Re: Thanks for the support end of Jan group.

[Guest guest]

You have some powerfully good attitudes going, there, , and

congratulations! Hang on, be secure in your intentions, and don't

let, scuse me, but, idjuts shake your decisions. They do not know

what they are talking about!

Yes, jitters are completely expected. But don't let them worry you,

either! Honestly, the worst part of it, if you're having lower only

particularly, is the anticipation. If you're having both jaws, you

may have some rocky days immediately post op, but for most, that

passes in a week or so.

I was amazed that a friend (my mama's godchild, actually) who is a

trained heart surgeon, made all sorts of noises to me about how bad

the pain would be, etc. (In fairness, he was not trying to discourage

me, just trying to be sympathetic.) He may know a lot about heart

caths, but he doesn't know didlum about jaw surgery, and he shoulda

kept his mouth shut! I have had more pain, honestly, from

osteoarthritis and carpal tunnel trouble than I did from the jaw

surgery...

Not saying you won't be slowed down a bit, but honest, it is not so

bad as we, and those around us, imagine!

Cammie

> Hi and ,

> My prays and good thoughts are with you as well. I am trying to be

> positive, but as the time get closer the anxiety gets worse. I am

> having trouble concentrating at work. My mind drift to the surgery.

I

> guess its normal.I think what makes these pre jitters so nerve

> racking for me is all these people that are telling me they dont

see

> anything wrong in my appearance and dont think I should do it. Do

you

> guys every notice how people cringe when you tell them about what u

> are about to do. Last night I was at a party and I was telling

> everyone about the surgery, you cant say I am not the life of the

> party . I even met a guy I really liked, that I have a date with

> tonight. What a time to start a relationship. They all telling me

> they dont see anything wrong with my jaw. I look good now why wd I

> want to mess with it. I guess I have to keep reminding myself I am

> not doing this for astheic purposes.

> My belief spirituality at least for me does help with the anxiety.

> The mess I went through to get to a Dr. who I have total confidence

> in. ( long story), the wrong Dr. cd have been a disaster, the fact

> that my insurance and my home eqity loan came through just in time

to

> help pay for my surgery and time away from work,I believe were

meant

> to be. I think you do get help that leads you in the right

direction.

> My boyfriend ended the relationship just before surgery, which

shows

> how much he cares. Good ridance I deserve better.

> Thanks to Smoochie for all the great advice and comforting thoughs

> from someone who has been there. Everyone thing u said make a lot

of

> sense. Ur right about taking a shower and just getting out if u

can,

> does make u feel better when ur recovering in general.

> Ladies I will be right there with you to bitch about the recovery

and

> offer whatever help I can. I wish the best.

> To Fiddlesticks, can you tell more about I think it is call

> MLS. What exactly is it. I was thinking of also doing accupunture

as

> well have you heard anything good about that helping with recovery.

I

> wd like to ask my Dr. about it.

> Thanks,

[Guest guest]

I've not ever suggested this before... And perhaps it's not a good

idea. But how about sending them to this site??? There are lots of us

who have been through this situation and can get them up to speed

right quick! What thinks everybody else? I'm willing.

If they're so concerned as to comment counter to your docs' ideas,

perhaps they'd like to spend a bit of time hearing from some of us

who have been there, done that.

You don't have to be at peace with anything except your decision

about what to do. It's natural to be nervous, and these procedures

are indeed major surgery, requiring general anesthesia.

If you have serious doubts about that, think again. But don't let

someone who does not understand what's up make you change your mind.

You will get through it, and the major odds are that once you're

recovered and healed, you'll be delighted with your results. In the

meantime, we're here to try to help! This can't be the first hard

thing you've ever tried to do, and I will wager, as well, that it

will neither be the last, nor the hardest that will face you.

Cammie

> ,

> It's so good to hear you get the same crazy comments from people

> regarding your surgery. I always laugh a bit when people ask me to

> explain the procedure the surgeon will do, because they always

cringe

> and say some sort of shocking " I can't believe you're going through

> that " comment. It's serious, of course, and it is a major

procedure,

> nto to be taken lightly. But it does get tiring having to " educate "

> everyone about the procedure and why it's necessary. I also get

> comments from people who say they don't see anything physically

wrong

> with my jaw, which is a bit funnier than your situation, because I

> think it's fairly noticeable that I have a receding chin and a

gummy

> smile. My surgery is going to correct my open bite (to be able to

> chew into a sandwich well thrills me!), but it also is aesthetic,

to

> improve my gummy smile and move my chin forward.

> With the surgery coming up in under 2 weeks, I do have my moments

of

> anxiety also. And wonder " why again are you doing this? " Reading

this

> message board is often a huge blessing, and sometimes more of a

> really, really scary eye-opener. But I have to keep coming back to

my

> initial decision to do this 2 years ago. I knew the risks going

into

> it, and the joys of it finally being done and over and did feel at

> peace about the decision. I have to keep reminding myself that it

> just " feels right " to do it. You can't really explain it better

than

> that, but that you know it's the right decision. Though in my

anxiety

> I may not act like I'm at peace about the whole thing happening in

2

> weeks, I know that it's in God's hands. That's about the only place

I

> want it to be right now!! (-:

> You and will be in my prayers the 27th and 28th.

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