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[Guest guest]

Hello

I have been tempted to go to a perinatologist, but my hd says he

wants to wait before we try agin, but all I ever do is think about my

babies whenever I see preg women or children. He says that after this

third loss since we have been trying for the past two years we need

a break ,and I do not want a break I want to keep trying. I didn't

even start the birth control pills yet like I was suppose to. I know

my hd means well he says to lets get out ans have some fun, but I

tried that and eventually that fun is interrupted with wanting my

baby.It seems like there is nothing elsa i want to do after ever loss

knowing i would jump right up helped ease the pain that this next

time will work but him wanting to wait a year and a half seems like a

lifetime away.

[Guest guest]

,

I understand how you fell. I was also like this, I wanted desperatly to try again and my hd wanted to wait. You both should try to talk and make an agreement good for both of you. Maybe one year and a half is too much, but, waiting at least 4 or 5 months will be good for you. With more time, your body will be able to heal - three subsequent pregnancies are difficult to anyone´s body. With time, you are going to be more relaxed as well (of course the fear never goes away). I know how hard it is to change the focus. I was so desperate to ttc after my second loss, and my husband would say to wait 1 year, at least. We agreed on changing the focus for a moment, but not stop working on our goal, so we moved house, did other things, travel, PLUS I had the ad done pre pregnancy. Now, four months after my loss, here we are, ttc again . My hb feels more confident now with the ab.

I whish you all the best

Ianda

-----Original Message-----From: dailysummary@... Sent: terça-feira, 16 de dezembro de 2003 17:39To: Abbyloopers Subject: anyone who wants to readHelloI have been tempted to go to a perinatologist, but my hd says he wants to wait before we try agin, but all I ever do is think about my babies whenever I see preg women or children. He says that after this third loss since we have been trying for the past two years we need a break ,and I do not want a break I want to keep trying. I didn't even start the birth control pills yet like I was suppose to. I know my hd means well he says to lets get out ans have some fun, but I tried that and eventually that fun is interrupted with wanting my baby.It seems like there is nothing elsa i want to do after ever loss knowing i would jump right up helped ease the pain that this next time will work but him wanting to wait a year and a half seems like a lifetime away.

[Guest guest]

I can understand some of your feelings. The feeling of wanting a

child is SO strong. Going to the pernatologist might ease some of

your husband's anxieties. I know it helped me. I show my husband

everytime an abbylooper baby is born. I show him the success

stories and the pictures. I am sure your husband is just so

affraid. " Going out and having fun " could his way of coping or

escaping. Just my thoughts.

> Hello

> I have been tempted to go to a perinatologist, but my hd says he

> wants to wait before we try agin, but all I ever do is think about

my

> babies whenever I see preg women or children. He says that after

this

> third loss since we have been trying for the past two years we

need

> a break ,and I do not want a break I want to keep trying. I didn't

> even start the birth control pills yet like I was suppose to. I

know

> my hd means well he says to lets get out ans have some fun, but I

> tried that and eventually that fun is interrupted with wanting my

> baby.It seems like there is nothing elsa i want to do after ever

loss

> knowing i would jump right up helped ease the pain that this next

> time will work but him wanting to wait a year and a half seems

like a

> lifetime away.

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry. My dh didn't want to ttc right away after our last loss. I chose not to take birth control. I did not want to wait either. Well after a month of "fun" we got pregnant and had our miracle. DH will come around. He is also grieving. Keep talking to him and communicate to him how you feel. That year and a half may change. I hope it does. I remember the pain of seeing pregnant women and babies everywhere. It also seemed that every other commercial on TV was a baby or advertisement for some flippin pregnancy test.

I still get jealous of pregnant women and mothers that "breezed" through their pregnancy. I still grieve the loss of our two children and think it is just so unfair. Your time will come and you will have your miracle baby in your arms and have a wonderful long life with you child.

Love,Brayden Austin 06-02-03}Angel{ Trustin Cody 07-17-02}Angel{ Cheyenne 6-12-00

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HelloI have been tempted to go to a perinatologist, but my hd says he wants to wait before we try agin, but all I ever do is think about my babies whenever I see preg women or children. He says that after this third loss since we have been trying for the past two years we need a break ,and I do not want a break I want to keep trying. I didn't even start the birth control pills yet like I was suppose to. I know my hd means well he says to lets get out ans have some fun, but I tried that and eventually that fun is interrupted with wanting my baby.It seems like there is nothing elsa i want to do after ever loss knowing i would jump right up helped ease the pain that this next time will work but him wanting to wait a year and a half seems like a lifetime away.