Guest guest Posted June 7, 2006 Report Share Posted June 7, 2006 , Like you I always like to be friends with people (pred has seemed to make me a little ornery) but I really love people. As to some past whatever, no matter what has happened in the past a person has the ability to chose how they will act. I do know of where I speak. Not everyone that had a very rough life choses to be horrible, some chose to break the cycle and be someone great. I bet you weren't born with a silver spoon in your mouth, and I "know" healthwise you have been dealt an extreme blow; but you are still a warm, loving, kind, compassionate human being. I will be praying that Lord willing he will open up a way for you to move to a different a better place (one without this landlord). Please take care yourself diamonds are rare and exquisite and we appreciate you. IMP.(I just looked at that accronym, it means in my prayers; not that I'm an imp).......Connie Solberg wrote: Connie, I agree with everything you said. Call it karma or the golden rule or'that which goes around comes around'. I often wonder what might have happened in her childhood to make her this way. This shocking type of hardness of heart has got to come from somewhere/some prior event. It's really no way to live is it?... I naively thought you should always try to be friends with everybody but that's just not possible. hugs S.Connie Griffis wrote: It stinks that there are people that call themselves human that can act like that. Personally I would be afraid if I was them, they are not dead yet and health problems are not picky about who they attack. I do not wish her any harm, but to many times I have seen people like this find out the hard way that they should have been kinder. She also needs to look up the definition of friend, she doesn't qualify. You were smart to distance yourself, as bad as we hate it; sometimes that's the only thing we can do. Hugs coming yur way chica......Connie Solberg wrote: ...speaking of 'encounters'... One of my 'best'? friends and her husband decided I wasn't really so sick...that I just didn't want to do housework anymore. I think she got this from 'her' perspective not mine cuz she never was the best housekeeper. My house was always cleaner than hers...so why not hit me when I'm low and my house has been messy cuz i've been really sick. Another point of hers... that if I was able to paint...I was able to sit in church. I heard this several times. They forget the part about getting dressed after taking a shower(already exhausted) then the drive to and from church and sitting in hard chairs. It also took me nearly five minutes to walk from getting dropped off to get inside and climb down stairs and find a chair. By the time I would get there I wanted to turn around and go home and go to bed. The good thing is that the people at my church are very understanding and compassionate and know that when I do get there it's been an ordeal. (She goes to my old church). I gave her the booklet.....But You Look Good..... and they laughed hardily at several passages in it. yup, they did. I never knew a friend could hurt me so much. They just took it all totally wrong...like I was saying I looked so good... which wasn't the point of it at all. The funny thing is that she has seen me in the ICU and hospital and I've been so sick I had to have a nebulizer and shots for pain. I have had to separate myself from her because of these constant hurtful things she says and now she's using 'that' to say more stuff about me. She is also a very competitive person. Once when I had lost alot of weight she asked me what I weighed and said ...well, I still weigh less than you. Jealous. Toxic. so I have had to keep my distance for my own sanity...which is so sad. I have come to accept weird doctors but the weird 'friends' is a bit harder. If I hadn't had this group over the years I wouldn't have had any friends at all. thanks for being there for me, too. hugs S. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2006 Report Share Posted June 7, 2006 , Like you I always like to be friends with people (pred has seemed to make me a little ornery) but I really love people. As to some past whatever, no matter what has happened in the past a person has the ability to chose how they will act. I do know of where I speak. Not everyone that had a very rough life choses to be horrible, some chose to break the cycle and be someone great. I bet you weren't born with a silver spoon in your mouth, and I "know" healthwise you have been dealt an extreme blow; but you are still a warm, loving, kind, compassionate human being. I will be praying that Lord willing he will open up a way for you to move to a different a better place (one without this landlord). Please take care yourself diamonds are rare and exquisite and we appreciate you. IMP.(I just looked at that accronym, it means in my prayers; not that I'm an imp).......Connie Solberg wrote: Connie, I agree with everything you said. Call it karma or the golden rule or'that which goes around comes around'. I often wonder what might have happened in her childhood to make her this way. This shocking type of hardness of heart has got to come from somewhere/some prior event. It's really no way to live is it?... I naively thought you should always try to be friends with everybody but that's just not possible. hugs S.Connie Griffis wrote: It stinks that there are people that call themselves human that can act like that. Personally I would be afraid if I was them, they are not dead yet and health problems are not picky about who they attack. I do not wish her any harm, but to many times I have seen people like this find out the hard way that they should have been kinder. She also needs to look up the definition of friend, she doesn't qualify. You were smart to distance yourself, as bad as we hate it; sometimes that's the only thing we can do. Hugs coming yur way chica......Connie Solberg wrote: ...speaking of 'encounters'... One of my 'best'? friends and her husband decided I wasn't really so sick...that I just didn't want to do housework anymore. I think she got this from 'her' perspective not mine cuz she never was the best housekeeper. My house was always cleaner than hers...so why not hit me when I'm low and my house has been messy cuz i've been really sick. Another point of hers... that if I was able to paint...I was able to sit in church. I heard this several times. They forget the part about getting dressed after taking a shower(already exhausted) then the drive to and from church and sitting in hard chairs. It also took me nearly five minutes to walk from getting dropped off to get inside and climb down stairs and find a chair. By the time I would get there I wanted to turn around and go home and go to bed. The good thing is that the people at my church are very understanding and compassionate and know that when I do get there it's been an ordeal. (She goes to my old church). I gave her the booklet.....But You Look Good..... and they laughed hardily at several passages in it. yup, they did. I never knew a friend could hurt me so much. They just took it all totally wrong...like I was saying I looked so good... which wasn't the point of it at all. The funny thing is that she has seen me in the ICU and hospital and I've been so sick I had to have a nebulizer and shots for pain. I have had to separate myself from her because of these constant hurtful things she says and now she's using 'that' to say more stuff about me. She is also a very competitive person. Once when I had lost alot of weight she asked me what I weighed and said ...well, I still weigh less than you. Jealous. Toxic. so I have had to keep my distance for my own sanity...which is so sad. I have come to accept weird doctors but the weird 'friends' is a bit harder. If I hadn't had this group over the years I wouldn't have had any friends at all. thanks for being there for me, too. hugs S. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2006 Report Share Posted June 7, 2006 , Like you I always like to be friends with people (pred has seemed to make me a little ornery) but I really love people. As to some past whatever, no matter what has happened in the past a person has the ability to chose how they will act. I do know of where I speak. Not everyone that had a very rough life choses to be horrible, some chose to break the cycle and be someone great. I bet you weren't born with a silver spoon in your mouth, and I "know" healthwise you have been dealt an extreme blow; but you are still a warm, loving, kind, compassionate human being. I will be praying that Lord willing he will open up a way for you to move to a different a better place (one without this landlord). Please take care yourself diamonds are rare and exquisite and we appreciate you. IMP.(I just looked at that accronym, it means in my prayers; not that I'm an imp).......Connie Solberg wrote: Connie, I agree with everything you said. Call it karma or the golden rule or'that which goes around comes around'. I often wonder what might have happened in her childhood to make her this way. This shocking type of hardness of heart has got to come from somewhere/some prior event. It's really no way to live is it?... I naively thought you should always try to be friends with everybody but that's just not possible. hugs S.Connie Griffis wrote: It stinks that there are people that call themselves human that can act like that. Personally I would be afraid if I was them, they are not dead yet and health problems are not picky about who they attack. I do not wish her any harm, but to many times I have seen people like this find out the hard way that they should have been kinder. She also needs to look up the definition of friend, she doesn't qualify. You were smart to distance yourself, as bad as we hate it; sometimes that's the only thing we can do. Hugs coming yur way chica......Connie Solberg wrote: ...speaking of 'encounters'... One of my 'best'? friends and her husband decided I wasn't really so sick...that I just didn't want to do housework anymore. I think she got this from 'her' perspective not mine cuz she never was the best housekeeper. My house was always cleaner than hers...so why not hit me when I'm low and my house has been messy cuz i've been really sick. Another point of hers... that if I was able to paint...I was able to sit in church. I heard this several times. They forget the part about getting dressed after taking a shower(already exhausted) then the drive to and from church and sitting in hard chairs. It also took me nearly five minutes to walk from getting dropped off to get inside and climb down stairs and find a chair. By the time I would get there I wanted to turn around and go home and go to bed. The good thing is that the people at my church are very understanding and compassionate and know that when I do get there it's been an ordeal. (She goes to my old church). I gave her the booklet.....But You Look Good..... and they laughed hardily at several passages in it. yup, they did. I never knew a friend could hurt me so much. They just took it all totally wrong...like I was saying I looked so good... which wasn't the point of it at all. The funny thing is that she has seen me in the ICU and hospital and I've been so sick I had to have a nebulizer and shots for pain. I have had to separate myself from her because of these constant hurtful things she says and now she's using 'that' to say more stuff about me. She is also a very competitive person. Once when I had lost alot of weight she asked me what I weighed and said ...well, I still weigh less than you. Jealous. Toxic. so I have had to keep my distance for my own sanity...which is so sad. I have come to accept weird doctors but the weird 'friends' is a bit harder. If I hadn't had this group over the years I wouldn't have had any friends at all. thanks for being there for me, too. hugs S. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 Shirlye, It is good to see you posting. You have been missed, and I know that you are still recovering from Steve's passing. Stick your head in when you can, and know that you are loved and thought of often--even if we don't always say so. Blessings, Tracie NS Co-owner/moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 Shirlye, It is good to see you posting. You have been missed, and I know that you are still recovering from Steve's passing. Stick your head in when you can, and know that you are loved and thought of often--even if we don't always say so. Blessings, Tracie NS Co-owner/moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 Shirlye, It is good to see you posting. You have been missed, and I know that you are still recovering from Steve's passing. Stick your head in when you can, and know that you are loved and thought of often--even if we don't always say so. Blessings, Tracie NS Co-owner/moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 Hi, Shirley. It's so good to hear from you. You know that you will always be part of our family. I hope that you are doing okay; has your health improved any? Hugs from Indiana, Rose > ...speaking of 'encounters'... One of my 'best'? friends and her husband decided I wasn't really so sick...that I just didn't want to do housework anymore. I think she got this from 'her' perspective not mine cuz she never was the best housekeeper. My house was always cleaner than hers...so why not hit me when I'm low and my house has been messy cuz i've been really sick. Another point of hers... that if I was able to paint...I was able to sit in church. I heard this several times. They forget the part about getting dressed after taking a shower(already exhausted) then the drive to and from church and sitting in hard chairs. It also took me nearly five minutes to walk from getting dropped off to get inside and climb down stairs and find a chair. By the time I would get there I wanted to turn around and go home and go to bed. The good thing is that the people at my church are very understanding and compassionate and know that when I do get there it's > been an ordeal. (She goes to my old church). I gave her the booklet.....But You Look Good..... and they laughed hardily at several passages in it. yup, they did. I never knew a friend could hurt me so much. They just took it all totally wrong...like I was saying I looked so good... which wasn't the point of it at all. The funny thing is that she has seen me in the ICU and hospital and I've been so sick I had to have a nebulizer and shots for pain. I have had to separate myself from her because of these constant hurtful things she says and now she's using 'that' to say more stuff about me. She is also a very competitive person. Once when I had lost alot of weight she asked me what I weighed and said ...well, I still weigh less than you. Jealous. Toxic. so I have had to keep my distance for my own sanity...which is so sad. I have come to accept weird doctors but the weird 'friends' is a bit harder. If I hadn't had this group over the years I wouldn't have had > any friends at all. thanks for being there for me, too. hugs S. __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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