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Dear Elaine,

Thanks for your opinion. My doctor is concerned because I had premature labor with my last pg and he said if you had it before you will probably have it again with your next pg. I am very worried about it also because once I started having contraction they never stoped, they kept getting worse and they kept increasing the mag. But it didn't work. I had to deliver. I really dont want to have an ab-cerclage and have copntractions and end up losing my baby again.

Thanks for your advice,

Iliana

Elaine wrote:

Hi IlianaOne of the first things I found out about after losing our daughters was whether or not surrogacy was legal anywhere in Australia. I found out it is (in another state to where I live). At this stage I feel that if I had someone who was in the position to be able to carry our biological child for us I'd have to give it a lot of consideration. The thought of going through all the emotional stress of another pg and the chances of another loss really frighten me.For us I think we will probably give the ab cerclage a go but I if it doesn't work out again I'd really consider looking into surrogacy.Sorry if I've missed something but is there a particular reason that your DR is concerned about you labouring early again other than the IC?ElaineMatt 17 mths – emergency vag/cerl 24 wks,

delivered 35 wks PROMPaige and Amy – preventative vag/cerl 14 wks, delivered alive 20 wks, passed away short time later wrapped in my arms. Babies were suffering from chronic Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS). Unsure whether I/C or TTTS caused cervix to dilate and stitch to fail. > Hi everyone!> > Thanks for all your support and advice. It has been very comforting > and helpful. I don't know what I'd do without you!> > Yesterday, I visited Dr. Golichowski at the IU Hospital in > Indianapolis. He said basically that it was possible for me to have > an ab cerclage but he couldn't guarantee that I would not have pre-> term labor again or require bedrest & magnesium for contractions. > He also said that a ruptured uterus was another risk associated with > the

ab cerlage. On top of all of this, I have to take into account > my age - I will be 40 next March.> > Another option for me is that my best friend has offered to act as a > surrogate mother for my child. I told the doctor about this and he > thought it would be less risky for me and give us a better chance > overall even though he said I would be a good candidate for a TAC if > I wanted to go through all the worries and potential risk (including > the possibility of losing another baby).........<sigh>> > Please give me your opinions. I don't know what to do. Help! > > A month ago today, my baby passed away and I've been thinking > about this all day. A month already. Wow! It seems like it went by > so fast. When I was pg a day felt like a whole month. I don't know > if I could go through this

again. > > I am leaving this Thurday for a month in Costa Rica to be with my > family. I'll still be looking forward to reading your replies but I > might be a little slow in responding. Thanks for all your help.> You are all in my prayers.> > Iliana

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Elaine

Someone probably answered you by now but I keep falling behind on reading all

my e-mails. My first three periods were very heavy and I also had painful

cramping. I normally have light periods and really no cramping. This went away

after my fourth period. Hope this helps.

Rosie(TX)