Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Evening guys, I'm 3 weeks post-op today and not feeling to well. On Monday I was doing really good and took my kids to the mall and went grocery shopping. Naturally I was very tired and went right to bed immediately following, but I haven't been able to pick myself back up out of it again. I slept the majority of yesterday and today. I had to force myself to get out of bed and took a shower and tried moving around and stuff. I figured I had just got too much sleep and I would feel better once the " haze " lifted. Well, I've had my nightly mush and took another nap and I still feel like a big wet noodle. Are extreme ups and downs normal at this part of recovery? And to top it all off, it seems as if some of the places that had got feeling back around my lips, have suddenly gone numb again! What is up with that??? Tired of feeling like this..... Cyndi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 As Gity, the bariatric guru at SSF would say, " It's not about the chicken! " You said in your post, that you know why you're grazing, but I know that knowing something with the logical part of our brains doesn't always have an impact on the emotional part of our brains. You've had the mindfulness to realize what's happening, before it got too out of control. Many people don't have that " moment of clarity " until they's gained 20 pounds or more (if ever). For that reason alone, I'm sure you're going to get a grip on the situation. UNcle Timmy -236 > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 As Gity, the bariatric guru at SSF would say, " It's not about the chicken! " You said in your post, that you know why you're grazing, but I know that knowing something with the logical part of our brains doesn't always have an impact on the emotional part of our brains. You've had the mindfulness to realize what's happening, before it got too out of control. Many people don't have that " moment of clarity " until they's gained 20 pounds or more (if ever). For that reason alone, I'm sure you're going to get a grip on the situation. UNcle Timmy -236 > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 As Gity, the bariatric guru at SSF would say, " It's not about the chicken! " You said in your post, that you know why you're grazing, but I know that knowing something with the logical part of our brains doesn't always have an impact on the emotional part of our brains. You've had the mindfulness to realize what's happening, before it got too out of control. Many people don't have that " moment of clarity " until they's gained 20 pounds or more (if ever). For that reason alone, I'm sure you're going to get a grip on the situation. UNcle Timmy -236 > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , you are going through a completely normal cycle. First and foremost, please don't beat yourself up. I am sure that we all will be experiencing what you are. Life does not end with your 10 pounds gain or whatever the number is. I really think you are putting a lot of pressue on yourself and that is not healthy. I realize your situation...believe me I do. You don't have to worry about disappointing this group or our surgeons. What is truly important is simply this. Are you kind to yourself and love yourself? Yes. Are you kind to others and giving and compassionate? Yes you are. Are you healthy? For the most part...I think it is safe to say that yes you are. You have the formula so work it out my friend. No pressure because that is when we set those boobie tramps that we are not even aware that we have set. One day at a time. One meal at a time. , I am not sending negative stuff your way but honey if for some reason you remain at that weight for the rest of your life, its going to be alright, life won't end and I will still care about you just the same because when I see you, I am not looking at your physical body, rather, I am seeing your sweet spirit. Our bodies are temporary in this world and the only thing that truly matters when it is all said and done and we leave this world...the only thing that matters to God is how you lived your life and if you had faith. Love you so much dear and I am praying for you that you will have peace in the midst of this storm. It too shall pass. Pam Marsh --- Uncle Timmy n01un0@...> wrote: > As Gity, the bariatric guru at SSF would say, " It's > not about the > chicken! " You said in your post, that you know why > you're grazing, > but I know that knowing something with the logical > part of our brains > doesn't always have an impact on the emotional part > of our brains. > > You've had the mindfulness to realize what's > happening, before it got > too out of control. Many people don't have that > " moment of clarity " > until they's gained 20 pounds or more (if ever). > For that reason > alone, I'm sure you're going to get a grip on the > situation. > > UNcle Timmy -236 > > > > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a > grip and get back on > > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from > bouncing between 150 and > > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 > pound gain since > > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the > nutritionalist > > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont > know how to stop > > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of > determination but by 3 > pm > > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want > to eat at all. I > am > > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo > sooooo scared of > > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 > pounds back off!!! > > > > Im NOT eating today!! > > > > Too sad for huggles > > > __________________________________ Discover Yahoo! Get on-the-go sports scores, stock quotes, news and more. Check it out! http://discover.yahoo.com/mobile.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , you are going through a completely normal cycle. First and foremost, please don't beat yourself up. I am sure that we all will be experiencing what you are. Life does not end with your 10 pounds gain or whatever the number is. I really think you are putting a lot of pressue on yourself and that is not healthy. I realize your situation...believe me I do. You don't have to worry about disappointing this group or our surgeons. What is truly important is simply this. Are you kind to yourself and love yourself? Yes. Are you kind to others and giving and compassionate? Yes you are. Are you healthy? For the most part...I think it is safe to say that yes you are. You have the formula so work it out my friend. No pressure because that is when we set those boobie tramps that we are not even aware that we have set. One day at a time. One meal at a time. , I am not sending negative stuff your way but honey if for some reason you remain at that weight for the rest of your life, its going to be alright, life won't end and I will still care about you just the same because when I see you, I am not looking at your physical body, rather, I am seeing your sweet spirit. Our bodies are temporary in this world and the only thing that truly matters when it is all said and done and we leave this world...the only thing that matters to God is how you lived your life and if you had faith. Love you so much dear and I am praying for you that you will have peace in the midst of this storm. It too shall pass. Pam Marsh --- Uncle Timmy n01un0@...> wrote: > As Gity, the bariatric guru at SSF would say, " It's > not about the > chicken! " You said in your post, that you know why > you're grazing, > but I know that knowing something with the logical > part of our brains > doesn't always have an impact on the emotional part > of our brains. > > You've had the mindfulness to realize what's > happening, before it got > too out of control. Many people don't have that > " moment of clarity " > until they's gained 20 pounds or more (if ever). > For that reason > alone, I'm sure you're going to get a grip on the > situation. > > UNcle Timmy -236 > > > > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a > grip and get back on > > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from > bouncing between 150 and > > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 > pound gain since > > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the > nutritionalist > > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont > know how to stop > > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of > determination but by 3 > pm > > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want > to eat at all. I > am > > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo > sooooo scared of > > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 > pounds back off!!! > > > > Im NOT eating today!! > > > > Too sad for huggles > > > __________________________________ Discover Yahoo! Get on-the-go sports scores, stock quotes, news and more. Check it out! http://discover.yahoo.com/mobile.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , you are going through a completely normal cycle. First and foremost, please don't beat yourself up. I am sure that we all will be experiencing what you are. Life does not end with your 10 pounds gain or whatever the number is. I really think you are putting a lot of pressue on yourself and that is not healthy. I realize your situation...believe me I do. You don't have to worry about disappointing this group or our surgeons. What is truly important is simply this. Are you kind to yourself and love yourself? Yes. Are you kind to others and giving and compassionate? Yes you are. Are you healthy? For the most part...I think it is safe to say that yes you are. You have the formula so work it out my friend. No pressure because that is when we set those boobie tramps that we are not even aware that we have set. One day at a time. One meal at a time. , I am not sending negative stuff your way but honey if for some reason you remain at that weight for the rest of your life, its going to be alright, life won't end and I will still care about you just the same because when I see you, I am not looking at your physical body, rather, I am seeing your sweet spirit. Our bodies are temporary in this world and the only thing that truly matters when it is all said and done and we leave this world...the only thing that matters to God is how you lived your life and if you had faith. Love you so much dear and I am praying for you that you will have peace in the midst of this storm. It too shall pass. Pam Marsh --- Uncle Timmy n01un0@...> wrote: > As Gity, the bariatric guru at SSF would say, " It's > not about the > chicken! " You said in your post, that you know why > you're grazing, > but I know that knowing something with the logical > part of our brains > doesn't always have an impact on the emotional part > of our brains. > > You've had the mindfulness to realize what's > happening, before it got > too out of control. Many people don't have that > " moment of clarity " > until they's gained 20 pounds or more (if ever). > For that reason > alone, I'm sure you're going to get a grip on the > situation. > > UNcle Timmy -236 > > > > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a > grip and get back on > > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from > bouncing between 150 and > > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 > pound gain since > > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the > nutritionalist > > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont > know how to stop > > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of > determination but by 3 > pm > > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want > to eat at all. I > am > > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo > sooooo scared of > > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 > pounds back off!!! > > > > Im NOT eating today!! > > > > Too sad for huggles > > > __________________________________ Discover Yahoo! Get on-the-go sports scores, stock quotes, news and more. Check it out! http://discover.yahoo.com/mobile.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , I love Dr. Phil and he is a pretty bright man even though I don't agree with everything he says but one of the things he repeatedly says is this....too often we are controlled by fear...being fear driven. The one thing that we are so afraid of happening ends up happening because we dwell on it and tell ourselves it is going to happen so therefore be believe it will happen and 99% of the time...it does. Positive thoughts my dear. Pam Marsh --- Rose armymom1961@...> wrote: > sorry to hear that you are having such a > difficult time with this. Maybe try to plan out > your meals the day before and only allow yourself > that amount of food. Maybe by seeing what you eat > for the day it might help. This is of course only > my suggestion I haven't had to deal with this issue > quite yet but sure I will. I hope you get some > ideas from the nutritionist also that you might be > able to share with the rest of us too. Keep your > head high reflect on where you have come from and > don't beat yourself up too bad.. You've done a > great job so far. > Rose > > Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip > and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing > between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound > gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the > nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know > how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of > determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to > eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo > sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 > pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles > > > > > --------------------------------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , I love Dr. Phil and he is a pretty bright man even though I don't agree with everything he says but one of the things he repeatedly says is this....too often we are controlled by fear...being fear driven. The one thing that we are so afraid of happening ends up happening because we dwell on it and tell ourselves it is going to happen so therefore be believe it will happen and 99% of the time...it does. Positive thoughts my dear. Pam Marsh --- Rose armymom1961@...> wrote: > sorry to hear that you are having such a > difficult time with this. Maybe try to plan out > your meals the day before and only allow yourself > that amount of food. Maybe by seeing what you eat > for the day it might help. This is of course only > my suggestion I haven't had to deal with this issue > quite yet but sure I will. I hope you get some > ideas from the nutritionist also that you might be > able to share with the rest of us too. Keep your > head high reflect on where you have come from and > don't beat yourself up too bad.. You've done a > great job so far. > Rose > > Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip > and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing > between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound > gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the > nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know > how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of > determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to > eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo > sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 > pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles > > > > > --------------------------------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , I love Dr. Phil and he is a pretty bright man even though I don't agree with everything he says but one of the things he repeatedly says is this....too often we are controlled by fear...being fear driven. The one thing that we are so afraid of happening ends up happening because we dwell on it and tell ourselves it is going to happen so therefore be believe it will happen and 99% of the time...it does. Positive thoughts my dear. Pam Marsh --- Rose armymom1961@...> wrote: > sorry to hear that you are having such a > difficult time with this. Maybe try to plan out > your meals the day before and only allow yourself > that amount of food. Maybe by seeing what you eat > for the day it might help. This is of course only > my suggestion I haven't had to deal with this issue > quite yet but sure I will. I hope you get some > ideas from the nutritionist also that you might be > able to share with the rest of us too. Keep your > head high reflect on where you have come from and > don't beat yourself up too bad.. You've done a > great job so far. > Rose > > Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip > and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing > between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound > gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the > nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know > how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of > determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to > eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo > sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 > pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles > > > > > --------------------------------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 : It's me. I'm still not fully online, but I had to answer this one. Take a moment here to take stock of what you've been through. Answer the following questions by yourself in a reflective/non judgmental way in a place where you can be just by yourself. You need to take care of you. You have it in your heart to succeed. You've just momentarily forgot how strong you are. Why did you overeat to become morbidly obese in the first place? Have you ever discovered the answer to that question? Is there some stressor that has reared its head again? Are you being honest with yourself about your eating/drinking/exercise? Are you taking time to take care of 's needs? Are you keeping your recovery the priority in your life that it deserves? Have you returned to saying those old negative things to yourself? Are you forgetting to believe that you are not only capable of handling 9 lbs, but you DESERVE to take care of it because you're worth it? What nice, non-food-related thing have you done for lately, just ? Are you remembering that mind body and spirit are connected? Is there something out of balance? Are you surrendering your problems to your higher power or are you just keeping it all inside? Are you reflecting each day, each meal, each moment on how you feed yourself/treat yourself? Is how you are feeding yourself a reflection of good self-care and self-love? Are you taking time to mindfully think about how you are treating yourself? It's not about the food, . You are feeding a different need. Find out what that need is. I suspect it might be love. Don't deny yourself the love you deserve to give yourself. Love yourself with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind. Act as if deserves the proper food in the proper portions that are necessary for success, because you do deserve it. Take care of you as you would any other person. But you're not any other person. You're you: beautiful, caring, unique, vivacious, tiny, smart, funny, etc., etc. Remember that God has no hands but your hands, no feet but your feet, no face but your face. People see God's reflection in everything you do. Look in the mirror to see a little bit of that Glorious, Divine Spirit waiting to help you out. And it's You! It's You! It's always been You! The answer is as close as your heart. Huggles to you! Francisco soon to be back online www.aidsmarathon.com runner 0024 > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 What ever we can do or just being an ear for you is waht i am sure everyone will do for you. I will say a prayer for you, but in my heart I know this too shall pass and you will be on the right track again. Cecilia --- Colleen Garner irishlilt@...> wrote: > Dear > > I am so sorry your in a quandry and i have never > seen you post before that you are too sad for > huggles, you need a huge group of > huggles...................I dont know what to tell > you, or how to help you but it sounds good you have > already seen your doctor about it and you are going > to go see the nutrionist and your aware of what is > going on................I know some people have said > they go to counciling to deal with issues simlar to > yours, maybe you could do something like > that............to help you figure it out, Just know > that everyone wants the best for you . > Colleen > > Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > Ok I know this is all up to me. I need to get a grip > and get back on > track. But Im gaining again. Ive gone from bouncing > between 150 and > 155 to an all time high of 159!!! So thats a 9 pound > gain since > reaching my lowest of 150. Im scared!!! I see the > nutritionalist > Monday and I know whats causing it. But I dont know > how to stop > grazing again. In the morning Im so full of > determination but by 3 pm > its like I cant stop myself. Im where I dont want to > eat at all. I am > truly petrified here and freaking out. Im sooooo > sooooo scared of > going back to what I was!!!! I want to get this 9 > pounds back off!!! > > Im NOT eating today!! > > Too sad for huggles > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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