Ida - Re: For Elaine

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Such a sad experience for all of you especially your sister in law.

How on earth has she coped, even though it was a terrible accident, I

can imagine the guilt she must live with. I have terrible guilt over

the loss of my girls - why can't I carry a baby to term, should I

have made the dr's try harder, should I have gone to the hospital

earlier, I should have known something was wrong - on and on it goes

in my head.

Thank you for sharing such a difficult part of your life with me.

Love

Elaine

> Elaine,

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> Your poem brought tears to my eyes. I know that my sister-in-law

deals with

> the same issues because she lost two. One of her babies was a year

old and

> died due to a freak accident. She was at the Ob for a check up

because she

> was 9 months pregnant and when she stepped off the scale she

stepped back

> onto little y. He suffered a fractured skull and they had to

make the

> decision to take him off life support. It was awful! Her 3 year

old also

> witnessed the event and asked numerous times about where y was

after

> the funeral. It was hard enough for us to go to the funeral. My

husband

> was asked to speak and he and I cried and cried because there was

just

> nothing we could possibly say. Finally, God helped him to get

something

> written on paper to share with everyone. They actually sent out

what he

> wrote with the death announcement. I don't know how they cope

because

> y died on December 6th two years ago. Fortunately, my sister-

in-law

> delivered a healthy baby boy that same month. I was worried about

her

> pregnancy and the stress she was enduring. I too was pregnant at

the time

> of all this, so it was really stressful for me too. We had to make

the road

> trip from Orlando to Houston and I was 8 months pregnant. It was

not a

> comfortable ride, but I was glad to provide some support. Sorry to

tell you

> this whole story, but it is the only person that I've known to

witness loss.

> I pray that you have a strong support system of family and friends

to help

> you through these difficult times.

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> Love,

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> Ida

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> A poem I wrote for our girls ...

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> Christmas this year

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> Its Christmas time, a time to care

> But this years Christmas, our pain we'll have to bare.

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> For this years Christmas, should have been

> Our first with our girls, for this we were so keen.

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> On Christmas day, amongst all the cheer

> We'll be thinking of our babies, and wishing they were near.

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> We'll celebrate Christmas, for our little boy

> He keeps us strong; he is our hearts pure joy.

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> On Christmas morning, we'll wake from our sleep

> We'll go to the cemetery, and for both of you we'll weep.

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> For Christmas this year, we'll imagine if you'd stayed

> How wonderful our lives would be, then the thoughts will just fade.

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> Christmas in heaven, we know will be great

> We send you our love; a love that'll never abate.

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> For now on at Christmas, two new stars will shine bright

> They'll be our two little angels, twinkling throughout the night.

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> Each and every Christmas, we'll think of you up above

> We'll send you sweet and loving thoughts, and lots and lots of

love.

>

> To Paige and Amy

> With love always

> Your Mummy - Christmas 2003

>

> Elaine

>

> Abdominal Cerclage placed 2 Dec 2003 - now to TTC.

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> Matt 20 mths - emergency vag/cerl 24 wks, 11 weeks bed rest then

> delivered 35 wks PROM and cord prolapse.

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> Paige and Amy - preventative vag/cerl 14 wks, delivered alive 20

wks,

> passed away short time later wrapped in my arms.

> Babies were suffering from chronic Twin-to-Twin Transfusion

Syndrome

> (TTTS). Unsure whether I/C, TTTS or infection caused contractions,

> which resulted in cervix dilating and stitch to fail.

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> http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/m/matty2002/

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> http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/p/paigeandamy/

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