Re: Thanks for the support end of Jan group.

[Guest guest]

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I had this problem when I first started telling people I was having

surgery. I brought it up on this board, and someone mentioned

getting a plaster cast of my teeth from my ortho. He gave me an old

set he was going to throw out, and at Christmas I brought it first

to my family's gathering, then to my husband's family. I started

off with, " These are my teeth, and this is how they fit together.

You noticed they don't touch in the front, " and went from there to

explain how the jaw tries to compenstate by opening the wrong

direction, and why that causes pain in my face as well as an

inability to chew normally, and all of the other side effects that

come with it (broken teeth, indigestion, etc.). Every last person

said, " Oh! I see. Man, you really need help. " I was really

encouraged to have such unanamous support, especially as I wasn't

getting it earlier. (My parents have always been totally

supportive - they've been watching me struggle to eat for the past

four years - but my in-laws thought that the surgery was a little

extreme for something they didn't see was a problem.)

Kris

> Hi and ,

> My prays and good thoughts are with you as well. I am trying to be

> positive, but as the time get closer the anxiety gets worse. I am

> having trouble concentrating at work. My mind drift to the

surgery. I

> guess its normal.I think what makes these pre jitters so nerve

> racking for me is all these people that are telling me they dont

see

> anything wrong in my appearance and dont think I should do it. Do

you

> guys every notice how people cringe when you tell them about what

u

> are about to do. Last night I was at a party and I was telling

> everyone about the surgery, you cant say I am not the life of the

> party . I even met a guy I really liked, that I have a date with

> tonight. What a time to start a relationship. They all telling me

> they dont see anything wrong with my jaw. I look good now why wd I

> want to mess with it. I guess I have to keep reminding myself I am

> not doing this for astheic purposes.

> My belief spirituality at least for me does help with the

anxiety.

> The mess I went through to get to a Dr. who I have total

confidence

> in. ( long story), the wrong Dr. cd have been a disaster, the fact

> that my insurance and my home eqity loan came through just in time

to

> help pay for my surgery and time away from work,I believe were

meant

> to be. I think you do get help that leads you in the right

direction.

> My boyfriend ended the relationship just before surgery, which

shows

> how much he cares. Good ridance I deserve better.

> Thanks to Smoochie for all the great advice and comforting thoughs

> from someone who has been there. Everyone thing u said make a lot

of

> sense. Ur right about taking a shower and just getting out if u

can,

> does make u feel better when ur recovering in general.

> Ladies I will be right there with you to bitch about the recovery

and

> offer whatever help I can. I wish the best.

> To Fiddlesticks, can you tell more about I think it is call

> MLS. What exactly is it. I was thinking of also doing accupunture

as

> well have you heard anything good about that helping with

recovery. I

> wd like to ask my Dr. about it.

> Thanks,

[Guest guest]

You have some powerfully good attitudes going, there, , and

congratulations! Hang on, be secure in your intentions, and don't

let, scuse me, but, idjuts shake your decisions. They do not know

what they are talking about!

Yes, jitters are completely expected. But don't let them worry you,

either! Honestly, the worst part of it, if you're having lower only

particularly, is the anticipation. If you're having both jaws, you

may have some rocky days immediately post op, but for most, that

passes in a week or so.

I was amazed that a friend (my mama's godchild, actually) who is a

trained heart surgeon, made all sorts of noises to me about how bad

the pain would be, etc. (In fairness, he was not trying to discourage

me, just trying to be sympathetic.) He may know a lot about heart

caths, but he doesn't know didlum about jaw surgery, and he shoulda

kept his mouth shut! I have had more pain, honestly, from

osteoarthritis and carpal tunnel trouble than I did from the jaw

surgery...

Not saying you won't be slowed down a bit, but honest, it is not so

bad as we, and those around us, imagine!

Cammie

> Hi and ,

> My prays and good thoughts are with you as well. I am trying to be

> positive, but as the time get closer the anxiety gets worse. I am

> having trouble concentrating at work. My mind drift to the surgery.

I

> guess its normal.I think what makes these pre jitters so nerve

> racking for me is all these people that are telling me they dont

see

> anything wrong in my appearance and dont think I should do it. Do

you

> guys every notice how people cringe when you tell them about what u

> are about to do. Last night I was at a party and I was telling

> everyone about the surgery, you cant say I am not the life of the

> party . I even met a guy I really liked, that I have a date with

> tonight. What a time to start a relationship. They all telling me

> they dont see anything wrong with my jaw. I look good now why wd I

> want to mess with it. I guess I have to keep reminding myself I am

> not doing this for astheic purposes.

> My belief spirituality at least for me does help with the anxiety.

> The mess I went through to get to a Dr. who I have total confidence

> in. ( long story), the wrong Dr. cd have been a disaster, the fact

> that my insurance and my home eqity loan came through just in time

to

> help pay for my surgery and time away from work,I believe were

meant

> to be. I think you do get help that leads you in the right

direction.

> My boyfriend ended the relationship just before surgery, which

shows

> how much he cares. Good ridance I deserve better.

> Thanks to Smoochie for all the great advice and comforting thoughs

> from someone who has been there. Everyone thing u said make a lot

of

> sense. Ur right about taking a shower and just getting out if u

can,

> does make u feel better when ur recovering in general.

> Ladies I will be right there with you to bitch about the recovery

and

> offer whatever help I can. I wish the best.

> To Fiddlesticks, can you tell more about I think it is call

> MLS. What exactly is it. I was thinking of also doing accupunture

as

> well have you heard anything good about that helping with recovery.

I

> wd like to ask my Dr. about it.

> Thanks,

[Guest guest]

I notice that your email address tends to make me believe that

you are in NY, which is where I am too. Let me first say, if I had a

dollar for every time that someone asked me why I would go through

with this, when they can't even tell that anything is wrong...I

could pay for this surgery and tell the insurance company to blow

off (but let's not get hasty now). My situation is very similar to

yours, I am having upper and lower to fix a slight underbite and

asymetry, but asthetically, you would never know. And thats the

biggest problem that I face as my surgery approaches...March 8th! I

keep reading all these messages and one day I'm happy and looking

forward to it, and the next I am miserable and think that maybe I

should just call the whole thing off. But, I'm know the right thing

to do is to have the surgery, recover, and enjoy the rest of my

life with a good and comfortable bite.

Best of luck.

-, a fellow New Yorker

P.S.-I've gone on a few dates recently as well...I just laugh

afterwards, talk about bad timing.

> Hi and ,

> My prays and good thoughts are with you as well. I am trying to be

> positive, but as the time get closer the anxiety gets worse. I am

> having trouble concentrating at work. My mind drift to the

surgery. I

> guess its normal.I think what makes these pre jitters so nerve

> racking for me is all these people that are telling me they dont

see

> anything wrong in my appearance and dont think I should do it. Do

you

> guys every notice how people cringe when you tell them about what

u

> are about to do. Last night I was at a party and I was telling

> everyone about the surgery, you cant say I am not the life of the

> party . I even met a guy I really liked, that I have a date with

> tonight. What a time to start a relationship. They all telling me

> they dont see anything wrong with my jaw. I look good now why wd I

> want to mess with it. I guess I have to keep reminding myself I am

> not doing this for astheic purposes.

> My belief spirituality at least for me does help with the

anxiety.

> The mess I went through to get to a Dr. who I have total

confidence

> in. ( long story), the wrong Dr. cd have been a disaster, the fact

> that my insurance and my home eqity loan came through just in time

to

> help pay for my surgery and time away from work,I believe were

meant

> to be. I think you do get help that leads you in the right

direction.

> My boyfriend ended the relationship just before surgery, which

shows

> how much he cares. Good ridance I deserve better.

> Thanks to Smoochie for all the great advice and comforting thoughs

> from someone who has been there. Everyone thing u said make a lot

of

> sense. Ur right about taking a shower and just getting out if u

can,

> does make u feel better when ur recovering in general.

> Ladies I will be right there with you to bitch about the recovery

and

> offer whatever help I can. I wish the best.

> To Fiddlesticks, can you tell more about I think it is call

> MLS. What exactly is it. I was thinking of also doing accupunture

as

> well have you heard anything good about that helping with

recovery. I

> wd like to ask my Dr. about it.

> Thanks,

[Guest guest]

I notice that your email address tends to make me believe that

you are in NY, which is where I am too. Let me first say, if I had a

dollar for every time that someone asked me why I would go through

with this, when they can't even tell that anything is wrong...I

could pay for this surgery and tell the insurance company to blow

off (but let's not get hasty now). My situation is very similar to

yours, I am having upper and lower to fix a slight underbite and

asymetry, but asthetically, you would never know. And thats the

biggest problem that I face as my surgery approaches...March 8th! I

keep reading all these messages and one day I'm happy and looking

forward to it, and the next I am miserable and think that maybe I

should just call the whole thing off. But, I'm know the right thing

to do is to have the surgery, recover, and enjoy the rest of my

life with a good and comfortable bite.

Best of luck.

-, a fellow New Yorker

P.S.-I've gone on a few dates recently as well...I just laugh

afterwards, talk about bad timing.

> Hi and ,

> My prays and good thoughts are with you as well. I am trying to be

> positive, but as the time get closer the anxiety gets worse. I am

> having trouble concentrating at work. My mind drift to the

surgery. I

> guess its normal.I think what makes these pre jitters so nerve

> racking for me is all these people that are telling me they dont

see

> anything wrong in my appearance and dont think I should do it. Do

you

> guys every notice how people cringe when you tell them about what

u

> are about to do. Last night I was at a party and I was telling

> everyone about the surgery, you cant say I am not the life of the

> party . I even met a guy I really liked, that I have a date with

> tonight. What a time to start a relationship. They all telling me

> they dont see anything wrong with my jaw. I look good now why wd I

> want to mess with it. I guess I have to keep reminding myself I am

> not doing this for astheic purposes.

> My belief spirituality at least for me does help with the

anxiety.

> The mess I went through to get to a Dr. who I have total

confidence

> in. ( long story), the wrong Dr. cd have been a disaster, the fact

> that my insurance and my home eqity loan came through just in time

to

> help pay for my surgery and time away from work,I believe were

meant

> to be. I think you do get help that leads you in the right

direction.

> My boyfriend ended the relationship just before surgery, which

shows

> how much he cares. Good ridance I deserve better.

> Thanks to Smoochie for all the great advice and comforting thoughs

> from someone who has been there. Everyone thing u said make a lot

of

> sense. Ur right about taking a shower and just getting out if u

can,

> does make u feel better when ur recovering in general.

> Ladies I will be right there with you to bitch about the recovery

and

> offer whatever help I can. I wish the best.

> To Fiddlesticks, can you tell more about I think it is call

> MLS. What exactly is it. I was thinking of also doing accupunture

as

> well have you heard anything good about that helping with

recovery. I

> wd like to ask my Dr. about it.

> Thanks,

[Guest guest]

I notice that your email address tends to make me believe that

you are in NY, which is where I am too. Let me first say, if I had a

dollar for every time that someone asked me why I would go through

with this, when they can't even tell that anything is wrong...I

could pay for this surgery and tell the insurance company to blow

off (but let's not get hasty now). My situation is very similar to

yours, I am having upper and lower to fix a slight underbite and

asymetry, but asthetically, you would never know. And thats the

biggest problem that I face as my surgery approaches...March 8th! I

keep reading all these messages and one day I'm happy and looking

forward to it, and the next I am miserable and think that maybe I

should just call the whole thing off. But, I'm know the right thing

to do is to have the surgery, recover, and enjoy the rest of my

life with a good and comfortable bite.

Best of luck.

-, a fellow New Yorker

P.S.-I've gone on a few dates recently as well...I just laugh

afterwards, talk about bad timing.

> Hi and ,

> My prays and good thoughts are with you as well. I am trying to be

> positive, but as the time get closer the anxiety gets worse. I am

> having trouble concentrating at work. My mind drift to the

surgery. I

> guess its normal.I think what makes these pre jitters so nerve

> racking for me is all these people that are telling me they dont

see

> anything wrong in my appearance and dont think I should do it. Do

you

> guys every notice how people cringe when you tell them about what

u

> are about to do. Last night I was at a party and I was telling

> everyone about the surgery, you cant say I am not the life of the

> party . I even met a guy I really liked, that I have a date with

> tonight. What a time to start a relationship. They all telling me

> they dont see anything wrong with my jaw. I look good now why wd I

> want to mess with it. I guess I have to keep reminding myself I am

> not doing this for astheic purposes.

> My belief spirituality at least for me does help with the

anxiety.

> The mess I went through to get to a Dr. who I have total

confidence

> in. ( long story), the wrong Dr. cd have been a disaster, the fact

> that my insurance and my home eqity loan came through just in time

to

> help pay for my surgery and time away from work,I believe were

meant

> to be. I think you do get help that leads you in the right

direction.

> My boyfriend ended the relationship just before surgery, which

shows

> how much he cares. Good ridance I deserve better.

> Thanks to Smoochie for all the great advice and comforting thoughs

> from someone who has been there. Everyone thing u said make a lot

of

> sense. Ur right about taking a shower and just getting out if u

can,

> does make u feel better when ur recovering in general.

> Ladies I will be right there with you to bitch about the recovery

and

> offer whatever help I can. I wish the best.

> To Fiddlesticks, can you tell more about I think it is call

> MLS. What exactly is it. I was thinking of also doing accupunture

as

> well have you heard anything good about that helping with

recovery. I

> wd like to ask my Dr. about it.

> Thanks,

[Guest guest]

,

It's so good to hear you get the same crazy comments from people

regarding your surgery. I always laugh a bit when people ask me to

explain the procedure the surgeon will do, because they always cringe

and say some sort of shocking " I can't believe you're going through

that " comment. It's serious, of course, and it is a major procedure,

nto to be taken lightly. But it does get tiring having to " educate "

everyone about the procedure and why it's necessary. I also get

comments from people who say they don't see anything physically wrong

with my jaw, which is a bit funnier than your situation, because I

think it's fairly noticeable that I have a receding chin and a gummy

smile. My surgery is going to correct my open bite (to be able to

chew into a sandwich well thrills me!), but it also is aesthetic, to

improve my gummy smile and move my chin forward.

With the surgery coming up in under 2 weeks, I do have my moments of

anxiety also. And wonder " why again are you doing this? " Reading this

message board is often a huge blessing, and sometimes more of a

really, really scary eye-opener. But I have to keep coming back to my

initial decision to do this 2 years ago. I knew the risks going into

it, and the joys of it finally being done and over and did feel at

peace about the decision. I have to keep reminding myself that it

just " feels right " to do it. You can't really explain it better than

that, but that you know it's the right decision. Though in my anxiety

I may not act like I'm at peace about the whole thing happening in 2

weeks, I know that it's in God's hands. That's about the only place I

want it to be right now!! (-:

You and will be in my prayers the 27th and 28th.

> Hi and ,

> My prays and good thoughts are with you as well. I am trying to be

> positive, but as the time get closer the anxiety gets worse. I am

> having trouble concentrating at work. My mind drift to the surgery.

I

> guess its normal.I think what makes these pre jitters so nerve

> racking for me is all these people that are telling me they dont

see

> anything wrong in my appearance and dont think I should do it. Do

you

> guys every notice how people cringe when you tell them about what u

> are about to do. Last night I was at a party and I was telling

> everyone about the surgery, you cant say I am not the life of the

> party . I even met a guy I really liked, that I have a date with

> tonight. What a time to start a relationship. They all telling me

> they dont see anything wrong with my jaw. I look good now why wd I

> want to mess with it. I guess I have to keep reminding myself I am

> not doing this for astheic purposes.

> My belief spirituality at least for me does help with the anxiety.

> The mess I went through to get to a Dr. who I have total confidence

> in. ( long story), the wrong Dr. cd have been a disaster, the fact

> that my insurance and my home eqity loan came through just in time

to

> help pay for my surgery and time away from work,I believe were

meant

> to be. I think you do get help that leads you in the right

direction.

> My boyfriend ended the relationship just before surgery, which

shows

> how much he cares. Good ridance I deserve better.

> Thanks to Smoochie for all the great advice and comforting thoughs

> from someone who has been there. Everyone thing u said make a lot

of

> sense. Ur right about taking a shower and just getting out if u

can,

> does make u feel better when ur recovering in general.

> Ladies I will be right there with you to bitch about the recovery

and

> offer whatever help I can. I wish the best.

> To Fiddlesticks, can you tell more about I think it is call

> MLS. What exactly is it. I was thinking of also doing accupunture

as

> well have you heard anything good about that helping with recovery.

I

> wd like to ask my Dr. about it.

> Thanks,