Re: lol (Lori) REALITY is 2 much for others..

August 19, 2003

,

Give it some time, it has only been a month. You will get better everyday

and every now and then you will have a few setbacks. You have setbacks in

normal life, it is something that we just have to deal with one day at a time.

Just give it some time and think positive, positive, positive. Good luck!!

A. B.

LAP RNY 3/22/03

386/315

August 19, 2003

I understand completely about the not missing food. I fix things

for my children and could care less. I have to force myself to

drink my shakes and drink my water. I know we have to adjust and

give ourselves time, but it is hard when we had felt good before

doing this. I am a bit older than you, 37, but i was in great

health before surgery. I did this to keep myself healthy as i know

that caring around and extra 135 lbs was taking a toll on my health

even if I couldnt see the effects yet. I think we did the right

thing, we just need to figure out what is going on with you so you

can drink and not get sick, and eat and not get sick. I think the

fear of getting sick is keeping you from trying things. I dont

blame you, who wants to be sick, but you are going to kill yourself

slowly if you dont try to get something in your system. What about

the non-flavored protein. I found some at GNC. I have not tried

that yet, but if you can drink broth and can add that protein, that

will help you. What about your surgeon? Has he been any help at

all? What about finding someone new to go to. I know that my drs

helped many patients they didnt operate on. You need some physical

support to help you get back on track. I am still on liquids, so i

dont know what will happen when i try to add foods. Ohh I have

three boys 14, 11 and 8. I am bouncing around with topics, but

i imagine you can follow me just fine right?? We are woman :P. I

will keep you in my prayers and really you need to find a good Dr

that can help you resolve this. I know that many people get a

stricture in there stoma around 1 month out. Maybe that is the

problem. I am just guessing, but trying to give you ideas what

might be the problem. Let me know how you are doing ok? I am on

here as often as i can be.

Lori-MI

Open RnY 8/1/03

> I was 1 month post-op yesterday.. Surgery was July 18, 2003...

>

> Oh Lori! I'm just hoping that some of this passes.. I think this

is a huge

> CHANGE in our lives and we have to have time to adjust to it.. The

only thing

> is, I'm not really missing the food.. How do I explain this????

What I mean is I

> need to eat something to keep me fueled, to keep me going, to help

get some

> nutrition in, even if it is a tiny bit.. And it seems like I'm

having

> difficulty doing even that.. See, I'm young.. 26 years old.. I

thought I'd be okay with

> the surgery.. I've heard of others who have had difficulties but I

just

> thought it was because of their current health, but now I'm really

starting to

> wonder about the surgery itself.. Noone has answers.. Not even the

surgeon.. It's

> scaring me a little.. Sometimes I look at my daughter, and wonder

how long

> I'll be around for her.. I made the decision to go with surgery

for a better

> life, a more promising future, for my health.. And I'm sicker now

than I was

> before surgery.. Now I'm just wondering if I made the right

decision. Yes, I've

> lost weight.. But I can't even enjoy life, at all for the fear of

getting sick..

> I don't know.. Maybe it's just me.. I hope everything works out

for all of us

> later on down the road.. And thanks for asking.. I was bounced

from posting at

> the website.. I guess sharing REALITY is too much for others to

bear.. Later.

>

> Greer

>

August 19, 2003

Surgeon? Any help? lol... Stop joshing me Lori! The only help he offers, is

an elevation in my blood pressure.. Maybe he helps up my stress level..

No, he's no help.. At this point, I don't even want to see him.. I cancelled

my last appointment.. I'm on edge.. I'm supposed to go in to see him

Thursday, but hell, I don't even want to go.. He does nothing.. I'm telling you,

I

feel like a joke.. One big, fat joke to him! And I'm not alone.. There are

others feeling the same way that I've met along the way. Maybe I'm just taking

everything personal, because I feel so lousy.. I mean, maybe it has nothing to

do

with him at all, but I highly doubt that.. When you feel like the doc doesn't

care, you start to not care too.. It's contagious..

I will try the non-flavored protein and add it to my broth.. But I'm really

getting tired of that broth.. I'm telling you.. A person can only eat, well

drink, so much of that stuff before they say what's the use? And physically,

some days I'm not even hungry at all, I'm just weak.. And tired.. And moody..

It's a never ending roll of emotions on this twisted, hell hole of a coaster

ride.. It's scary, even for me... I feel sorry for the others around me.. In

fact,

most of the time, I'd rather much be alone.. And I agree I need some

physical support, but what surgeon or facility wants to bother with me when I'm

not

even their patient? Well, I guess I can keep that possibility open..

So you have three boys??? I bet you have your hands full.. But those boys

alone, are three reasons to make a positive change in your life.. You want to be

around long for them.. See them grow up, and proceed with their lives.. I know

I only have one, and she's a handful! Very active, and healthy.. She's a

beautiful child, and hopefully, she'll never repeat my mistakes in life.. (with

food).. lol.. Hopefully..

Yeah, you're on liquids? I was doing okay on liquids until they advanced me..

Then, I wasn't doing so good.. The only thing you can do, is wait and see

what happens.. And I was thinking about the possibility of a " stoma

restriction. " Could very well be.. Lori, thanks.. You've been great.. And hey, I

can't

imagine too many others having the same complications as me, with all the good

things I hear.. You'll probably be another success story come true.. So hold

your head up and keep the faith.. Afterall, we are women.. lol.. 100% WOMAN AND

100% PROUD.. Right? lol.. Later.

Greer

August 19, 2003

,

I just want to give you a huge hug and then go bixxx slap your

surgeon :D. You keep sharing and venting... I am here. I know

you will be there for me when they advance me and i get sick as a

dog also. Yes we are woman and so strong!!!

Lori

Open RnY 8/1/03

> Surgeon? Any help? lol... Stop joshing me Lori! The only help he

offers, is

> an elevation in my blood pressure.. Maybe he helps up my stress

level..

>

> No, he's no help.. At this point, I don't even want to see him..

I cancelled

> my last appointment.. I'm on edge.. I'm supposed to go in to see

him

> Thursday, but hell, I don't even want to go.. He does nothing..

I'm telling you, I

> feel like a joke.. One big, fat joke to him! And I'm not alone..

There are

> others feeling the same way that I've met along the way. Maybe I'm

just taking

> everything personal, because I feel so lousy.. I mean, maybe it

has nothing to do

> with him at all, but I highly doubt that.. When you feel like the

doc doesn't

> care, you start to not care too.. It's contagious..

>

> I will try the non-flavored protein and add it to my broth.. But

I'm really

> getting tired of that broth.. I'm telling you.. A person can only

eat, well

> drink, so much of that stuff before they say what's the use? And

physically,

> some days I'm not even hungry at all, I'm just weak.. And tired..

And moody..

> It's a never ending roll of emotions on this twisted, hell hole of

a coaster

> ride.. It's scary, even for me... I feel sorry for the others

around me.. In fact,

> most of the time, I'd rather much be alone.. And I agree I need

some

> physical support, but what surgeon or facility wants to bother

with me when I'm not

> even their patient? Well, I guess I can keep that possibility

open..

>

> So you have three boys??? I bet you have your hands full.. But

those boys

> alone, are three reasons to make a positive change in your life..

You want to be

> around long for them.. See them grow up, and proceed with their

lives.. I know

> I only have one, and she's a handful! Very active, and healthy..

She's a

> beautiful child, and hopefully, she'll never repeat my mistakes in

life.. (with

> food).. lol.. Hopefully..

>

> Yeah, you're on liquids? I was doing okay on liquids until they

advanced me..

> Then, I wasn't doing so good.. The only thing you can do, is wait

and see

> what happens.. And I was thinking about the possibility of

a " stoma

> restriction. " Could very well be.. Lori, thanks.. You've been

great.. And hey, I can't

> imagine too many others having the same complications as me, with

all the good

> things I hear.. You'll probably be another success story come

true.. So hold

> your head up and keep the faith.. Afterall, we are women.. lol..

100% WOMAN AND

> 100% PROUD.. Right? lol.. Later.

>

> Greer

>

August 19, 2003

,

I just want to give you a huge hug and then go bixxx slap your

surgeon :D. You keep sharing and venting... I am here. I know

you will be there for me when they advance me and i get sick as a

dog also. Yes we are woman and so strong!!!

Lori

Open RnY 8/1/03

> Surgeon? Any help? lol... Stop joshing me Lori! The only help he

offers, is

> an elevation in my blood pressure.. Maybe he helps up my stress

level..

>

> No, he's no help.. At this point, I don't even want to see him..

I cancelled

> my last appointment.. I'm on edge.. I'm supposed to go in to see

him

> Thursday, but hell, I don't even want to go.. He does nothing..

I'm telling you, I

> feel like a joke.. One big, fat joke to him! And I'm not alone..

There are

> others feeling the same way that I've met along the way. Maybe I'm

just taking

> everything personal, because I feel so lousy.. I mean, maybe it

has nothing to do

> with him at all, but I highly doubt that.. When you feel like the

doc doesn't

> care, you start to not care too.. It's contagious..

>

> I will try the non-flavored protein and add it to my broth.. But

I'm really

> getting tired of that broth.. I'm telling you.. A person can only

eat, well

> drink, so much of that stuff before they say what's the use? And

physically,

> some days I'm not even hungry at all, I'm just weak.. And tired..

And moody..

> It's a never ending roll of emotions on this twisted, hell hole of

a coaster

> ride.. It's scary, even for me... I feel sorry for the others

around me.. In fact,

> most of the time, I'd rather much be alone.. And I agree I need

some

> physical support, but what surgeon or facility wants to bother

with me when I'm not

> even their patient? Well, I guess I can keep that possibility

open..

>

> So you have three boys??? I bet you have your hands full.. But

those boys

> alone, are three reasons to make a positive change in your life..

You want to be

> around long for them.. See them grow up, and proceed with their

lives.. I know

> I only have one, and she's a handful! Very active, and healthy..

She's a

> beautiful child, and hopefully, she'll never repeat my mistakes in

life.. (with

> food).. lol.. Hopefully..

>

> Yeah, you're on liquids? I was doing okay on liquids until they

advanced me..

> Then, I wasn't doing so good.. The only thing you can do, is wait

and see

> what happens.. And I was thinking about the possibility of

a " stoma

> restriction. " Could very well be.. Lori, thanks.. You've been

great.. And hey, I can't

> imagine too many others having the same complications as me, with

all the good

> things I hear.. You'll probably be another success story come

true.. So hold

> your head up and keep the faith.. Afterall, we are women.. lol..

100% WOMAN AND

> 100% PROUD.. Right? lol.. Later.

>

> Greer

>

August 19, 2003

Here, here! The fact that your surgeon does not take you serioulsy

makes me so mad I could scream! Maybe there is another doctor in the

practice who would be able to pay more attention to you? Maybe the

other suggestion about going to your regular pcp is good, too. Maybe

they have other suggestions for you. I for one, would be bi***ing

and screaming if they wouldn't help me. It is not normal for where

you are post op to have that many issues. After it is all said and

done, I think the Medical Boards in your state need to know about

this doctor. I think you should document everything you can in the

mean time so when you are up and healthy and strong you can sue the

sh** out of this man. You should live nice and comfortable for a

long time after that! and trust me, I am NOT a sue happy american! I

hate hearing about those hokey cases people bring up for b.s. but

this is so serious. It makes me fume. You keep strong, . You

have friends here who thing that you are worth saving. The number of

children you have does not change the value you have. Be strong,

sister. We will get through this together!

son Ranch, CA

Lap RNY 8/12/03

> > Surgeon? Any help? lol... Stop joshing me Lori! The only help

he

> offers, is

> > an elevation in my blood pressure.. Maybe he helps up my stress

> level..

> >

> > No, he's no help.. At this point, I don't even want to see

him..

> I cancelled

> > my last appointment.. I'm on edge.. I'm supposed to go in to see

> him

> > Thursday, but hell, I don't even want to go.. He does nothing..

> I'm telling you, I

> > feel like a joke.. One big, fat joke to him! And I'm not

alone..

> There are

> > others feeling the same way that I've met along the way. Maybe

I'm

> just taking

> > everything personal, because I feel so lousy.. I mean, maybe it

> has nothing to do

> > with him at all, but I highly doubt that.. When you feel like

the

> doc doesn't

> > care, you start to not care too.. It's contagious..

> >

> > I will try the non-flavored protein and add it to my broth.. But

> I'm really

> > getting tired of that broth.. I'm telling you.. A person can

only

> eat, well

> > drink, so much of that stuff before they say what's the use?

And

> physically,

> > some days I'm not even hungry at all, I'm just weak.. And

tired..

> And moody..

> > It's a never ending roll of emotions on this twisted, hell hole

of

> a coaster

> > ride.. It's scary, even for me... I feel sorry for the others

> around me.. In fact,

> > most of the time, I'd rather much be alone.. And I agree I need

> some

> > physical support, but what surgeon or facility wants to bother

> with me when I'm not

> > even their patient? Well, I guess I can keep that possibility

> open..

> >

> > So you have three boys??? I bet you have your hands full.. But

> those boys

> > alone, are three reasons to make a positive change in your

life..

> You want to be

> > around long for them.. See them grow up, and proceed with their

> lives.. I know

> > I only have one, and she's a handful! Very active, and healthy..

> She's a

> > beautiful child, and hopefully, she'll never repeat my mistakes

in

> life.. (with

> > food).. lol.. Hopefully..

> >

> > Yeah, you're on liquids? I was doing okay on liquids until they

> advanced me..

> > Then, I wasn't doing so good.. The only thing you can do, is

wait

> and see

> > what happens.. And I was thinking about the possibility of

> a " stoma

> > restriction. " Could very well be.. Lori, thanks.. You've been

> great.. And hey, I can't

> > imagine too many others having the same complications as me,

with

> all the good

> > things I hear.. You'll probably be another success story come

> true.. So hold

> > your head up and keep the faith.. Afterall, we are women.. lol..

> 100% WOMAN AND

> > 100% PROUD.. Right? lol.. Later.

> >

> > Greer

> >

August 19, 2003