Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Hey , well all i can say, is it's tough on the kids. I was scheduled to stay 2 days, ended up being longer because of my intolerance to so many meds..lots of vomiting etc.. I didn't get to see my daughter for all of that time, which made me cry a LOT. (by the way, crying is a great nose cleanser..heehee.) When she did first see me she cried and hugged me and told me she hated my doctor.. but just being around me, learning that things are a little different for awhile, has helped. Today she wanted MOMMY to read her a story, and I just looked right at her and shook my head. Talking is very, very hard right now. She cried for a minute, and then asked well, could I hum and rub her back? And that, I could do, which soothed her. So you go through all the mommy emotions of guilt and worry and did I do the right thing, but there are a lot of people in my life telling me, (and her)that this is all sooooo temporary, and not forever. That's important. If you can, try not to let see you really distressed, that just coming from a point of view here, (believe it or not I am getting my doctorate in child psych..lol.) but let him see that he can help out..pick things up. And hey, the card game, " concentration " , is wonderful for 4 year olds and you don't have to talk!! I'll be here when you come out on the other side if I can help any more. As for the nausea etc..geez...just know you'll GET THROUGH IT. At one point I was so drugged, and puking so hard, I thought to myself, now this is interesting, I am puking through my nose! Wow, what a different sensation... lol...so usually you are just so out of it you're like, whatever, there i go again... You'll do well though, and i will hope specifically for you to have NO nausea.. Hang in there, Alix > > > > > > , if you wanna cry, cry. No harm in that. It is not > > at > > > > all > > > > > > unusual to have volatile emotions both before and after > > these > > > > > > procedures. > > > > > > > > > > > > Your best step, I think, is to keep remembering that you > > trust > > > > your > > > > > > experts, and have put your confidence in them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > My husband was leaning toward having me get both > > > > > > > upper and lower because he didn't want to look at slanted > > > > teeth > > > > > > when > > > > > > > looking at me. > > > > > > > > > > > > Forgive me if this is answering more than you asked, but > > that > > > > > sounds > > > > > > like something that would have really made me mad, had it > > > > happened > > > > > to > > > > > > me. Your husband wants you to have more surgery than your > > > > doctors > > > > > > recommend, because he doesn't want to look at slanted > > teeth????? > > > > > > Huh????? What if you had NO teeth? > > > > > > > > > > > > That just doesn't sound particularly kind or supportive to > > me, > > > > and > > > > > it > > > > > > also sounds to me as though he thinks that these procedures > > are > > > > > > purely cosmetic, which they seldom are -- although I find > no > > > > fault > > > > > > with cosmetic procedures, mind you. If I am being unduly > > > > critical, > > > > > > please forgive me. I don't mean to butt into your business, > > or > > > > > > disrupt your family peace. I just hope that he will find > > nicer > > > > and > > > > > > more constructive things to say to you from here on. > > > > > > > > > > > > cammie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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