Guest guest Posted October 17, 2002 Report Share Posted October 17, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 6:50:40 PM Eastern Daylight Time, vickiang@... writes: > > Vibe? I'm supposed to have a vibe? Maybe that's why no one ever > flirts with me. My vibe-rater is broken. This is such a funny discussion to me. First off let me say that my husband who hung up on me when I told him about this surgery on the phone, is my number one supporter. He blends shakes, exercised with me, has a wonderful sense of humor about my remaining hanging skin, and when I am down about something does his best to pull me up and out of it. He helped me start my support group and in almost 2 years has never missed a meeting. He is truly my soul-mate and I feel blessed to have escaped the post op marriage issues (it is almost 3 years so I am feeling kind of safe at this point...) My vibe-rater is broken too. I sit in support meetings and the women talk about people hitting on them. I never get hit on. I feel so left out. Wait - let me correct that - I get hit on by the 70+ year old men at my synagogue. The all want to hug me now LOL! I am 39. One of them even walks up to me and says " turn around and let me see your ass " !!!!! So funny. Since I was working at the synagogue I used to joke about filing sexual harrassment suits...by 75 year olds. Anyhow, I drift - I started a new job in August. The company repairs and refurbishes cell phones. All of the guys are so young - mostly techs who went to tech school. All well under 30. I feel like everyone's older sister. Well, a few weeks ago one of our managers was standing in my office and just kept finding ways to stay. Singing along with my CD player, talking to me about the music I like, on and on and on. Cute guy - tall, blue eyes, not my type though - skrawny and pale - probably a hairless chest (is this TMI? too much info). I realized I was being hit on!!!!!!! What fun! After much discussion with girl friends and DH - I have come to believe that I am so secure in my relationship that I am just not open to flirting and am oblivious (most times) to it happening. I was in WAWA getting my beloved Hazelnut Decaf and was having a discussion with a nice man about how important our coffee was to us. When we left my friend Deb said " honey - you were just hit on " I didn't see it that way - just a friendly conversation with a middle aged gentleman (anyone older than me is middle aged). She agreed that I am oblivious. If you are open to it - you will see it - if not - your vibe-rator is just turned off! Sorry to be so lengthy - this really struck a chord with me. Marjie Wassermann Open RNY 12/9/99 -145 TT & Brachioplasty 6/19/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2002 Report Share Posted October 17, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 6:50:40 PM Eastern Daylight Time, vickiang@... writes: > > Vibe? I'm supposed to have a vibe? Maybe that's why no one ever > flirts with me. My vibe-rater is broken. This is such a funny discussion to me. First off let me say that my husband who hung up on me when I told him about this surgery on the phone, is my number one supporter. He blends shakes, exercised with me, has a wonderful sense of humor about my remaining hanging skin, and when I am down about something does his best to pull me up and out of it. He helped me start my support group and in almost 2 years has never missed a meeting. He is truly my soul-mate and I feel blessed to have escaped the post op marriage issues (it is almost 3 years so I am feeling kind of safe at this point...) My vibe-rater is broken too. I sit in support meetings and the women talk about people hitting on them. I never get hit on. I feel so left out. Wait - let me correct that - I get hit on by the 70+ year old men at my synagogue. The all want to hug me now LOL! I am 39. One of them even walks up to me and says " turn around and let me see your ass " !!!!! So funny. Since I was working at the synagogue I used to joke about filing sexual harrassment suits...by 75 year olds. Anyhow, I drift - I started a new job in August. The company repairs and refurbishes cell phones. All of the guys are so young - mostly techs who went to tech school. All well under 30. I feel like everyone's older sister. Well, a few weeks ago one of our managers was standing in my office and just kept finding ways to stay. Singing along with my CD player, talking to me about the music I like, on and on and on. Cute guy - tall, blue eyes, not my type though - skrawny and pale - probably a hairless chest (is this TMI? too much info). I realized I was being hit on!!!!!!! What fun! After much discussion with girl friends and DH - I have come to believe that I am so secure in my relationship that I am just not open to flirting and am oblivious (most times) to it happening. I was in WAWA getting my beloved Hazelnut Decaf and was having a discussion with a nice man about how important our coffee was to us. When we left my friend Deb said " honey - you were just hit on " I didn't see it that way - just a friendly conversation with a middle aged gentleman (anyone older than me is middle aged). She agreed that I am oblivious. If you are open to it - you will see it - if not - your vibe-rator is just turned off! Sorry to be so lengthy - this really struck a chord with me. Marjie Wassermann Open RNY 12/9/99 -145 TT & Brachioplasty 6/19/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2002 Report Share Posted October 17, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 6:50:40 PM Eastern Daylight Time, vickiang@... writes: > > Vibe? I'm supposed to have a vibe? Maybe that's why no one ever > flirts with me. My vibe-rater is broken. This is such a funny discussion to me. First off let me say that my husband who hung up on me when I told him about this surgery on the phone, is my number one supporter. He blends shakes, exercised with me, has a wonderful sense of humor about my remaining hanging skin, and when I am down about something does his best to pull me up and out of it. He helped me start my support group and in almost 2 years has never missed a meeting. He is truly my soul-mate and I feel blessed to have escaped the post op marriage issues (it is almost 3 years so I am feeling kind of safe at this point...) My vibe-rater is broken too. I sit in support meetings and the women talk about people hitting on them. I never get hit on. I feel so left out. Wait - let me correct that - I get hit on by the 70+ year old men at my synagogue. The all want to hug me now LOL! I am 39. One of them even walks up to me and says " turn around and let me see your ass " !!!!! So funny. Since I was working at the synagogue I used to joke about filing sexual harrassment suits...by 75 year olds. Anyhow, I drift - I started a new job in August. The company repairs and refurbishes cell phones. All of the guys are so young - mostly techs who went to tech school. All well under 30. I feel like everyone's older sister. Well, a few weeks ago one of our managers was standing in my office and just kept finding ways to stay. Singing along with my CD player, talking to me about the music I like, on and on and on. Cute guy - tall, blue eyes, not my type though - skrawny and pale - probably a hairless chest (is this TMI? too much info). I realized I was being hit on!!!!!!! What fun! After much discussion with girl friends and DH - I have come to believe that I am so secure in my relationship that I am just not open to flirting and am oblivious (most times) to it happening. I was in WAWA getting my beloved Hazelnut Decaf and was having a discussion with a nice man about how important our coffee was to us. When we left my friend Deb said " honey - you were just hit on " I didn't see it that way - just a friendly conversation with a middle aged gentleman (anyone older than me is middle aged). She agreed that I am oblivious. If you are open to it - you will see it - if not - your vibe-rator is just turned off! Sorry to be so lengthy - this really struck a chord with me. Marjie Wassermann Open RNY 12/9/99 -145 TT & Brachioplasty 6/19/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 10:22:33 PM Pacific Standard Time, JonnysGirl81@... writes: > have come to believe that I am so secure in my relationship that I am just > not open to flirting and am oblivious (most times) to it happening. Either I am also oblivious, or am extremely fortunate to be married to the only man who wants me!! I'm going to go with oblivious. This has also been an interesting discussion for me - I don't think I flirt, but I guess in some respects it looks like I do. When I am with other people, if a woman has a great shirt on, I tell her. If a man has a great shirt on, I tell him (I do this to strangers on the street, too - you should see someone's face light up when you walk up and say " that outfit looks terrific on you " ). Is that flirting? To me, it's honesty and openness. I would say it crosses the line to flirting if I said " that shirt looks great - I'd love to take it off you! " Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 10:22:33 PM Pacific Standard Time, JonnysGirl81@... writes: > have come to believe that I am so secure in my relationship that I am just > not open to flirting and am oblivious (most times) to it happening. Either I am also oblivious, or am extremely fortunate to be married to the only man who wants me!! I'm going to go with oblivious. This has also been an interesting discussion for me - I don't think I flirt, but I guess in some respects it looks like I do. When I am with other people, if a woman has a great shirt on, I tell her. If a man has a great shirt on, I tell him (I do this to strangers on the street, too - you should see someone's face light up when you walk up and say " that outfit looks terrific on you " ). Is that flirting? To me, it's honesty and openness. I would say it crosses the line to flirting if I said " that shirt looks great - I'd love to take it off you! " Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 10:22:33 PM Pacific Standard Time, JonnysGirl81@... writes: > have come to believe that I am so secure in my relationship that I am just > not open to flirting and am oblivious (most times) to it happening. Either I am also oblivious, or am extremely fortunate to be married to the only man who wants me!! I'm going to go with oblivious. This has also been an interesting discussion for me - I don't think I flirt, but I guess in some respects it looks like I do. When I am with other people, if a woman has a great shirt on, I tell her. If a man has a great shirt on, I tell him (I do this to strangers on the street, too - you should see someone's face light up when you walk up and say " that outfit looks terrific on you " ). Is that flirting? To me, it's honesty and openness. I would say it crosses the line to flirting if I said " that shirt looks great - I'd love to take it off you! " Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2002 Report Share Posted October 19, 2002 What a timely discussion, because I got an some-what pick-up line the other night. I was out to dinner with my niece, and a man was eating alone at the next table. At one point he started talking to us about the food. When my niece got up for a moment, he asked me if I was a Marathon runner. I said no, why to you ask, and he replied, " because you have a runner's body. " Well, I almost fell off my chair. Then I couldn't wait to get home and tell my husband - I thought it was hysterical (especially because I wear two wedding rings and a large engagement ring), and a huge ego boast. My husband laughed, but I think he was pleased for me - and I must confess, I think it was a bit of a turn on for him....... Helene RNY 12/22/99 350/170 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2002 Report Share Posted October 19, 2002 > Is that flirting? To me, it's honesty and openness. I would say it > crosses > the line to flirting if I said " that shirt looks great - I'd love to take > it > off you! " > > I don't think telling someone they look good is flirting. I think that is just being complimentary, and honest. I love to make people feel good about themselves. Now, " that shirt looks great - I'd love to take it off you...is NOT flirting but a genuine " come on " in my book. So, I think flirting falls somewhere inbetween. I think when you are happily married, you DO become oblivious to flirting. I have been thinking a certain scenario over, since the thread came up..and wondering if possibly I was being flirted with, or just complimented. I chose to take it as a compliment, and left it at that. I wanted to show a male friend my " before " pictures, and he declined, saying he " liked the way I look NOW. " Don't quite know how to take that...but I assume it was his way of complimenting me...although, I really wanted to show him how far I have come. But guess some people just aren't ready for that. He didn't know me when...so maybe it is best just leaving it at that. Naw...I don't think he was flirting. I have kids nearly his age. Regards~ Jacque Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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