Re: ...Damian?

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You know Ron, that does make sense. I was feeling like he was just moving on without me, or that my parents had over stepped their boundaries and had not really kept an eye on him while I was sick. He was soooo mad at me for being sick, I didn't and still have a hard time understanding. You know I was a nurse for 25 years and I had never seen anyone that cared or loved another act like that..

Thanks Ron, after I read Rose's reply about alien's snatching their brain's from age 16 to about 26 I was stunned and hurt. Of course I don't believe that is the true case, but I guess you can call teenage hormones an alien..anyway they are not the same kids that we watched grow up needing us, wanting our attention and our approval, to barely grunting when they start thinking about cars, girls and friends. I want him to have a happy life, and a great human being as a man.. So I guess all I can do is hope and pray that something that I taught him will show him the right path's to take in life, I just wasn't expecting it so soon.

Ron, your wisdom and sharing your story about your daughter makes sense to me, usually daddy's little girls are their most precious beings in life, so is this little boy that came to me so dirty, so stinky, so scared.. but he sure put on a strong face for a 5 year old.

Much thanks to you all for helping me see this..

Hugz.,

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-- ...Damian?

Hello my friend. I am so sorry to hear of your recent events that have compounded your situation. I really am.As I read your post and others as it relates to Damian and your situation, I could not help but feel compassion for both of you. Why?Because my daughter acts similar. Since my diagnosis 10 years ago she has never been able to totally accept it. Sometimes are more difficult than others. She mostly pretends that it doesn't exist, and blocks it out. By doing this, (ignoring it) she hopes that it will work itself out our eventually go away. However, she does have her moments when she breaks down.But back to you and Damian. Perhaps Damian is in denial also. Perhaps he is even afraid of losing you. You mentioned that you adopted Damian. Well, can you imagine the fear of losing a parent after waiting so long to get one and a stable home environment? Poor kid. He must be asking himself, why me? Why can't I be happy like other normal kids and have a normal home life with normal healthy parents? Then imagine the guilt he must feel for even thinking this way. I know its hard, but try to put yourself in his shoes and how his life has been plagued with disappointment after disappointment. Just when things seem to be getting on track then all of a sudden another bomb is dropped on him.Yes, I know, "what about me?" I feel the same way too at times when it comes to my precious (my daughter). I have cried many of nights for her love and affection. But I remind myself of how our Father feels when we neglect Him and pay Him no attention. Then I find strength in this, and then He comforts me through it all.Parenting is not for cowards. So suck it up and be "strong and courageous" my dear sister.My prayers are with you and your son.Love, Your friend, >