Guest guest Posted March 5, 2006 Report Share Posted March 5, 2006 You know Ron, that does make sense. I was feeling like he was just moving on without me, or that my parents had over stepped their boundaries and had not really kept an eye on him while I was sick. He was soooo mad at me for being sick, I didn't and still have a hard time understanding. You know I was a nurse for 25 years and I had never seen anyone that cared or loved another act like that.. Thanks Ron, after I read Rose's reply about alien's snatching their brain's from age 16 to about 26 I was stunned and hurt. Of course I don't believe that is the true case, but I guess you can call teenage hormones an alien..anyway they are not the same kids that we watched grow up needing us, wanting our attention and our approval, to barely grunting when they start thinking about cars, girls and friends. I want him to have a happy life, and a great human being as a man.. So I guess all I can do is hope and pray that something that I taught him will show him the right path's to take in life, I just wasn't expecting it so soon. Ron, your wisdom and sharing your story about your daughter makes sense to me, usually daddy's little girls are their most precious beings in life, so is this little boy that came to me so dirty, so stinky, so scared.. but he sure put on a strong face for a 5 year old. Much thanks to you all for helping me see this.. Hugz., t -- ...Damian? Hello my friend. I am so sorry to hear of your recent events that have compounded your situation. I really am.As I read your post and others as it relates to Damian and your situation, I could not help but feel compassion for both of you. Why?Because my daughter acts similar. Since my diagnosis 10 years ago she has never been able to totally accept it. Sometimes are more difficult than others. She mostly pretends that it doesn't exist, and blocks it out. By doing this, (ignoring it) she hopes that it will work itself out our eventually go away. However, she does have her moments when she breaks down.But back to you and Damian. Perhaps Damian is in denial also. Perhaps he is even afraid of losing you. You mentioned that you adopted Damian. Well, can you imagine the fear of losing a parent after waiting so long to get one and a stable home environment? Poor kid. He must be asking himself, why me? Why can't I be happy like other normal kids and have a normal home life with normal healthy parents? Then imagine the guilt he must feel for even thinking this way. I know its hard, but try to put yourself in his shoes and how his life has been plagued with disappointment after disappointment. Just when things seem to be getting on track then all of a sudden another bomb is dropped on him.Yes, I know, "what about me?" I feel the same way too at times when it comes to my precious (my daughter). I have cried many of nights for her love and affection. But I remind myself of how our Father feels when we neglect Him and pay Him no attention. Then I find strength in this, and then He comforts me through it all.Parenting is not for cowards. So suck it up and be "strong and courageous" my dear sister.My prayers are with you and your son.Love, Your friend, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2006 Report Share Posted March 6, 2006 , It is a shocking eye opening experience to see the transistion in our children going from a helpless, needy talkative person to a isolated, distant introvert. This was and still is very hard for me to handle, no matter how much I try to befriend them. I am totally overwhelmed by the selfish nature of teenagers. Its like where is your heart? They only seem to have a heart for their peers that is until their peers double cross them and breaks their poor little hearts. Then they want to run home and look pitiful and cry on your shoulder and then drop you like a hot potato again. Yes, it is a emotional roller coaster. I guess from their hormonal thing. Anyway, continue to hang in there my dear friend. Just like you said, "train up a child in the way they should go and when they are older they will not depart from it." So let us hope, trained (discipline) and continue to pray that our lessons taught will stick at the times when needed most. Keep praying my friend they all can use it. The kids today have so much coming at them that it is frightening and overwhelming. Imgaine if you were growing up during this time opposed to when you did and had to make decisions on drugs, safe sex, violence, murder, gangs, drive bys, homosexuality, devil worship, clicks and just to name a few. And don't forget the school bullies at Columbine and across the nation. Its no wonder why some of our kids just "snap" and go for broke! Huh? They need Jesus to hold on too!!! Amen? Love ya, >> You know Ron, that does make sense. I was feeling like he was just moving> on without me, or that my parents had over stepped their boundaries and had> not really kept an eye on him while I was sick. He was soooo mad at me for> being sick, I didn't and still have a hard time understanding. You know I> was a nurse for 25 years and I had never seen anyone that cared or loved> another act like that.. > > Thanks Ron, after I read Rose's reply about alien's snatching their brain's> from age 16 to about 26 I was stunned and hurt. Of course I don't believe> that is the true case, but I guess you can call teenage hormones an alien.> anyway they are not the same kids that we watched grow up needing us,> wanting our attention and our approval, to barely grunting when they start> thinking about cars, girls and friends. I want him to have a happy life,> and a great human being as a man.. So I guess all I can do is hope and pray> that something that I taught him will show him the right path's to take in> life, I just wasn't expecting it so soon. > > Ron, your wisdom and sharing your story about your daughter makes sense to> me, usually daddy's little girls are their most precious beings in life, so> is this little boy that came to me so dirty, so stinky, so scared.. but he> sure put on a strong face for a 5 year old. > > Much thanks to you all for helping me see this.. > > Hugz., > t > > -- ...Damian? > > Hello my friend. I am so sorry to hear of your recent events that > have compounded your situation. I really am. > > As I read your post and others as it relates to Damian and your > situation, I could not help but feel compassion for both of you. > > Why? > > Because my daughter acts similar. Since my diagnosis 10 years ago > she has never been able to totally accept it. Sometimes are more > difficult than others. She mostly pretends that it doesn't exist, > and blocks it out. By doing this, (ignoring it) she hopes that it > will work itself out our eventually go away. However, she does have > her moments when she breaks down. > > But back to you and Damian. Perhaps Damian is in denial also. > Perhaps he is even afraid of losing you. You mentioned that you > adopted Damian. Well, can you imagine the fear of losing a parent > after waiting so long to get one and a stable home environment? Poor > kid. He must be asking himself, why me? Why can't I be happy like > other normal kids and have a normal home life with normal healthy > parents? Then imagine the guilt he must feel for even thinking this > way. I know its hard, but try to put yourself in his shoes and how > his life has been plagued with disappointment after disappointment. > Just when things seem to be getting on track then all of a sudden > another bomb is dropped on him. > > Yes, I know, "what about me?" I feel the same way too at times when > it comes to my precious (my daughter). I have cried many of > nights for her love and affection. But I remind myself of how our > Father feels when we neglect Him and pay Him no attention. Then I > find strength in this, and then He comforts me through it all. > > Parenting is not for cowards. So suck it up and be "strong and > courageous" my dear sister. > > My prayers are with you and your son. > > Love, Your friend, > > > > > > > > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~ > The Neurosarcoidosis Community > > NS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now. > > Message Archives:- > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messages > > Members Database:- > Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers. > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2006 Report Share Posted March 6, 2006 , It is a shocking eye opening experience to see the transistion in our children going from a helpless, needy talkative person to a isolated, distant introvert. This was and still is very hard for me to handle, no matter how much I try to befriend them. I am totally overwhelmed by the selfish nature of teenagers. Its like where is your heart? They only seem to have a heart for their peers that is until their peers double cross them and breaks their poor little hearts. Then they want to run home and look pitiful and cry on your shoulder and then drop you like a hot potato again. Yes, it is a emotional roller coaster. I guess from their hormonal thing. Anyway, continue to hang in there my dear friend. Just like you said, "train up a child in the way they should go and when they are older they will not depart from it." So let us hope, trained (discipline) and continue to pray that our lessons taught will stick at the times when needed most. Keep praying my friend they all can use it. The kids today have so much coming at them that it is frightening and overwhelming. Imgaine if you were growing up during this time opposed to when you did and had to make decisions on drugs, safe sex, violence, murder, gangs, drive bys, homosexuality, devil worship, clicks and just to name a few. And don't forget the school bullies at Columbine and across the nation. Its no wonder why some of our kids just "snap" and go for broke! Huh? They need Jesus to hold on too!!! Amen? Love ya, >> You know Ron, that does make sense. I was feeling like he was just moving> on without me, or that my parents had over stepped their boundaries and had> not really kept an eye on him while I was sick. He was soooo mad at me for> being sick, I didn't and still have a hard time understanding. You know I> was a nurse for 25 years and I had never seen anyone that cared or loved> another act like that.. > > Thanks Ron, after I read Rose's reply about alien's snatching their brain's> from age 16 to about 26 I was stunned and hurt. Of course I don't believe> that is the true case, but I guess you can call teenage hormones an alien.> anyway they are not the same kids that we watched grow up needing us,> wanting our attention and our approval, to barely grunting when they start> thinking about cars, girls and friends. I want him to have a happy life,> and a great human being as a man.. So I guess all I can do is hope and pray> that something that I taught him will show him the right path's to take in> life, I just wasn't expecting it so soon. > > Ron, your wisdom and sharing your story about your daughter makes sense to> me, usually daddy's little girls are their most precious beings in life, so> is this little boy that came to me so dirty, so stinky, so scared.. but he> sure put on a strong face for a 5 year old. > > Much thanks to you all for helping me see this.. > > Hugz., > t > > -- ...Damian? > > Hello my friend. I am so sorry to hear of your recent events that > have compounded your situation. I really am. > > As I read your post and others as it relates to Damian and your > situation, I could not help but feel compassion for both of you. > > Why? > > Because my daughter acts similar. Since my diagnosis 10 years ago > she has never been able to totally accept it. Sometimes are more > difficult than others. She mostly pretends that it doesn't exist, > and blocks it out. By doing this, (ignoring it) she hopes that it > will work itself out our eventually go away. However, she does have > her moments when she breaks down. > > But back to you and Damian. Perhaps Damian is in denial also. > Perhaps he is even afraid of losing you. You mentioned that you > adopted Damian. Well, can you imagine the fear of losing a parent > after waiting so long to get one and a stable home environment? Poor > kid. He must be asking himself, why me? Why can't I be happy like > other normal kids and have a normal home life with normal healthy > parents? Then imagine the guilt he must feel for even thinking this > way. I know its hard, but try to put yourself in his shoes and how > his life has been plagued with disappointment after disappointment. > Just when things seem to be getting on track then all of a sudden > another bomb is dropped on him. > > Yes, I know, "what about me?" I feel the same way too at times when > it comes to my precious (my daughter). I have cried many of > nights for her love and affection. But I remind myself of how our > Father feels when we neglect Him and pay Him no attention. Then I > find strength in this, and then He comforts me through it all. > > Parenting is not for cowards. So suck it up and be "strong and > courageous" my dear sister. > > My prayers are with you and your son. > > Love, Your friend, > > > > > > > > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~ > The Neurosarcoidosis Community > > NS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now. > > Message Archives:- > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messages > > Members Database:- > Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers. > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2006 Report Share Posted March 6, 2006 , It is a shocking eye opening experience to see the transistion in our children going from a helpless, needy talkative person to a isolated, distant introvert. This was and still is very hard for me to handle, no matter how much I try to befriend them. I am totally overwhelmed by the selfish nature of teenagers. Its like where is your heart? They only seem to have a heart for their peers that is until their peers double cross them and breaks their poor little hearts. Then they want to run home and look pitiful and cry on your shoulder and then drop you like a hot potato again. Yes, it is a emotional roller coaster. I guess from their hormonal thing. Anyway, continue to hang in there my dear friend. Just like you said, "train up a child in the way they should go and when they are older they will not depart from it." So let us hope, trained (discipline) and continue to pray that our lessons taught will stick at the times when needed most. Keep praying my friend they all can use it. The kids today have so much coming at them that it is frightening and overwhelming. Imgaine if you were growing up during this time opposed to when you did and had to make decisions on drugs, safe sex, violence, murder, gangs, drive bys, homosexuality, devil worship, clicks and just to name a few. And don't forget the school bullies at Columbine and across the nation. Its no wonder why some of our kids just "snap" and go for broke! Huh? They need Jesus to hold on too!!! Amen? Love ya, >> You know Ron, that does make sense. I was feeling like he was just moving> on without me, or that my parents had over stepped their boundaries and had> not really kept an eye on him while I was sick. He was soooo mad at me for> being sick, I didn't and still have a hard time understanding. You know I> was a nurse for 25 years and I had never seen anyone that cared or loved> another act like that.. > > Thanks Ron, after I read Rose's reply about alien's snatching their brain's> from age 16 to about 26 I was stunned and hurt. Of course I don't believe> that is the true case, but I guess you can call teenage hormones an alien.> anyway they are not the same kids that we watched grow up needing us,> wanting our attention and our approval, to barely grunting when they start> thinking about cars, girls and friends. I want him to have a happy life,> and a great human being as a man.. So I guess all I can do is hope and pray> that something that I taught him will show him the right path's to take in> life, I just wasn't expecting it so soon. > > Ron, your wisdom and sharing your story about your daughter makes sense to> me, usually daddy's little girls are their most precious beings in life, so> is this little boy that came to me so dirty, so stinky, so scared.. but he> sure put on a strong face for a 5 year old. > > Much thanks to you all for helping me see this.. > > Hugz., > t > > -- ...Damian? > > Hello my friend. I am so sorry to hear of your recent events that > have compounded your situation. I really am. > > As I read your post and others as it relates to Damian and your > situation, I could not help but feel compassion for both of you. > > Why? > > Because my daughter acts similar. Since my diagnosis 10 years ago > she has never been able to totally accept it. Sometimes are more > difficult than others. She mostly pretends that it doesn't exist, > and blocks it out. By doing this, (ignoring it) she hopes that it > will work itself out our eventually go away. However, she does have > her moments when she breaks down. > > But back to you and Damian. Perhaps Damian is in denial also. > Perhaps he is even afraid of losing you. You mentioned that you > adopted Damian. Well, can you imagine the fear of losing a parent > after waiting so long to get one and a stable home environment? Poor > kid. He must be asking himself, why me? Why can't I be happy like > other normal kids and have a normal home life with normal healthy > parents? Then imagine the guilt he must feel for even thinking this > way. I know its hard, but try to put yourself in his shoes and how > his life has been plagued with disappointment after disappointment. > Just when things seem to be getting on track then all of a sudden > another bomb is dropped on him. > > Yes, I know, "what about me?" I feel the same way too at times when > it comes to my precious (my daughter). I have cried many of > nights for her love and affection. But I remind myself of how our > Father feels when we neglect Him and pay Him no attention. Then I > find strength in this, and then He comforts me through it all. > > Parenting is not for cowards. So suck it up and be "strong and > courageous" my dear sister. > > My prayers are with you and your son. > > Love, Your friend, > > > > > > > > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~ > The Neurosarcoidosis Community > > NS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now. > > Message Archives:- > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messages > > Members Database:- > Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers. > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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