To Alix-- Re: 4 year olds

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, it must be a 4 year old thing, but my daughter falls asleep

with my hair in her hand as well, with me singing her songs and

telling her stories. I told her I would just be able to lie down

with her and that my hair would still be there!! I kissed her

goodbye tonight when she left for my mom's house, (my surgery is

tomorrow, the 17th.) and then I drove around for a while and just

cried. sigh. I am going to miss her these next few days while i am

in the hospital. I told my mom that it would freak her out if she

called me and i couldn't answer back. So my mom is telling my

daughter that we are just leaving messages on mommy's answering

machine. Actually though, the answering maching will be ME on the

other end at the hospital! I'll post when i get home this weekend

sometime. I hope you have a great week free of anxieties! Alix

gerysupport , hdswan2000@y... wrote:

> My son is the sweetest little boy! He tells me, out of the blue -

> couple dozen times per day, that he loves me and likes me. He

loves

> to play with my hair - has since he was born. He loves to snuggle

> and give kisses and " huggies. " He's VERY loving! He is this way

> with his dad and me, but mostly me because he is a mommy's boy.

His

> daddy is very loving with the kids and I know this has taught

> that boys are allowed to be very loving and sweet.

>

> I worry about him after my surgery, because he always

wants " mommy "

> to read him stories and sing songs before bed. He can't fall

asleep

> unless I'm laying next to him, with my hair in his hand. I am

hoping

> my husband will help transition him to letting " daddy " read and

sing

> but I think will be very sad when mommy can't read and sing

> because of her " owies. " I think he will also be very upset with

the

> person who " hurt mommy. " is very protective of me because he

> loves me so much.

>

>

> ~

>

>

> > > > , if you wanna cry, cry. No harm in that. It is not

at

> > all

> > > > unusual to have volatile emotions both before and after

these

> > > > procedures.

> > > >

> > > > Your best step, I think, is to keep remembering that you

trust

> > your

> > > > experts, and have put your confidence in them.

> > > >

> > > > > My husband was leaning toward having me get both

> > > > > upper and lower because he didn't want to look at slanted

> > teeth

> > > > when

> > > > > looking at me.

> > > >

> > > > Forgive me if this is answering more than you asked, but

that

> > > sounds

> > > > like something that would have really made me mad, had it

> > happened

> > > to

> > > > me. Your husband wants you to have more surgery than your

> > doctors

> > > > recommend, because he doesn't want to look at slanted

teeth?????

> > > > Huh????? What if you had NO teeth?

> > > >

> > > > That just doesn't sound particularly kind or supportive to

me,

> > and

> > > it

> > > > also sounds to me as though he thinks that these procedures

are

> > > > purely cosmetic, which they seldom are -- although I find no

> > fault

> > > > with cosmetic procedures, mind you. If I am being unduly

> > critical,

> > > > please forgive me. I don't mean to butt into your business,

or

> > > > disrupt your family peace. I just hope that he will find

nicer

> > and

> > > > more constructive things to say to you from here on.

> > > >

> > > > cammie