasley > Hi - > I have been tracking my CM, and my fertile days. I havent dont the BBT yet, > I dont think I could be that consistant. It is just soooo hard playing the > waiting game. As I am sure everyone who is TTC goes thru! I have heard about > the book Taking Charge of your Fertility. I might just go buy it! > Thanks- B. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2004 Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 Hi I notice you are on here quite often and seems you converse with many members. I am still trying to find out what is the best method of birth control after your pregnancy. I have found many people who have had weight loss surgery and some are saying the pill is NOT VERY EFFECTIVE because our bodies are absorbing everthing and that the pill's effectiveness is alot less than 99%. How about your ideas on the shots or even the new IUD's. Thanks for any help you can give me on this. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- Re: Has anyone denied Glucose Tolerance Testing? > I refused to have it done. The results are not accurate on WLS patients > anyway so why risk getting sick for inaccurate results. Ask for a blood > fasting test. They take a blood test, you go eat, and then you come back and they do another blood test. I highly doubt it would fall under neglect. No > way! You are doing what is best for you -- if you get sick, it can't help > the baby. > Rasley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2004 Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 I am here. OKay my opinion is I am just coming off of Depo -- check the weight guidelines for it but I know it makes me hungrier than normal and made me eat like crazy. I wouldn't do it again but it is different for everyone. I know wanting to eat can be a side effect but it is effective. Drawback besides hunger: It could take a while to resume fertility after going off of it. But it will work. The IUD I dont know a lot about. And I wont speak about what I dont know except to say I know it is effective. You would have to discuss it with your doctor. Also consider mirena and Norplant (though that is five year protection but it depends on whether you want to have a baby right away). There is also condoms. I do know I have done BCPs and they were extremely effective -- got pregnant the first cycle I went off of them. It is definitely a personal decision for you that you have to decide based on how long you want to wait before you get pregnant (only until it is approved by your doctor or longterm?), what side effects you want to deal with, and the risks thereof. The best form of birth control I ever did was the patch but there is a weight limit of 198 on that I do believe. HTH somewhat mailto: dferguson@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > Hi > I notice you are on here quite often and seems you converse with many > members. I am still trying to find out what is the best method of birth > control after your pregnancy. I have found many people who have had weight > loss surgery and some are saying the pill is NOT VERY EFFECTIVE because our > bodies are absorbing everthing and that the pill's effectiveness is alot > less than 99%. How about your ideas on the shots or even the new IUD's. > Thanks for any help you can give me on this. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 , same question, when was ldpi and when did af return. I am hoping that because of us having the surgery, ours will be different from the majority of the people I am talking to on my depo support group. I too did not gain any weight, but I think that is attributalbe to the surgery. I also stopped loosing completely at 12 months and have actually gained 7 pounds and am not quit 15 months post op. So, as most of you know, you are still loosing at 15 months, so that might have had something to do with the depo. I am going to a gym 4 days a week and eating RIGHT, and cannot loose ONE pound!!!! angela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 , My ldpi (last depo provera injection) was in December about a week before Christmas eve. I had a really wierd period the last week of February and first week of March. It was really dark black blood with a few clots. But it was not constant. I went through about two pads a day then it stopped. It was annoying. I have not had a real period nor did I get my next dpi -- I figure I won't because of my current situation. I could have swore I would have gained twenty pounds or so but all my clothes still fit and when I step on the scale it says 174-176. No real weight gain. I feel heavier and don't really like it but my weight hasn't changed. Does that help? mailto: dferguson@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Re: Rasley > , > same question, when was ldpi and when did af return. I am hoping > that because of us having the surgery, ours will be different from > the majority of the people I am talking to on my depo support group. > I too did not gain any weight, but I think that is attributalbe to > the surgery. I also stopped loosing completely at 12 months and have > actually gained 7 pounds and am not quit 15 months post op. So, as > most of you know, you are still loosing at 15 months, so that might > have had something to do with the depo. I am going to a gym 4 days a > week and eating RIGHT, and cannot loose ONE pound!!!! > > angela > > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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