Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 , I'm rootin for ya! Good luck!!!! Hugs, Sherri > > Eeek! > > Ok, I leave for my interview in less than an hour. I'm getting > nervous. I don't normally get like this before job interviews. Is > this because I want out of this job so badly, or maybe a side effect > of my meds that I never noticed before? Whatever it is, I've been > doing some serious deep breathing exercises to keep the shakes and > nerves under control. Lol, maybe it has something to do with keeping > this interview secret from my boss and coworker.... Everybody wish me > luck, cross your fingers, pray, whatever, that I get this job and can > get out of here quickly. > > Thanks, > > > > > > SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs > > HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html > LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> > UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Good luck, . Let us know how it goes. I did want to mention to you earlier (but was down with a flare), I had a somewhat similar situation at work. New person arrived, and although I didn't have close contact with this person, I did have to deal with him for business on occasion. He was good friends with my friends, and for some unknown reason, we both didn't care for the other. That's rare for me, I usually don't dislike people without a reason. Anyway, his attitude was one of condescending, superiority, and slick comments to me. At first, this really upset me. Then I started thinking about it, and I decided, I didn't like this person, why did I care what he did or didn't think about me? So I changed my attitude to one where I just didn't care what he said or did. I just did my job and politely interacted with him when I needed to. Do you know his attitude changed too? It was as if he knew he has lost the power to upset me, and so he really backed off. Now we still never cared for each other, but things got a lot better. I know it's hard to do, but if you don't get this job, maybe try talking yourself into sincerely not caring one bit about what this woman does or doesn't say about you. I keep thinking about the one editorial column I read in our local paper one time. The writer pointed out about being concerned that one woman in among a group of women, who were coming to her house for an organizational meeting, was going to gossip about the state of her house. They mutually disliked each other. Then the writer pointed out what I thought was a wonderful piece of philosophy. She said how women going around caring about what everybody says and thinks, will they like this? Should I change this? Is this clean enough they won't look down on me?. She pointed out, why should we care about the opinions of people we don't like. If we don't like the person, why do we hold that person's opinion in such high value? If that person isn't " good enough " to be a friend or trusted coworker, why do we think their opinion is good enough to worry about? When I started really thinking about it, I thought it was really true. Why *should* I care about what someone I don't care about, thinks about me? They don't like me anyway, why would they bother to care about my feelings or truly try to find some good about me? They aren't going to. Once I remembered this column, and put it to work in my life, it really helped me. I won't swear it's the answer to your problem, but at least you'd be happier until you can find a new place. Good luck. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Good luck, . Let us know how it goes. I did want to mention to you earlier (but was down with a flare), I had a somewhat similar situation at work. New person arrived, and although I didn't have close contact with this person, I did have to deal with him for business on occasion. He was good friends with my friends, and for some unknown reason, we both didn't care for the other. That's rare for me, I usually don't dislike people without a reason. Anyway, his attitude was one of condescending, superiority, and slick comments to me. At first, this really upset me. Then I started thinking about it, and I decided, I didn't like this person, why did I care what he did or didn't think about me? So I changed my attitude to one where I just didn't care what he said or did. I just did my job and politely interacted with him when I needed to. Do you know his attitude changed too? It was as if he knew he has lost the power to upset me, and so he really backed off. Now we still never cared for each other, but things got a lot better. I know it's hard to do, but if you don't get this job, maybe try talking yourself into sincerely not caring one bit about what this woman does or doesn't say about you. I keep thinking about the one editorial column I read in our local paper one time. The writer pointed out about being concerned that one woman in among a group of women, who were coming to her house for an organizational meeting, was going to gossip about the state of her house. They mutually disliked each other. Then the writer pointed out what I thought was a wonderful piece of philosophy. She said how women going around caring about what everybody says and thinks, will they like this? Should I change this? Is this clean enough they won't look down on me?. She pointed out, why should we care about the opinions of people we don't like. If we don't like the person, why do we hold that person's opinion in such high value? If that person isn't " good enough " to be a friend or trusted coworker, why do we think their opinion is good enough to worry about? When I started really thinking about it, I thought it was really true. Why *should* I care about what someone I don't care about, thinks about me? They don't like me anyway, why would they bother to care about my feelings or truly try to find some good about me? They aren't going to. Once I remembered this column, and put it to work in my life, it really helped me. I won't swear it's the answer to your problem, but at least you'd be happier until you can find a new place. Good luck. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Good luck, . Let us know how it goes. I did want to mention to you earlier (but was down with a flare), I had a somewhat similar situation at work. New person arrived, and although I didn't have close contact with this person, I did have to deal with him for business on occasion. He was good friends with my friends, and for some unknown reason, we both didn't care for the other. That's rare for me, I usually don't dislike people without a reason. Anyway, his attitude was one of condescending, superiority, and slick comments to me. At first, this really upset me. Then I started thinking about it, and I decided, I didn't like this person, why did I care what he did or didn't think about me? So I changed my attitude to one where I just didn't care what he said or did. I just did my job and politely interacted with him when I needed to. Do you know his attitude changed too? It was as if he knew he has lost the power to upset me, and so he really backed off. Now we still never cared for each other, but things got a lot better. I know it's hard to do, but if you don't get this job, maybe try talking yourself into sincerely not caring one bit about what this woman does or doesn't say about you. I keep thinking about the one editorial column I read in our local paper one time. The writer pointed out about being concerned that one woman in among a group of women, who were coming to her house for an organizational meeting, was going to gossip about the state of her house. They mutually disliked each other. Then the writer pointed out what I thought was a wonderful piece of philosophy. She said how women going around caring about what everybody says and thinks, will they like this? Should I change this? Is this clean enough they won't look down on me?. She pointed out, why should we care about the opinions of people we don't like. If we don't like the person, why do we hold that person's opinion in such high value? If that person isn't " good enough " to be a friend or trusted coworker, why do we think their opinion is good enough to worry about? When I started really thinking about it, I thought it was really true. Why *should* I care about what someone I don't care about, thinks about me? They don't like me anyway, why would they bother to care about my feelings or truly try to find some good about me? They aren't going to. Once I remembered this column, and put it to work in my life, it really helped me. I won't swear it's the answer to your problem, but at least you'd be happier until you can find a new place. Good luck. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Thanks for the well wishes guys. I think my interview went very well. I'm going back for a second one next week. Darcy, you are so right about not letting someone's opinion bother me, especially when i don't like this person, but it's hard to deprogram myself sometimes. And since I took things down to a much less personal level, things have actually gotten worse. My coworker does not like at all that she can't stick her nose into my personal business, and she's gotten downright rude with me. Hard to believe that just being polite to someone is putting such a strain on her. And as I work in a very small office, it's very hard to ignore. And as she has a friend who works where my sister works, she's making life slightly uncomfortable for my sister as well, as she's been spewing her negativity about me to this friend, who is taking it out on my sister. Obviously her friend is a lot like my coworker, huh? But I'm trying very hard to do as you suggest. Thanks again for the support and advice. Take care, P.S. Darcy, I also have the frequent urination and urgency problem. So far I have not actually lost bladder control, so I have no advice to offer. Just wanted you to know that I have that problem as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Thanks for the well wishes guys. I think my interview went very well. I'm going back for a second one next week. Darcy, you are so right about not letting someone's opinion bother me, especially when i don't like this person, but it's hard to deprogram myself sometimes. And since I took things down to a much less personal level, things have actually gotten worse. My coworker does not like at all that she can't stick her nose into my personal business, and she's gotten downright rude with me. Hard to believe that just being polite to someone is putting such a strain on her. And as I work in a very small office, it's very hard to ignore. And as she has a friend who works where my sister works, she's making life slightly uncomfortable for my sister as well, as she's been spewing her negativity about me to this friend, who is taking it out on my sister. Obviously her friend is a lot like my coworker, huh? But I'm trying very hard to do as you suggest. Thanks again for the support and advice. Take care, P.S. Darcy, I also have the frequent urination and urgency problem. So far I have not actually lost bladder control, so I have no advice to offer. Just wanted you to know that I have that problem as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Thanks for the well wishes guys. I think my interview went very well. I'm going back for a second one next week. Darcy, you are so right about not letting someone's opinion bother me, especially when i don't like this person, but it's hard to deprogram myself sometimes. And since I took things down to a much less personal level, things have actually gotten worse. My coworker does not like at all that she can't stick her nose into my personal business, and she's gotten downright rude with me. Hard to believe that just being polite to someone is putting such a strain on her. And as I work in a very small office, it's very hard to ignore. And as she has a friend who works where my sister works, she's making life slightly uncomfortable for my sister as well, as she's been spewing her negativity about me to this friend, who is taking it out on my sister. Obviously her friend is a lot like my coworker, huh? But I'm trying very hard to do as you suggest. Thanks again for the support and advice. Take care, P.S. Darcy, I also have the frequent urination and urgency problem. So far I have not actually lost bladder control, so I have no advice to offer. Just wanted you to know that I have that problem as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 , Congrats on the second interview. Keep us updated. in muggy Minnesota Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 , Congrats on the second interview. Keep us updated. in muggy Minnesota Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 , Congrats on the second interview. Keep us updated. in muggy Minnesota Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 , Good luck! I'll keep my finger crossed for you. Toni dovebuddy@... http://dovebuddycreations.surfhoo.com Nervous Eeek! Ok, I leave for my interview in less than an hour. I'm getting nervous. I don't normally get like this before job interviews. Is this because I want out of this job so badly, or maybe a side effect of my meds that I never noticed before? Whatever it is, I've been doing some serious deep breathing exercises to keep the shakes and nerves under control. Lol, maybe it has something to do with keeping this interview secret from my boss and coworker.... Everybody wish me luck, cross your fingers, pray, whatever, that I get this job and can get out of here quickly. Thanks, SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2002 Report Share Posted June 29, 2002 kithain wrote: > Darcy, you are so right about not letting someone's opinion bother > me, especially when i don't like this person, but it's hard to > deprogram myself sometimes. And since I took things down to a much > less personal level, things have actually gotten worse. My coworker > does not like at all that she can't stick her nose into my personal > business, and she's gotten downright rude with me. Hard to believe > that just being polite to someone is putting such a strain on her. It is hard to change how you feel/think about something that is so stressful. Wish I had learned to do it years ago, would have saved me a lot of tears and heartaches! I read another book (yes, I read a lot) about relationships. They talked about them being kind of like two level water tanks connected by a pipe. When the water flows from one tank into the other, the first tank tries to get it to back to the level it was to begin with. In human words, if a female really likes a guy, and she is always trying to talk to him, get him to go out with her, and constantly giving him attention, then that's your " normal " level tanks. If she finally gives up on getting him, and stops all attention to him, then suddenly, the water level between the tanks is no longer the same, it's changed. So now he tries to get her back to the way she was by pursuing her! I've noticed that this seems to be true in a lot of relationships whether it's romantic, family, friends or coworkers. When something changes, the non changed person suddenly tries to get things back the way they were. That's what sounds like might be happening her. You've changed a bit, so she is suddenly working really hard to try to get things back the way they were. It actually means that you are affecting *her*! It just means you need to grit your teeth and hang on a little bit longer. It's too bad that the affair has to spill over to your sister's office, but that's the way people are sometimes. I worked in a store in high school where a fellow teenage coworker did something I felt was very wrong. I reported his actions to a manager and he got in some trouble (not too bad). He and his friend were both mad at me for a while, then within a few weeks, he stopped being mad. His friend, who wasn't involved at all, was mad at me for months! Anyway, hang on, we're all cheering for you! Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2003 Report Share Posted September 20, 2003 hi nora, the roller coaster of pre-op emotions is pretty universal, we're here for ya. lori h. > everyone i was approve for my surgery by date is oct 28th. i have > been trying since march to get this approved through my ins (blue > care network) as long as they were saying no i was did not worry > about it but once i was approved i have been so happy and nervous at > the same time. has anyone else felt this way. i have no doubt that i > want this i just want to make sure this normal. > > nora > preop > 290/160 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2003 Report Share Posted September 20, 2003 hi nora, the roller coaster of pre-op emotions is pretty universal, we're here for ya. lori h. > everyone i was approve for my surgery by date is oct 28th. i have > been trying since march to get this approved through my ins (blue > care network) as long as they were saying no i was did not worry > about it but once i was approved i have been so happy and nervous at > the same time. has anyone else felt this way. i have no doubt that i > want this i just want to make sure this normal. > > nora > preop > 290/160 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2003 Report Share Posted September 21, 2003 I'd be surprised if you wern't nervous. No matter how much information you have, how many questions you've asked and had answered it's still kinda nerve wrecking knowing you're willingly having surgery. I'm nervous about our insurance turning us down and dh keeps telling me not to. They don't turn down anyone who meets the criteria ( and I definately meet it ) but I sitll worry that I'll be the ONE person they turn down. Good luck! ~Tanja > everyone i was approve for my surgery by date is oct 28th. i have > been trying since march to get this approved through my ins (blue > care network) as long as they were saying no i was did not worry > about it but once i was approved i have been so happy and nervous at > the same time. has anyone else felt this way. i have no doubt that i > want this i just want to make sure this normal. > > nora > preop > 290/160 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 Hello All, I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I found out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in high school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in college. I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is that I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face scares the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a man, I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things that come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ it. I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love to have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior college to a University this fall so I would love to have the surgery done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't freak out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about questions to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for this. Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! Sherrie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 I just wanted to say that if you had it when you were 16, it really isn't a big deal when you go back to school. I had upper jaw surgery in October and I am 16, but by the time I went back to school, I wasn't that swollen at all. And everyone was really nice to me when I came back, even people that I'm not great friends with who didn't even know I was going in for surgery in first place. When I came back to school I was amazed how many people knew I had jaw surgery because I didn't tell everyone before hand. But everyone was really nice and my teachers were really understanding about making up the work, so it wasn't so bad. Regarding the braces, how long you have to wear them before surgery depends on how straight your teeth are now. My teeth were straight except for a little bit in the front. But I didn't go into braces knowing I would have surgery. I had my braces on for a year & 9 months before surgery but that's because I didn't know I was going to have surgery in the first place. But my teeth were all aligned WAY before my surgery. For me, the first week was hell. But it was worth it. Everyone was saying how good I looked and my surgeon REALLY emphazied on that everytime I saw him, so that made me feel better. Once the swelling went down and I could really notice the difference, I was really happy with it and I love having a nice bite. The weeks of hell that you go through are worth the lifetime results! > Hello All, > I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I found > out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in high > school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have > the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in college. > I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 > now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is that > I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming > very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face scares > the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a > prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a man, > I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things that > come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ it. > I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love to > have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth > fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it > has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior > college to a University this fall so I would love to have the surgery > done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces > 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't freak > out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides > SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about questions > to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no > health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for this. > Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! > Sherrie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 I just wanted to say that if you had it when you were 16, it really isn't a big deal when you go back to school. I had upper jaw surgery in October and I am 16, but by the time I went back to school, I wasn't that swollen at all. And everyone was really nice to me when I came back, even people that I'm not great friends with who didn't even know I was going in for surgery in first place. When I came back to school I was amazed how many people knew I had jaw surgery because I didn't tell everyone before hand. But everyone was really nice and my teachers were really understanding about making up the work, so it wasn't so bad. Regarding the braces, how long you have to wear them before surgery depends on how straight your teeth are now. My teeth were straight except for a little bit in the front. But I didn't go into braces knowing I would have surgery. I had my braces on for a year & 9 months before surgery but that's because I didn't know I was going to have surgery in the first place. But my teeth were all aligned WAY before my surgery. For me, the first week was hell. But it was worth it. Everyone was saying how good I looked and my surgeon REALLY emphazied on that everytime I saw him, so that made me feel better. Once the swelling went down and I could really notice the difference, I was really happy with it and I love having a nice bite. The weeks of hell that you go through are worth the lifetime results! > Hello All, > I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I found > out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in high > school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have > the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in college. > I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 > now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is that > I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming > very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face scares > the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a > prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a man, > I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things that > come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ it. > I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love to > have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth > fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it > has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior > college to a University this fall so I would love to have the surgery > done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces > 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't freak > out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides > SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about questions > to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no > health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for this. > Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! > Sherrie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 I just wanted to say that if you had it when you were 16, it really isn't a big deal when you go back to school. I had upper jaw surgery in October and I am 16, but by the time I went back to school, I wasn't that swollen at all. And everyone was really nice to me when I came back, even people that I'm not great friends with who didn't even know I was going in for surgery in first place. When I came back to school I was amazed how many people knew I had jaw surgery because I didn't tell everyone before hand. But everyone was really nice and my teachers were really understanding about making up the work, so it wasn't so bad. Regarding the braces, how long you have to wear them before surgery depends on how straight your teeth are now. My teeth were straight except for a little bit in the front. But I didn't go into braces knowing I would have surgery. I had my braces on for a year & 9 months before surgery but that's because I didn't know I was going to have surgery in the first place. But my teeth were all aligned WAY before my surgery. For me, the first week was hell. But it was worth it. Everyone was saying how good I looked and my surgeon REALLY emphazied on that everytime I saw him, so that made me feel better. Once the swelling went down and I could really notice the difference, I was really happy with it and I love having a nice bite. The weeks of hell that you go through are worth the lifetime results! > Hello All, > I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I found > out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in high > school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have > the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in college. > I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 > now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is that > I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming > very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face scares > the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a > prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a man, > I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things that > come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ it. > I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love to > have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth > fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it > has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior > college to a University this fall so I would love to have the surgery > done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces > 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't freak > out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides > SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about questions > to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no > health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for this. > Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! > Sherrie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 > Hello All, > I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I found > out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in high > school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have > the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in college. > I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 > now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is that > I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming > very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face scares > the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a > prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a man, > I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things that > come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ it. > I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love to > have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth > fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it > has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior > college to a University this fall so I would love to have the surgery > done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces > 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't freak > out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides > SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about questions > to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no > health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for this. > Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! > Sherrie. Sherrie God can I relate to you. I went through all the same fears as you. I am only 4 days post-op. I was busy last week before surgery tell all my friends and family how much I love them like I was not going to be the same after surgery. I was talking like I was having life or death surgery. You know what when you tell most people you want to have jaw surgery they cringe and try to talk u out it especially if u dont have a noticeable deformity.I was told ur pretty why wd u want to mess with your face. As I posted earlier already I can see at least today that I will have a great profile and a great bite something I havent had my whole life. I can't wait to take pictures after all the junk comes out of my mouth Let me adress a couple of your questions. I think almost everyone needs orthodontics before surgery. They have to put the teeth in the right positions so that you have a great bite after surgery. Your orthodontist and your surgeon work together. I wd consult with a really good ortho. Or you may want to consult with a excellent oral surgeon who can recommend an excellent orthodontist. Actually you will find that ur appearance will change for the better from the braces. Trust me I have been there. As far as the right time, hopefully for you it can be all done by the summer. However u cant rush braces it takes as long as it has to take. Questions to ask the Dr ask him everything u want no matter how stupid u may think it is. Ask him what type of surgery he thinks wd benefit you. Make sure he thinks that TMJ exsists. Some oral surgeon believe that jaw displacement has nothing to do TMJ problems. I swear its true. That may not be an issue for you but it was for me. Ask him if he will wire you or just fixate you and for how long. My oral surgeon swears that is much more effective for correct joint placement to be wired but plenty of people are satisfied with fixation. Certainly ask him about price. If ur not happy with the doctor go to another. More than one opinion doesent hurt. Research sites on jaw surgery. Make sure you are going to someone real good. Ask him how many of his patients had suffered permanent numbness. My oral surgeon told me in the 25 years he has been doing this surgery he only had one patient who had permanent numbness. It is certainly a risk but it is rare. As far as food I cant exactly relate. I kind of eat to live not vice versa. Although after four days I am missing my carbs. potatoes peanutbutter sandwiches and chips wd go over real well right now. I have 4 and half wks to go. Just have to think temporary. I have been told by every oral surgeon they have yet to meet a patient that regretted surgery. I have been to plenty. I can see from my short experience that recovery in the beginning is a tough especially in the first few days.Swelling numbness nasuea and not being able to talk but already I am feeling better and looking better. I can see how good it will look like when all my swelling goes. My went down alot today. You will be the same person only prettier more functional bite and more attractive smile. Guess I am little prejudice toward doing surgery from my experience. Its your decision good luck what ever u decide. Hope that helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 , Thanks for ur reply and advice. The people on this site seem to be very friendly so I will continue post my journey to a better bite and smile.I'm trying to remain positive and not freak myself out or let anyone else! I'll be posting my results tomorrow. So thanks again, and I pray that ur healing goes very well. And that u get the results u've expected. Sherrie;-) > > Hello All, > > I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I > found > > out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in > high > > school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have > > the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in > college. > > I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 > > now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is > that > > I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming > > very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face > scares > > the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a > > prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a > man, > > I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things > that > > come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ > it. > > I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love > to > > have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth > > fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it > > has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior > > college to a University this fall so I would love to have the > surgery > > done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces > > 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't > freak > > out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides > > SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about > questions > > to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no > > health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for > this. > > Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! > > Sherrie. > Sherrie > God can I relate to you. I went through all the same fears as you. I > am only 4 days post-op. I was busy last week before surgery tell all > my friends and family how much I love them like I was not going to be > the same after surgery. I was talking like I was having life or death > surgery. You know what when you tell most people you want to have jaw > surgery they cringe and try to talk u out it especially if u dont > have a noticeable deformity.I was told ur pretty why wd u want to > mess with your face. As I posted earlier already I can see at least > today that I will have a great profile and a great bite something I > havent had my whole life. I can't wait to take pictures after all the > junk comes out of my mouth > Let me adress a couple of your questions. I think almost everyone > needs orthodontics before surgery. They have to put the teeth in the > right positions so that you have a great bite after surgery. Your > orthodontist and your surgeon work together. I wd consult with a > really good ortho. Or you may want to consult with a excellent oral > surgeon who can recommend an excellent orthodontist. Actually you > will find that ur appearance will change for the better from the > braces. Trust me I have been there. > As far as the right time, hopefully for you it can be all done by the > summer. However u cant rush braces it takes as long as it has to take. > Questions to ask the Dr ask him everything u want no matter how > stupid u may think it is. Ask him what type of surgery he thinks wd > benefit you. Make sure he thinks that TMJ exsists. Some oral surgeon > believe that jaw displacement has nothing to do TMJ problems. I swear > its true. That may not be an issue for you but it was for me. Ask him > if he will wire you or just fixate you and for how long. My oral > surgeon swears that is much more effective for correct joint > placement to be wired but plenty of people are satisfied with > fixation. Certainly ask him about price. If ur not happy with the > doctor go to another. More than one opinion doesent hurt. Research > sites on jaw surgery. Make sure you are going to someone real good. > Ask him how many of his patients had suffered permanent numbness. My > oral surgeon told me in the 25 years he has been doing this surgery > he only had one patient who had permanent numbness. It is certainly a > risk but it is rare. > As far as food I cant exactly relate. I kind of eat to live not vice > versa. Although after four days I am missing my carbs. potatoes > peanutbutter sandwiches and chips wd go over real well right now. I > have 4 and half wks to go. Just have to think temporary. I have been > told by every oral surgeon they have yet to meet a patient that > regretted surgery. I have been to plenty. I can see from my short > experience that recovery in the beginning is a tough especially in > the first few days.Swelling numbness nasuea and not being able to > talk but already I am feeling better and looking better. I can see > how good it will look like when all my swelling goes. My went down > alot today. > You will be the same person only prettier more functional bite and > more attractive smile. Guess I am little prejudice toward doing > surgery from my experience. Its your decision good luck what ever u > decide. Hope that helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 , Thanks for ur reply and advice. The people on this site seem to be very friendly so I will continue post my journey to a better bite and smile.I'm trying to remain positive and not freak myself out or let anyone else! I'll be posting my results tomorrow. So thanks again, and I pray that ur healing goes very well. And that u get the results u've expected. Sherrie;-) > > Hello All, > > I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I > found > > out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in > high > > school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have > > the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in > college. > > I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 > > now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is > that > > I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming > > very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face > scares > > the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a > > prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a > man, > > I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things > that > > come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ > it. > > I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love > to > > have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth > > fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it > > has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior > > college to a University this fall so I would love to have the > surgery > > done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces > > 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't > freak > > out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides > > SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about > questions > > to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no > > health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for > this. > > Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! > > Sherrie. > Sherrie > God can I relate to you. I went through all the same fears as you. I > am only 4 days post-op. I was busy last week before surgery tell all > my friends and family how much I love them like I was not going to be > the same after surgery. I was talking like I was having life or death > surgery. You know what when you tell most people you want to have jaw > surgery they cringe and try to talk u out it especially if u dont > have a noticeable deformity.I was told ur pretty why wd u want to > mess with your face. As I posted earlier already I can see at least > today that I will have a great profile and a great bite something I > havent had my whole life. I can't wait to take pictures after all the > junk comes out of my mouth > Let me adress a couple of your questions. I think almost everyone > needs orthodontics before surgery. They have to put the teeth in the > right positions so that you have a great bite after surgery. Your > orthodontist and your surgeon work together. I wd consult with a > really good ortho. Or you may want to consult with a excellent oral > surgeon who can recommend an excellent orthodontist. Actually you > will find that ur appearance will change for the better from the > braces. Trust me I have been there. > As far as the right time, hopefully for you it can be all done by the > summer. However u cant rush braces it takes as long as it has to take. > Questions to ask the Dr ask him everything u want no matter how > stupid u may think it is. Ask him what type of surgery he thinks wd > benefit you. Make sure he thinks that TMJ exsists. Some oral surgeon > believe that jaw displacement has nothing to do TMJ problems. I swear > its true. That may not be an issue for you but it was for me. Ask him > if he will wire you or just fixate you and for how long. My oral > surgeon swears that is much more effective for correct joint > placement to be wired but plenty of people are satisfied with > fixation. Certainly ask him about price. If ur not happy with the > doctor go to another. More than one opinion doesent hurt. Research > sites on jaw surgery. Make sure you are going to someone real good. > Ask him how many of his patients had suffered permanent numbness. My > oral surgeon told me in the 25 years he has been doing this surgery > he only had one patient who had permanent numbness. It is certainly a > risk but it is rare. > As far as food I cant exactly relate. I kind of eat to live not vice > versa. Although after four days I am missing my carbs. potatoes > peanutbutter sandwiches and chips wd go over real well right now. I > have 4 and half wks to go. Just have to think temporary. I have been > told by every oral surgeon they have yet to meet a patient that > regretted surgery. I have been to plenty. I can see from my short > experience that recovery in the beginning is a tough especially in > the first few days.Swelling numbness nasuea and not being able to > talk but already I am feeling better and looking better. I can see > how good it will look like when all my swelling goes. My went down > alot today. > You will be the same person only prettier more functional bite and > more attractive smile. Guess I am little prejudice toward doing > surgery from my experience. Its your decision good luck what ever u > decide. Hope that helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 , Thanks for ur reply and advice. The people on this site seem to be very friendly so I will continue post my journey to a better bite and smile.I'm trying to remain positive and not freak myself out or let anyone else! I'll be posting my results tomorrow. So thanks again, and I pray that ur healing goes very well. And that u get the results u've expected. Sherrie;-) > > Hello All, > > I'm new to this site, and I've been reading everyones post. I > found > > out when I was 16 that I needed jaw surgery. Being that I was in > high > > school and didn't want to deal with the stares, I chose not to have > > the surgery done at that time. Now I'm 20 and a Sophmore in > college. > > I've been considering having the surgery done for about a year or 2 > > now. I have a consultation schedule for tomorrow. All I know is > that > > I have an underbite and that my teeth a wearing down and becoming > > very sensitive. The thought of surgery especially on my face > scares > > the crap out of me. Reading about the numbness, swelling for a > > prolonged time (for some), not being able to eat (if food was a > man, > > I'd be the happiest woman alive), pain and all the other things > that > > come w/ the surgery make me a bit hesitant about going through w/ > it. > > I don't have a problem w/ my current appearance, but I would love > to > > have a correct bite, a balanced face, teeth, and my front tooth > > fixed. One of my front teeth looks like it has been chipped, but it > > has worn down because of my bite. I'm transferring from a Junior > > college to a University this fall so I would love to have the > surgery > > done this summer, but everyones post that I've read has worn braces > > 6months or more before they had surgery:-( I guess I shouldn't > freak > > out now being that I don't exactly what needs to be done besides > > SURGERy :-o Does anyone have any advice for me? Maybe about > questions > > to ask the DOC, prices, or anything that may be helpful. I have no > > health insurance so I'll (my parents and I) will be paying for > this. > > Unless there is some other means. Thanks for reading!!!! > > Sherrie. > Sherrie > God can I relate to you. I went through all the same fears as you. I > am only 4 days post-op. I was busy last week before surgery tell all > my friends and family how much I love them like I was not going to be > the same after surgery. I was talking like I was having life or death > surgery. You know what when you tell most people you want to have jaw > surgery they cringe and try to talk u out it especially if u dont > have a noticeable deformity.I was told ur pretty why wd u want to > mess with your face. As I posted earlier already I can see at least > today that I will have a great profile and a great bite something I > havent had my whole life. I can't wait to take pictures after all the > junk comes out of my mouth > Let me adress a couple of your questions. I think almost everyone > needs orthodontics before surgery. They have to put the teeth in the > right positions so that you have a great bite after surgery. Your > orthodontist and your surgeon work together. I wd consult with a > really good ortho. Or you may want to consult with a excellent oral > surgeon who can recommend an excellent orthodontist. Actually you > will find that ur appearance will change for the better from the > braces. Trust me I have been there. > As far as the right time, hopefully for you it can be all done by the > summer. However u cant rush braces it takes as long as it has to take. > Questions to ask the Dr ask him everything u want no matter how > stupid u may think it is. Ask him what type of surgery he thinks wd > benefit you. Make sure he thinks that TMJ exsists. Some oral surgeon > believe that jaw displacement has nothing to do TMJ problems. I swear > its true. That may not be an issue for you but it was for me. Ask him > if he will wire you or just fixate you and for how long. My oral > surgeon swears that is much more effective for correct joint > placement to be wired but plenty of people are satisfied with > fixation. Certainly ask him about price. If ur not happy with the > doctor go to another. More than one opinion doesent hurt. Research > sites on jaw surgery. Make sure you are going to someone real good. > Ask him how many of his patients had suffered permanent numbness. My > oral surgeon told me in the 25 years he has been doing this surgery > he only had one patient who had permanent numbness. It is certainly a > risk but it is rare. > As far as food I cant exactly relate. I kind of eat to live not vice > versa. Although after four days I am missing my carbs. potatoes > peanutbutter sandwiches and chips wd go over real well right now. I > have 4 and half wks to go. Just have to think temporary. I have been > told by every oral surgeon they have yet to meet a patient that > regretted surgery. I have been to plenty. I can see from my short > experience that recovery in the beginning is a tough especially in > the first few days.Swelling numbness nasuea and not being able to > talk but already I am feeling better and looking better. I can see > how good it will look like when all my swelling goes. My went down > alot today. > You will be the same person only prettier more functional bite and > more attractive smile. Guess I am little prejudice toward doing > surgery from my experience. Its your decision good luck what ever u > decide. Hope that helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.