Guest guest Posted September 16, 2003 Report Share Posted September 16, 2003 ((((((((HUGS))))))))) Nell. What a lousy day for you. I hope the rest of it was better. Sorry for not replying sooner but I live in South Africa so the time differences come into play a lot. Shona nell_p wrote: Today has started out horribly. I checked my mail this morning, on my way to take my husband to work, and in it was my copy of my baby's death certificate. Then when I dropped my husband off, one of his teenage co-workers was outside crying. We asked her what was wrong, and she told us that she just found out that she was pregnant again, and was thinking of having her 3rd abortion. It just disgusts me. Why is it that people like this are the ones lucky enough to be blessed with such a wonderous thing when they don't deserve it, and all of us are subjected to the horrible reality of only having a piece of paper, or a fading photograph to remind us of something we truly wanted and deserve? Sorry about the negativity, but man...It is so frustrating!!! I am just worried about being able to make it through the rest of the day without incident. When it rains it pours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2003 Report Share Posted September 16, 2003 ((((((((HUGS))))))))) Nell. What a lousy day for you. I hope the rest of it was better. Sorry for not replying sooner but I live in South Africa so the time differences come into play a lot. Shona nell_p wrote: Today has started out horribly. I checked my mail this morning, on my way to take my husband to work, and in it was my copy of my baby's death certificate. Then when I dropped my husband off, one of his teenage co-workers was outside crying. We asked her what was wrong, and she told us that she just found out that she was pregnant again, and was thinking of having her 3rd abortion. It just disgusts me. Why is it that people like this are the ones lucky enough to be blessed with such a wonderous thing when they don't deserve it, and all of us are subjected to the horrible reality of only having a piece of paper, or a fading photograph to remind us of something we truly wanted and deserve? Sorry about the negativity, but man...It is so frustrating!!! I am just worried about being able to make it through the rest of the day without incident. When it rains it pours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 I have a stupid question for you, but I hope that this will not be upsetting in any way. I was wondering how old does the baby have to be when u have a miscarriage for you to get a death certificate. I only asked this because I feel so cheated on the way that the hospital treated me. I did not get any time to say my good bye to my angel because they had me so drugged up. And then I have heard from others on this site that they got pictures and I did not get any of my baby. I am so sorry to be asking you this but with reading all of this, it makes me stop and wonder...why not? Jess, Just jumping in here...Have you contacted your hospital to see if they took any pictures at all? You never know, there may be a picture or two that they took in your file, and as part of the file, you may be able to have it. As far as the "requirements", I think that varies per state (or at least I think it used to). When I lost my son, in CA, the baby had to be at least 20 weeks and one pound to be considered an actual baby to be buried, with birth certificates and death certificates. My son was 20 weeks, but just under a pound, so we did bury him but I didn't get the certificates at all. I ended up buying them myself through Share, because I felt this was something that I really did need to have. http://www.nationalshareoffice.com/ HTH,Chele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 I have a stupid question for you, but I hope that this will not be upsetting in any way. I was wondering how old does the baby have to be when u have a miscarriage for you to get a death certificate. I only asked this because I feel so cheated on the way that the hospital treated me. I did not get any time to say my good bye to my angel because they had me so drugged up. And then I have heard from others on this site that they got pictures and I did not get any of my baby. I am so sorry to be asking you this but with reading all of this, it makes me stop and wonder...why not? Jess, Just jumping in here...Have you contacted your hospital to see if they took any pictures at all? You never know, there may be a picture or two that they took in your file, and as part of the file, you may be able to have it. As far as the "requirements", I think that varies per state (or at least I think it used to). When I lost my son, in CA, the baby had to be at least 20 weeks and one pound to be considered an actual baby to be buried, with birth certificates and death certificates. My son was 20 weeks, but just under a pound, so we did bury him but I didn't get the certificates at all. I ended up buying them myself through Share, because I felt this was something that I really did need to have. http://www.nationalshareoffice.com/ HTH,Chele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 Jess, Here in NC it is 20 weeks. I am sorry you missed having a picture. I was able to hold Trustin and they hospital took a picture for us and did his hand prints and foot prints. We did not get a death certificate because the m/c was at 18 weeks. I hate this. I wanted my children acknowledged. It is as though they were never born. Love, P. " Brayden Austin " 06/02/03 }}Angel {{ (14wks) 6/12/00 }}Angel Trustin{{ (18wks) 7/17/02 _________________________________________________________________ Instant message during games with MSN Messenger 6.0. Download it now FREE! http://msnmessenger-download.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 Jess, Here in NC it is 20 weeks. I am sorry you missed having a picture. I was able to hold Trustin and they hospital took a picture for us and did his hand prints and foot prints. We did not get a death certificate because the m/c was at 18 weeks. I hate this. I wanted my children acknowledged. It is as though they were never born. Love, P. " Brayden Austin " 06/02/03 }}Angel {{ (14wks) 6/12/00 }}Angel Trustin{{ (18wks) 7/17/02 _________________________________________________________________ Instant message during games with MSN Messenger 6.0. Download it now FREE! http://msnmessenger-download.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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