Re: need some input please(sorry long)

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Oh how I can relate. My daughter will be 14 in May and her friend has gotten her all intrested in boys. Some of the same things you have mentioned have crossed my ears lately.

I sure hope someone on this list has huge words of wisdom.....Lord knows I need to hear them!

I'll hang tough if you will......

Blessings,

Horsley

need some input please(sorry long)

hi, i hope some of you can help me. as i have told you my daughter brigitte is now 15 but in alot of ways has the mind of a 4 year old. she has met a boy her age through my cousins son and he came right out and told her she was very pretty. now she is asking things like can i have a boyfriend and if this boy wants her to go somewhere with him and his friends or parents she wants to go. she has said she will kiss him if he ask she even said the other kids dated when they where her age and we can't stop her.i know she is growing up and i want her to live as normal life as possible but can someone tell me how to explain the birds and bees to a child that wants to date but thinks you go to the vet to pick out a baby and he puts it in your bellyi know some of this might sound cute but its scary to know she wants this so bad and someone could take advantage of her bad cuz of the way she thinks. we told her she cant date cuz she has to be cathed and she says we can teach her boyfriend. can someone PLEASE HELP ME... it was so much easier with my other daughter and son. i guess nothing about this monster is really easy. my best to all and thanks for any input.

karen earlywine

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Hi- this may help?

http://www.autism.org/sexual.html

Cindy-GA

need some input please(sorry long)

hi, i hope some of you can help me. as i have told you my daughter brigitte is now 15 but in alot of ways has the mind of a 4 year old. she has met a boy her age through my cousins son and he came right out and told her she was very pretty. now she is asking things like can i have a boyfriend and if this boy wants her to go somewhere with him and his friends or parents she wants to go. she has said she will kiss him if he ask she even said the other kids dated when they where her age and we can't stop her.i know she is growing up and i want her to live as normal life as possible but can someone tell me how to explain the birds and bees to a child that wants to date but thinks you go to the vet to pick out a baby and he puts it in your bellyi know some of this might sound cute but its scary to know she wants this so bad and someone could take advantage of her bad cuz of the way she thinks. we told her she cant date cuz she has to be cathed and she says we can teach her boyfriend. can someone PLEASE HELP ME... it was so much easier with my other daughter and son. i guess nothing about this monster is really easy. my best to all and thanks for any input.

karen earlywine

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[Guest guest]

Kinda sounds like she is ready for "the talk". I am sure it is hard trying to let her date, but if she is ready maybe it is time. Of course, I do not know her situation but maybe some education in emotions and the birds and the bees will help. I used to work in a home for all mentally and physically handicapped people. It was actually considered a violation of there human rights if we did not let them date if they chose too, although they were over 18. The staff had men staff talk to the man and visa versa for the girl. They went as far as slideshows and how to put on condoms (though I would NOT go that far with a 15 year old.) Maybe you can suggest to her group dates. I think many parents are suggesting this type of dating at that age, anymore. Maybe you can offer to drive the group to the movies and be right there when it is over. This way she has her freedom, but you can be comfortable knowing she is safe. Also I would definatly want to talk to the boy's parents first. Explain to them your daughters special needs and explain your concern. Best of luck. I am dreading these days (I have 3 girls).

[Guest guest]

Another thought may be to see if you have an organization that deals with

down syndrome, etc. They may be able to guide you in the right direction

how to have the "talk" with you daughter. We have what is called

the ARC here in Appleton. If you don't have some one in your area,

let me know. I'm sure you could call the ARC here in Appleton, WI

and ask them questions or may be they would have a resource for you to

go to.

Nerenhausen

mom to Leah

Tommie & Horsley wrote:

, Oh

how I can relate. My daughter will be 14 in May and her friend has

gotten her all intrested in boys. Some of the same things you have mentioned

have crossed my ears lately.I

sure hope someone on this list has huge words of wisdom.....Lord knows

I need to hear them!I'll

hang tough if you will......Blessings,

Horsley

need some input please(sorry

long)

hi, i hope

some of you can help me. as i have told you my daughter brigitte is now

15 but in alot of ways has the mind of a 4 year old. she has met a boy

her age through my cousins son and he came right out and told her she was

very pretty. now she is asking things like can i have a boyfriend and if

this boy wants her to go somewhere with him and his friends or parents

she wants to go. she has said she will kiss him if he ask she

even said the other kids dated when they where her age and we can't stop

her.i

know she is growing up and i want her to live as normal life as possible

but can someone tell me how to explain the birds and bees to a child that

wants to date but thinks you go to the vet to pick out a baby and he puts

it in your bellyi

know some of this might sound cute but its scary to know she wants this

so bad and someone could take advantage of her bad cuz of the way she thinks.

we told her she cant date cuz she has to be cathed and she says we can

teach her boyfriend. can someone PLEASE HELP ME... it was so much easier

with my other daughter and son. i guess nothing about this monster is really

easy. my best to all and thanks for any input.karen earlywine

Please contact mito-owner with any problems

or questions.

Please contact mito-owner with any problems or questions.

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