Guest guest Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 shirley, My heart goes out to the both of you. This is horrid--absolutely horrid. I've heard this story several ties, with a friend who's sister just lost her battle with MS. Her caregivers were not always "caring." Do realize that you are not to blame-- we all trust that the people that we pay via our taxes are going to do their job. That's how it should be. Give Steve my love, and know you're in my prayers, Tracie NS Co-owner/moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2006 Report Share Posted March 29, 2006 Shirley, I couldn't have said it any better than Rose and please know my prayers are with both of you. hugs S.Rose wrote: Shirley, please give Steve a gentle hug for us when you see him. What an awful person, to abuse & neglect him like that. This brings up my bad side, that wants to wish something horrible on her, so that she can lie helpless & know what it's like. But I don't want to waste energy on that; let the universe take care of her. I know as his mother how painful this must be. You've done such a good job helping him, with your own health problems. Does Steve have a case manager, someone to coordinate his needs? That would probably be helpful when he comes back home, to get trustworthy & compassionate caregivers. Are you able to take care of yourself, as far as your emotional needs? Do you have someone to lean on? I will keep both you and Steve in my thoughts & prayers. Ramblin' Rose Moderator Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis To: "Neurosarcoidosis " <Neurosarcoidosis >Subject: Steve WellsDate: Tue, 28 Mar 2006 08:25:02 -0800 (PST) Steve is very, very ill. He is in ICU. With a breathing tube, and lots of pain meds. My last email to you guys was telling you how good his care giver was. NOT! She abused him, stole from him, money and drugs, and threatened to send him to nursing home. Sometimes he didn't get anything to eat until 2pm. and he has lost over 20 pounds in last few months. He was afraid to tell anyone because she threatened him. I am still on the disabled list, and he knew I couldn't come in and stay with him. He finally called me and said he needed help, he is bed ridden and completely dependent on his care giver. Sometimes he was left in care of a 14 year old. His bed sores were so bad, a child's fist could fit in the sore. She was being paid by The State 24/7 but was leaving him to go to another job. Just be careful who you hire. The authorities can't do anything. No proof!! And please pray for him. He is strong but is just getting over pneumonia, and being run down is not helping his condition any. I am staying at his apartment to take care of his dog. Have found all kinds of notes he has written. Like she left the front door open and cold air coming in right on him, took 7 times for her to answer his call for something to drink, and for his pain meds. On and on. We should have paid more attention, but she didn't encourage company. She told my grandaughter it wasn't necessary for her to check on him. He was fine. And he wouldn't tell anyone. She was always standing on the other side of the wall listening, and then would take it out on him. EVIL Shirley Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Neurosarcoidosis CommunityNS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now.Message Archives:-http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messagesMembers Database:-Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers.http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2006 Report Share Posted March 29, 2006 Dear Shirley, I am so terribly sorry this has happened to Steve, you and your family. Evil is the right word to choose, but focusing on Steve and his healing and wellness is the important thing. There is no room for feeling guilty for what you should have known or done, there was no way you could have known what was happening Shirley , Steve was looking out for you , for all the times you looked out for him. Knowing that you have your own health issues at this time. God bless all of you, know that you are in my prayers and thoughts. Please do keep us updated. It saddens me so deeply the state of mind and being people are in. Do take care and know we are praying for you and waiting to hear from you whenever you can. God Bless Kim (Kuwaiti Kim) NS Moderator Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2006 Report Share Posted April 1, 2006 Shirley, I am saddened to hear of Steve's passing. My best wishes go out to you and your family in this your time of sorrow. sincerely, S.Shirley Niemi wrote: Steve passed away Wednesday.. He had a fever of 107.2 and was in a coma like condition. We removed his life support and let him go. He was ready and the day before opened his eyes and squeezed his brothers hand as if to say let me go. No more pain. Shirley New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC for low, low rates. ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Neurosarcoidosis CommunityNS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now.Message Archives:-http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messagesMembers Database:-Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers.http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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