To Taryn

[Guest guest]

Don´t worry Taryn, I don´t think you regret your choice. I understand exaclty how you feel. It must be difficult for you, I too have a strong hope that with the ab my next pregnacy is easier. But, as I can see from your situation, there are no guarantees. I only hope and pray that at the end of this difficult journey you are able to have your miracle. I´m thinking of you and waiting for the news on your doc appointment.

Love,

Ianda

----Original Message-----From: Taryn Bergstrom Sent: terça-feira, 16 de dezembro de 2003 15:31To: Abbyloopers Subject: RE: QUESTION

Ianda,

I understand how you feel about the what if’s. I am 25 weeks on SBR since 12 weeks. last Friday I started contractions and have had them ever since then. They at times can be very painful. Everytime I have one I think back to my delivery. The contractions are the same ones last time. I am on progesterone shots to help prevent ptl. But you are right it is all in God’s hands. It is very scary for us everytime and I can’t help think, “Oh God please not again”. i think what have I gotten into and will I be able to survive it. I cannot stress to you the concerns when you ttc again. I am glad we are trying but I thought with the ab cerclage things would be different. They are. At this time I was delivering my son and in the hospital. So, I am doing better just in a different way then I thought I would be. I say to myself, look at all the members they all had their miracle, won’t I have one too? I have the worst luck. However, I am glad we are given a second chance. I just want it to work out. My hd and I said that if we could get to 28 weeks that wpould be great.

I know how scary is sounds and how wonderful it sounds. I guess you just have to take it as it goes. I just want you to understand that we are on the same page. Down deep inside I know it will turn out good. It is just getting heir. Try not to focus on the negative. You two will make wonderful mothers. You have all the info, the doc and the ab. You are more then half way their. Keep the faith.

God bless,

Taryn – I hope that you do not think that I regret my choice, I am just scared.

-----Original Message-----From: ianda.lopes.silva@... Sent: Tuesday, December 16, 2003 6:56 AMTo: Abbyloopers Subject: RE: QUESTION

Hi ,

I understand exaclty how you feel. I always find myself thinking about what could go wrong, what if I´m on the 5% on which the ab doesn´t work... this kind of stuff. We have gone through too much and it´s difficult to even think about another loss.

But, as we all now, in life there are no 100% guarantees. My doc was very sincere with me, he told me that my chances with the ab would be much higher, but the only one who could guarantee 100% sucess is God. So, I´m trying to focus on the 95%, focus on all information I have, the plan I have for this preganancy (ab, preventive antibiotics) and I´m trying to put my life in God´s hands, and ask Him to guide it.

What I´m trying to tell you is that I´m on the same boat as you. I´ve had my ab place pre pregnancy this Nov, 29th, and we already started ttc. My doc gave us the go ahead and here we are. But I must confess to you that everytime we have sex to ttc, at the end I feel afraid, and ask myself if I´m doing the right thing, if I´m not been too optimistic.

But we have to keep the faith and focus on the positive things. It will work for me and for you. It will work for us all.

Love,

Ianda

-----Original Message-----From: dailysummary Sent: segunda-feira, 15 de dezembro de 2003 20:17To: Abbyloopers Subject: QUESTION

Hi It is I just had a question, How long are you put on bed rest after the ab if there are no complications whatsoever, and I know the success rate is what 95 % whatever happen to the other 5% of women; I just get so worried that I will always end up as the percentage that failed, because I long to try again but the thought of this ab failing which seems to be the last resort then I don't think I can handle it. What could go wrong besides ptl,and prom is there an hour glass membrane effect with this cerclage, has it been heard of to break like the vaginal, I really just wont to hear that is there a chance the cervix will start to open and the bulging membranes will happen.thanks alicia all 3 boys17weeks bulging membranes19weeks buldging membranes21weeks mcdonald cerclage, ptl, hour glass membranes