Re: Surgical Hooks and Wires - Less Confused - More Emotional

[Guest guest]

, if you wanna cry, cry. No harm in that. It is not at all

unusual to have volatile emotions both before and after these

procedures.

Your best step, I think, is to keep remembering that you trust your

experts, and have put your confidence in them.

> My husband was leaning toward having me get both

> upper and lower because he didn't want to look at slanted teeth

when

> looking at me.

Forgive me if this is answering more than you asked, but that sounds

like something that would have really made me mad, had it happened to

me. Your husband wants you to have more surgery than your doctors

recommend, because he doesn't want to look at slanted teeth?????

Huh????? What if you had NO teeth?

That just doesn't sound particularly kind or supportive to me, and it

also sounds to me as though he thinks that these procedures are

purely cosmetic, which they seldom are -- although I find no fault

with cosmetic procedures, mind you. If I am being unduly critical,

please forgive me. I don't mean to butt into your business, or

disrupt your family peace. I just hope that he will find nicer and

more constructive things to say to you from here on.

cammie

[Guest guest]

, if you wanna cry, cry. No harm in that. It is not at all

unusual to have volatile emotions both before and after these

procedures.

Your best step, I think, is to keep remembering that you trust your

experts, and have put your confidence in them.

> My husband was leaning toward having me get both

> upper and lower because he didn't want to look at slanted teeth

when

> looking at me.

Forgive me if this is answering more than you asked, but that sounds

like something that would have really made me mad, had it happened to

me. Your husband wants you to have more surgery than your doctors

recommend, because he doesn't want to look at slanted teeth?????

Huh????? What if you had NO teeth?

That just doesn't sound particularly kind or supportive to me, and it

also sounds to me as though he thinks that these procedures are

purely cosmetic, which they seldom are -- although I find no fault

with cosmetic procedures, mind you. If I am being unduly critical,

please forgive me. I don't mean to butt into your business, or

disrupt your family peace. I just hope that he will find nicer and

more constructive things to say to you from here on.

cammie

[Guest guest]

I think I agree with your nurse and Cammie and others on this. Your

husband should be supporting you through a difficult time rather than

what he is currently doing - he seems totally counterproductive to

me. As with others it is not for me to be personal here but unless he

is qualified in maxillo surgery he really should just hold your hand

and say nothing.

Rod

> I've been fighting back tears since I left my ortho's office. I

feel

> like there is no turning back now.

>

> My ortho and his assistant put my surgical hooks and wires on

today.

> I asked my ortho for his opinion concerning my OS saying that if he

> performed upper only he would need to seat the upper with the

slanted

> lowers, causing my jaws to be slanted. My ortho said that crooked

> jaws/teeth wouldn't be good and that I should get it done right the

> first time. My ortho called my OS and spoke with him. He came

back

> over to me and said that my OS should be able to make the upper

> perfectly straight and then band the lowers up to the upper,

> eliminating the need for lower surgery which he discourages for my

> tmjs. My ortho gave me the option to postpone surgery until he

gets

> the lowers pulled up to the uppers on my left side, even though it

> would be best to have the surgery first. It was my last chance to

> chicken out and I said that I will go with his recommendation to

get

> the surgery on the 31st as planned and then have him continue my

> ortho treatment(rubber bands) after surgery to pull my left lower

> teeth up to eliminate the slant the best he can. He said that this

> treatment plan is what he would do if his wife had ith the same tmj

> problems as me. I like his answer and especially like only needing

> upper surgery. My husband was leaning toward having me get both

> upper and lower because he didn't want to look at slanted teeth

when

> looking at me. Hopefully when I see my OS on the 23rd he will

agree

> with my ortho and then plan for Lefort 1 (2 or 3 piece) on New

Years

> Eve.

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