To Alix-- Re: 4 year olds

[Guest guest]

Hello Alix,

How are you and your daughter doing now that you are post-op? Is

your daughter adjusting? I made a tape recording (story telling and

singing) for . I tested it last night. seems to like it

but prefers that I read to him. I hope he will do OK next week when

I can't speak very well. I tried to explain to him about my surgery

(no details - just that mommy's mouth is going to be broken) but he

is very immature for his age (he's the baby) and he didn't want to

listen about mommy being hurt.

Are you feeling any better? Were you scheduled to be in the hospital

for more than 1 day or did you have to stay because you were vomiting

so much? One of my main fears is getting really sick from the

anesthesia (vomiting/nausea). I kept vomiting after my son was born

(c-section). My OS knows to use anti-nausea meds but I hope the meds

work.

~

> > > > > , if you wanna cry, cry. No harm in that. It is not

> at

> > > all

> > > > > unusual to have volatile emotions both before and after

> these

> > > > > procedures.

> > > > >

> > > > > Your best step, I think, is to keep remembering that you

> trust

> > > your

> > > > > experts, and have put your confidence in them.

> > > > >

> > > > > > My husband was leaning toward having me get both

> > > > > > upper and lower because he didn't want to look at slanted

> > > teeth

> > > > > when

> > > > > > looking at me.

> > > > >

> > > > > Forgive me if this is answering more than you asked, but

> that

> > > > sounds

> > > > > like something that would have really made me mad, had it

> > > happened

> > > > to

> > > > > me. Your husband wants you to have more surgery than your

> > > doctors

> > > > > recommend, because he doesn't want to look at slanted

> teeth?????

> > > > > Huh????? What if you had NO teeth?

> > > > >

> > > > > That just doesn't sound particularly kind or supportive to

> me,

> > > and

> > > > it

> > > > > also sounds to me as though he thinks that these procedures

> are

> > > > > purely cosmetic, which they seldom are -- although I find

no

> > > fault

> > > > > with cosmetic procedures, mind you. If I am being unduly

> > > critical,

> > > > > please forgive me. I don't mean to butt into your business,

> or

> > > > > disrupt your family peace. I just hope that he will find

> nicer

> > > and

> > > > > more constructive things to say to you from here on.

> > > > >

> > > > > cammie