Guest guest Posted January 7, 2004 Report Share Posted January 7, 2004 Hey People, My baby girl (20 years old) has just been diagnosed with TMJ...now I can really relate to the guilt feelings parents have regarding this surgery. My head tells me I had nothing to do with it, but my heart is sooo heavy...I feel like there must have been something I could/should have done to prevent this from happening to her. Right now, I am trying so hard to hold back the tears...I guess I'll go to bed, it's almost 1:00 a.m. Everyone have a good night. Smooches Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2004 Report Share Posted January 7, 2004 Ah Smooches, I'm so sorry. I know how you feel to some extent. My daughter has a genetic quirk that left her with missing teeth, which in turn created an open bite. She's only 4 and has already seen an orthodontist and oral surgeon. They want her in braces by 7, possible surgery in her teens. After going through this surgery myself I have cried many nights feeling like a horrible mom, wanting to change the future, make everything okay for her..It's so hard when they're your baby. Just wanted to let you know I'm sorry, and it's obvious you're a wonderful mom to empathize and love so much. Alix > Hey People, > > My baby girl (20 years old) has just been diagnosed with TMJ...now I can really relate to the guilt feelings parents have regarding this surgery. My head tells me I had nothing to do with it, but my heart is sooo heavy...I feel like there must have been something I could/should have done to prevent this from happening to her. Right now, I am trying so hard to hold back the tears...I guess I'll go to bed, it's almost 1:00 a.m. > > Everyone have a good night. > > Smooches > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 Amen. Don't blame yourself. I believe that blame and guilt are both totally unproductive -- but also don't feel guilty about feeling guilty. Now we're going in a real circle. Time to regroup. You know a lot about this topic, and how to fix it and when. How fortunate she is to have those resources, as well as your help and support! I'll bet you won't be one of those moms who try to discourage daughters from getting the thing fixed. Nor by telling her how pretty she is, and just not to worry about all that silly, cosmetic surgery stuff. Pick up and go on, and help her, if it's possible, to avoid some of the worse pitfalls of these troubles -- ravaged joints, deteriorated disks, damaged teeth, etc.! You got the spunk. You got the experience. Go for it! Cammie > Hey People, > > My baby girl (20 years old) has just been diagnosed with TMJ...now I can really relate to the guilt feelings parents have regarding this surgery. My head tells me I had nothing to do with it, but my heart is sooo heavy...I feel like there must have been something I could/should have done to prevent this from happening to her. Right now, I am trying so hard to hold back the tears...I guess I'll go to bed, it's almost 1:00 a.m. > > Everyone have a good night. > > Smooches > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 Thanx Coach Cammie - I needed that kick in the behind, too! :-) I will definitely make sure she gets what she needs before it goes too far. Smooches Re: Sad News Amen. Don't blame yourself. I believe that blame and guilt are both totally unproductive -- but also don't feel guilty about feeling guilty. Now we're going in a real circle. Time to regroup. You know a lot about this topic, and how to fix it and when. How fortunate she is to have those resources, as well as your help and support! I'll bet you won't be one of those moms who try to discourage daughters from getting the thing fixed. Nor by telling her how pretty she is, and just not to worry about all that silly, cosmetic surgery stuff. Pick up and go on, and help her, if it's possible, to avoid some of the worse pitfalls of these troubles -- ravaged joints, deteriorated disks, damaged teeth, etc.! You got the spunk. You got the experience. Go for it! Cammie > Hey People, > > My baby girl (20 years old) has just been diagnosed with TMJ...now I can really relate to the guilt feelings parents have regarding this surgery. My head tells me I had nothing to do with it, but my heart is sooo heavy...I feel like there must have been something I could/should have done to prevent this from happening to her. Right now, I am trying so hard to hold back the tears...I guess I'll go to bed, it's almost 1:00 a.m. > > Everyone have a good night. > > Smooches > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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