Help with Behavior and Communication

[Guest guest]

Hi all! I am new to this group, but desperately need some advice. My

son (almost 7) was diagnosed almost 2 years ago with a complex 1

defect. He is my oldest of 4 children. He is completely non-verbal,

ambulatory with a clumbsy gate, poor fine motor skills (ie - uses a

raking motion with his fingers to pick things up), tube fed due to

aspiration and failure to thrive and unexplained vomitting (daily).

He is very frustrated because he can't communicate, but makes no

attempt to use PECS, signs, etc. We think he can't organize and

motor plan enough to do so without hand-over-hand support. He does

seem to comprehend most of what we say.

He spends his time at home putting his siblings in a choke-hold,

pulling his sisters hair, wrestling them, etc. He also has gotten

incredibly obsessed with lining up or piling everything in our house.

If I leave the pantry open he will empty the shelves and I'll find a

mound somewhere. He constantly steels the pillows off every bed in

the house and puts them on his brothers bunk (then goes totally nuts

when we try to reclaim them at bedtime). He lines the shoes up at

the back door, our glasses at dinner, the kitchen chairs and stools.

I can't take it anymore. I want a peaceful house that doesn't look

like it has been ransacked. I love my son soooo much, but find

myself feeling very angry at him for being so disruptive. I hate how

I am feeling. How can I help him?

I am sorry this is so long, but as you can see, I need help! Any

advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you all for listening!