Re: Hurtful encounters...

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, Yes, I'm still subscribed. Can't seem to distance myself from all of you. I'm really sorry that these people treat you like they do. Guess they really weren't very good friends to begin with. Steve had one very good friend. They were friends sinse they were 10 years old. He is worth millions. Literally! Made it in the fishing industry. Owns several fishing boats. He came to see Steve all the time. Even put the gown and mask on to see him in ICU., you are such a beautiful person. Always the first to offer help and comfort on this site. These people just don't know what they will miss in their lives without you for a friend. God bless Shirley (Steves mom) Solberg wrote: ...speaking of 'encounters'... One of my 'best'? friends and her husband decided I wasn't really so sick...that I just didn't want to do housework anymore. I think she got this from 'her' perspective not mine cuz she never was the best housekeeper. My house was always cleaner than hers...so why not hit me when I'm low and my house has been messy cuz i've been really sick. Another point of hers... that if I was able to paint...I was able to sit in church. I heard this several times. They forget the part about getting dressed after taking a shower(already exhausted) then the drive to and from church and

sitting in hard chairs. It also took me nearly five minutes to walk from getting dropped off to get inside and climb down stairs and find a chair. By the time I would get there I wanted to turn around and go home and go to bed. The good thing is that the people at my church are very understanding and compassionate and know that when I do get there it's been an ordeal. (She goes to my old church). I gave her the booklet.....But You Look Good..... and they laughed hardily at several passages in it. yup, they did. I never knew a friend could hurt me so much. They just took it all totally wrong...like I was saying I looked so good... which wasn't the point of it at all. The funny thing is that she has seen me in the ICU and hospital and I've been so sick I had to have a nebulizer and shots for pain. I have had to separate myself from her because of these constant hurtful things she says and now she's

using 'that' to say more stuff about me. She is also a very competitive person. Once when I had lost alot of weight she asked me what I weighed and said ...well, I still weigh less than you. Jealous. Toxic. so I have had to keep my distance for my own sanity...which is so sad. I have come to accept weird doctors but the weird 'friends' is a bit harder. If I hadn't had this group over the years I wouldn't have had any friends at all. thanks for being there for me, too. hugs S. __________________________________________________