Re: Re: problem with spouse--For Sharing With Family Members

[Guest guest]

> The " food police. " One of the biggest stresses occurs when family

> members take on the role of what some people call the " food police. "

> The food police are the people who are always on guard and seem to

> monitor the eating habits of their loved one at all times.

>

that was this sunday. For the first time in months I decided to have a piece

of carrot cake, took the extra insulin for it and all, and I got a slew of

" you cant eat thats " sigh I want to just hide in a dark cave away from everyone

[Guest guest]

You can come hide with me and we'll share that carrot

cake!!!

mmmm-mmmm

Jamez

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[Guest guest]

> You can come hide with me and we'll share that carrot

> cake!!!

>

It was worth the extra shot!!

[Guest guest]

metaylorokc@... wrote:

>[re: a piece of carrot cake] . . . It was worth the extra shot!!

Absolutely! but that's one of the reasons I am selective about whom I tell

about my T1/diabetic status . . . *I* choose if/when/how much I will bend

the " rules " and how I will compensate. Diabetes, in its various forms and

ways of treating it, is difficult enough for us to learn to understand but

normal folks really get confused and find it nearly impossible to

understand as they tend to see it as black-and-white, all or nothing,

always or never . . . and that can turn them (no matter how well-meaning)

into the Food Police.

Example1: Aunt Hester offers you a piece of cake (perhaps loaded with

frosting) and you say, " No, I can't eat that, I'm diabetic. " (I would just

say " no, thank you " .) Under different circumstances, a friend offers you a

piece of to-die-for carrot cake and you decide you just *have* to have some

so you do and take an extra shot to cover it . . . and Aunt Hester

overhears and is insulted because you told *her* you were diabetic and

COULDN'T eat *her* cake. (Aunt Hester probably doesn't have a clue about

insulin .. . she only knows that you said you're diabetic and can't eat

cake . . . yet now you're eating cake . . . ??!?)

Example2: Only sweets are offered for dessert and you are, possibly,

feeling a bit deprived . . . you tell them, " I can't eat any of that sweet

stuff; I'm diabetic " (with kind of a pout, perhaps, because what you really

mean is that you'd like them to provide some alternative that you *can*

eat) . . . so those folks either feel guilty (cuz you can't eat a dessert)

or go to some lengths to provide an alternative that you can eat or both .

.. . then witness you eating that piece of carrot cake from Example 1. Hmmmm.

Sandy

T1 - 1979