Re: RAMBLIN' ROSE

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Rose,

I can sympathize with you on this completely. My son

is now gone to a psych./drug treatment facility. He

was hit by a car on his 3-wheeler about 3 years ago,

and his behavior became very aggresive after it. He

would always act out towards me, yelling, cussing, and

throwing things. I begged from help from the local

authorities, and agencies, but they didn't help at

all. He finally got in trouble with the law at 16y/o,

although I believe that the local officers set him up

for it, but I know of things that he did do that were

illegal. They tried to send him to juvenile prison

here, I got him admitted to a christian based facility

and he is living there now. He was admitted on Mar.

29th, I haven't had contact with him yet besides just

letters. He will be allowed one phone call per week

starting May 1st. I am hoping this is the step he

needs to start his life fresh and free from all the

problems he has been having. You should not feel like

this is your fault.... I know I have been there too.

All teenagers lash out, and I happen to know from

first hand experience that they most generally lash

out at the person that means the most to them.... The

one that it will hurt the most and get the most

reaction from.... This apparently is you Rose, like it

is me with my son. I know how terribly hard it can

be, but you have to remember that she has to make up

her own mind about change and doing the right

thing.... Maybe she wasn't ready to come home yet, she

didn't do what she knows in heart is the right thing,

so maybe this time will be the start of a new

beginning for her. I feel for you Rose because I have

been dealing with the same thing for a few years

now...YOu have no reason to put it on yourself... Let

her own her responsibility in this problem... She

created it, not you.... It is her own fault. She knew

the cost of doing something wrong and now she has to

pay the price. I hope this doesn't sound harsh because

I have lost alot of sleep being where you are now, and

I can tell you that they now deep down know who's

fault it is. I hope this helps and I will keep you in

my thoughts....If you need to talk just yell.

Love ya,

Allissa

--- marla mebramer@...> wrote:

> Rose,

> You didn't let down, let herself

> down. She should be

> grateful there is someone who is willing to help her

> get her life back

> on track, but as you know it doesn't matter what you

> do, it won't happen

> until they make it happen. She has no idea how

> lucky she is to have

> you, so many kids with no one to care for them or

> love them. You are

> always there for Sam, and have been for years. She

> in fact let you

> down. Now all you can really do is pray that she

> will grow up enough to

> realize that life is not about who did her wrong,

> but about what she did

> right. Nothing anyone can say can make her think

> that way until she is

> ready. As " " our heavenly mother to watch over

> her now, and guide

> her, she will.

> Rose don't be hard on yourself, you are a wonderful

> person, and

> grandmother, some day will see this and

> tell you, until then,

> prayer.

> hugs and blessings,

> Marla

> Remember loves her as much as you do.

>

>

> >I'm feeling pretty down today. My granddaughter,

> , was taken back to

> >the Girls School yesterday by her parole officer.

> She's been acting out lately,

> >but I didn't report it, because I kept hoping she

> would get back on the right

> >path & stay there. But Monday she & another girl

> skipped school & shoplifted

> >some clothes. They were caught, although Sam

> didn't actually have any

> >merchandise on her, so she wasn't arrested for the

> shoplifting. But the truancy

> >was a parole violation, along with having another

> passenger in the car. The

> >clincher was when her P.O. went to the school &

> checked her attendance record.

> >In two months she had 52 incidents of missing one

> or more classes, plus the full

> >days that I knew about. The school has a website

> where parents can check

> >grades, attendance, etc. I've been checking it,

> but apparently they don't

> >include missed classes, just full days.

> >

> >I took her to school yesterday morning, knowing

> that her P.O. was going to take

> >her out of school. She knew it was likely too, but

> she was hoping I'd talk him

> >out of it. I came home & just went to sleep, so I

> wouldn't have to think about

> >it. He came by later & talked about it. She will

> have a hearing in 2-3 weeks

> >to determine what happens next. I feel like I

> failed her, even though I did

> >everything I could think of to encourage her to

> make healthy choices. Last week

> >we were talking about the prom, and looking on the

> Internet for info on cheap

> >travel in Europe, as she wanted to do something

> like that before starting

> >college. And all this time she was skipping

> school, blowing off school

> >assignments, and lying to me about where she went,

> etc. I tried the philosophy

> >that kids will live up to your expectations, so I

> gave her some freedom, and she

> >just took advantage of me. Now she tells her P.O.

> she never wants to talk to me

> >again, like I'm the one who screwed up.

> >

> >What can I do? What should I do? I just feel

> demoralized. The only way I can

> >function is to just shove it down under some of the

> other shit I've buried.

> >Thanks for being the kind of people I can be honest

> with.

> >

> >*Ramblin' Rose*

> >

> >*Moderator*

> >

> >

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