Guest guest Posted April 13, 2003 Report Share Posted April 13, 2003 > > Raena (who now has to spend the next half hour or so sewing ribbons > on a new $65 pair of pointe shoes---then cringe while Elaine slams > them in the door and sands the satin off the toe....ack!) > Now that brings back memories, except that they weren't $65 when I was buying them. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 In a message dated 4/22/03 9:35:07 AM Eastern Daylight Time, rgr4us@... writes: > I'll give up custody of Mark first. > We could send him to live with Lou snicker snicker Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 > > Oh for crying out loud...where was this woman's sense of humor? > She was truly offended. What I have found, Penny, is that there are people who understand, and people who don't. Of the people who don't, there are people who are willing to learn, and people who aren't...and you aren't going to make that last bunch happy no matter what you do. I'm not sure exactly which category this lady fit into, but I do know that she felt her personal space was invaded...and that it was my fault. > Still not a big deal...Now if he was 15......> Yeah...that was my thought, too...he's a kid fer cryin' out loud. > Aw crap...yuck. :-( > Turned out he was getting sick...missed therapy yesterday, and probably will again today. Of course, you don't always see that until AFTER the crisis; then you get that " aha! " moment... > ......told me I " have to do something " ....... > > Oh really, what would he suggest? > Honestly, Penny, I think he believes that should not be living at home. He goes back and forth on that...but that is Mark's nature; he decides something, and then he keeps digging at you over it, even when he knows you don't agree--can never just hush. It's one of his least endearing traits, IMO. isn't going anywhere...it isn't necessary at this point, would absolutely terrify him, and would require giving up custody to the state. Like THAT'S gonna happen. I'll give up custody of Mark first. Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 > > Oh for crying out loud...where was this woman's sense of humor? > She was truly offended. What I have found, Penny, is that there are people who understand, and people who don't. Of the people who don't, there are people who are willing to learn, and people who aren't...and you aren't going to make that last bunch happy no matter what you do. I'm not sure exactly which category this lady fit into, but I do know that she felt her personal space was invaded...and that it was my fault. > Still not a big deal...Now if he was 15......> Yeah...that was my thought, too...he's a kid fer cryin' out loud. > Aw crap...yuck. :-( > Turned out he was getting sick...missed therapy yesterday, and probably will again today. Of course, you don't always see that until AFTER the crisis; then you get that " aha! " moment... > ......told me I " have to do something " ....... > > Oh really, what would he suggest? > Honestly, Penny, I think he believes that should not be living at home. He goes back and forth on that...but that is Mark's nature; he decides something, and then he keeps digging at you over it, even when he knows you don't agree--can never just hush. It's one of his least endearing traits, IMO. isn't going anywhere...it isn't necessary at this point, would absolutely terrify him, and would require giving up custody to the state. Like THAT'S gonna happen. I'll give up custody of Mark first. Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 > > Oh for crying out loud...where was this woman's sense of humor? > She was truly offended. What I have found, Penny, is that there are people who understand, and people who don't. Of the people who don't, there are people who are willing to learn, and people who aren't...and you aren't going to make that last bunch happy no matter what you do. I'm not sure exactly which category this lady fit into, but I do know that she felt her personal space was invaded...and that it was my fault. > Still not a big deal...Now if he was 15......> Yeah...that was my thought, too...he's a kid fer cryin' out loud. > Aw crap...yuck. :-( > Turned out he was getting sick...missed therapy yesterday, and probably will again today. Of course, you don't always see that until AFTER the crisis; then you get that " aha! " moment... > ......told me I " have to do something " ....... > > Oh really, what would he suggest? > Honestly, Penny, I think he believes that should not be living at home. He goes back and forth on that...but that is Mark's nature; he decides something, and then he keeps digging at you over it, even when he knows you don't agree--can never just hush. It's one of his least endearing traits, IMO. isn't going anywhere...it isn't necessary at this point, would absolutely terrify him, and would require giving up custody to the state. Like THAT'S gonna happen. I'll give up custody of Mark first. Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 > > > > Oh for crying out loud...where was this woman's sense of humor? > > > She was truly offended. What I have found, Penny, is that there are > people who understand, and people who don't. Of the people who > don't, there are people who are willing to learn, and people who > aren't...and you aren't going to make that last bunch happy no matter what you do. I'm not sure exactly which category this lady fit into, but I do know that she felt her personal space was invaded...and that it was my fault. > We had a similar incident with in a book store. I wasn't in the store very long but loves books so it's usually an easy trip with just him. He doesn't care if a book has pictures or not, the bigger the better to him. (and the child is NOT hyperlexic so figure that one out for me.) Anyway, this is a large yet intimate book store. There are couches and chairs throughout the store and lots of people sit and read for long periods of time. Well, a bald man was sitting on a low couch and when walked past him, he reached out and felt of his shiny dome. The man was furious. He didn't say anything to me but if looks could kill I wouldn't be typing this now. He made several indignant grunts and slammed the book down on a table got up and left. I apologized and scolded but that wasn't anywhere near good enough for him. I think he was just very insecure about being bald. He wasn't about to listen to any explanations. loves to have his hair really really short because he loves to run his hands over it. It's a sensory issue. I'm sure he saw this man's bald head and wondered if it would feel like his. My mother who rarely goes anywhere with me was absolutely mortified. She turned 12 shades of red and wanted to leave without finishing her purchases. But my mother has lots of personal issues and has a very hard time coping with kids of any ability so I ignore her. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 >>>Well, a bald man was sitting on a low couch and when walked past him, he reached out and felt of his shiny dome.<<<< OMG that is soooo funny!! (Sorry I am sure it wasn't for you) But people really need to relax and have a sense of humor (its good for their health)!! My brother is quite bald for 35 and has a great sense of humor about it. BTW My sister works at a Wal-Mart and the stories she tells about how people treat their children are amazing so I guess I shouldn't be surprised that they don't have any patience for others' children Warm Regards & ASD 11/25/00 in Maine Re: Not a good day > > > > Oh for crying out loud...where was this woman's sense of humor? > > > She was truly offended. What I have found, Penny, is that there are > people who understand, and people who don't. Of the people who > don't, there are people who are willing to learn, and people who > aren't...and you aren't going to make that last bunch happy no matter what you do. I'm not sure exactly which category this lady fit into, but I do know that she felt her personal space was invaded...and that it was my fault. > We had a similar incident with in a book store. I wasn't in the store very long but loves books so it's usually an easy trip with just him. He doesn't care if a book has pictures or not, the bigger the better to him. (and the child is NOT hyperlexic so figure that one out for me.) Anyway, this is a large yet intimate book store. There are couches and chairs throughout the store and lots of people sit and read for long periods of time. Well, a bald man was sitting on a low couch and when walked past him, he reached out and felt of his shiny dome. The man was furious. He didn't say anything to me but if looks could kill I wouldn't be typing this now. He made several indignant grunts and slammed the book down on a table got up and left. I apologized and scolded but that wasn't anywhere near good enough for him. I think he was just very insecure about being bald. He wasn't about to listen to any explanations. loves to have his hair really really short because he loves to run his hands over it. It's a sensory issue. I'm sure he saw this man's bald head and wondered if it would feel like his. My mother who rarely goes anywhere with me was absolutely mortified. She turned 12 shades of red and wanted to leave without finishing her purchases. But my mother has lots of personal issues and has a very hard time coping with kids of any ability so I ignore her. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 Tina, Alan's just a kid, for petesakes. And it sounds like baldy hasn't grown up either. I'm sorry this happened, Tina. Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 I think it's really kind of funny! The guy obviously had a problem with his lack of hair. Oh well, he must lead a very unhappy existence! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 > >>>Well, a bald man was sitting on a low couch and when walked past him, he reached out and felt of his shiny dome.<<<< > > OMG that is soooo funny!! (Sorry I am sure it wasn't for you) Actually I was trying not to giggle. didn't mean any harm and he was only about 5 when it happened. My mother was mortified but she has no sense of humor. I've had kids come up behind in grocery lines and other places and do silly things. I've had more than one touch me. One little African American girl was fascinated with my 9 yr. old and wanted to touch her face. Her mother was so worried I'd be mad but I told her it was fine and explained to Sami that she was curious about the difference in her skin color. Sami leaned over and let the little girl touch her face. She was such a cutie, we oohed and ahed over her for a minute and her mom finally stopped blushing. We live in a 98% white community. My kids did the same thing when they noticed a black person for the first time. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 > >>>Well, a bald man was sitting on a low couch and when walked past him, he reached out and felt of his shiny dome.<<<< > > OMG that is soooo funny!! (Sorry I am sure it wasn't for you) Actually I was trying not to giggle. didn't mean any harm and he was only about 5 when it happened. My mother was mortified but she has no sense of humor. I've had kids come up behind in grocery lines and other places and do silly things. I've had more than one touch me. One little African American girl was fascinated with my 9 yr. old and wanted to touch her face. Her mother was so worried I'd be mad but I told her it was fine and explained to Sami that she was curious about the difference in her skin color. Sami leaned over and let the little girl touch her face. She was such a cutie, we oohed and ahed over her for a minute and her mom finally stopped blushing. We live in a 98% white community. My kids did the same thing when they noticed a black person for the first time. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 > Her mother was so worried I'd be mad but I told her it was > fine and explained to Sami that she was curious about the > difference in her skin color. Sami leaned over and let the little > girl touch her face. She was such a cutie, we oohed and ahed over > her for a minute and her mom finally stopped blushing. We live in a > 98% white community. My kids did the same thing when they noticed a > black person for the first time. > LOL...this reminds me of when was tiny...she was absolutely fascinated with " brown people " , as she called them. I guess with her ish/Irish/Scandanavian coloring, dark skin was fairly exotic. She was so envious of their skin color, and always chose African American or Hispanic Barbies...I was constantly worried she would embarrass some poor stranger by saying or doing something... Of course, these days I'm thinking " if only that was the worst thing that might happen while we're out " ....there's that perspective thing again. ;-) Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 > Her mother was so worried I'd be mad but I told her it was > fine and explained to Sami that she was curious about the > difference in her skin color. Sami leaned over and let the little > girl touch her face. She was such a cutie, we oohed and ahed over > her for a minute and her mom finally stopped blushing. We live in a > 98% white community. My kids did the same thing when they noticed a > black person for the first time. > LOL...this reminds me of when was tiny...she was absolutely fascinated with " brown people " , as she called them. I guess with her ish/Irish/Scandanavian coloring, dark skin was fairly exotic. She was so envious of their skin color, and always chose African American or Hispanic Barbies...I was constantly worried she would embarrass some poor stranger by saying or doing something... Of course, these days I'm thinking " if only that was the worst thing that might happen while we're out " ....there's that perspective thing again. ;-) Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 > Her mother was so worried I'd be mad but I told her it was > fine and explained to Sami that she was curious about the > difference in her skin color. Sami leaned over and let the little > girl touch her face. She was such a cutie, we oohed and ahed over > her for a minute and her mom finally stopped blushing. We live in a > 98% white community. My kids did the same thing when they noticed a > black person for the first time. > LOL...this reminds me of when was tiny...she was absolutely fascinated with " brown people " , as she called them. I guess with her ish/Irish/Scandanavian coloring, dark skin was fairly exotic. She was so envious of their skin color, and always chose African American or Hispanic Barbies...I was constantly worried she would embarrass some poor stranger by saying or doing something... Of course, these days I'm thinking " if only that was the worst thing that might happen while we're out " ....there's that perspective thing again. ;-) Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 >>>>> Like THAT'S gonna happen. I'll give up custody of Mark first. Raena <<<<< No doubt. I'm sure Mark knows that too!!! Penny :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 >>>>> Like THAT'S gonna happen. I'll give up custody of Mark first. Raena <<<<< No doubt. I'm sure Mark knows that too!!! Penny :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 >>>>>>> He didn't say anything to me but if looks could kill I wouldn't be typing this now. He made several indignant grunts and slammed the book down on a table got up and left. <<<<<<< Those are the people where I just say " whatever " ...geesh... >>>>>>> I think he was just very insecure about being bald. <<<<<<< Then maybe a hat or toupe is in order???? It's so hard to teach our children to be tolerant when adults are such ignoramus' (ignorami)? Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 >>>>>>> He didn't say anything to me but if looks could kill I wouldn't be typing this now. He made several indignant grunts and slammed the book down on a table got up and left. <<<<<<< Those are the people where I just say " whatever " ...geesh... >>>>>>> I think he was just very insecure about being bald. <<<<<<< Then maybe a hat or toupe is in order???? It's so hard to teach our children to be tolerant when adults are such ignoramus' (ignorami)? Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 > No doubt. I'm sure Mark knows that too!!! > LOL...you know, I bet he does...too much mama bear in me... Raena (who now has to spend the next half hour or so sewing ribbons on a new $65 pair of pointe shoes---then cringe while Elaine slams them in the door and sands the satin off the toe....ack!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 Well, she has to break them in somehow lol. Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 > > LOL...this reminds me of when was tiny...she was absolutely > fascinated with " brown people " , as she called them. This reminds me of when Enrique was about five. We were standing in line at the Bronx Zoo, and Enrique, after looking thoughtfully at the black couple ahead of us, turned to me and said, " Mama, have you ever noticed that some people are a different color? " My sister in law is black and her daughers are, well, whatever...so it wasn't as if he had never seen anyone with a different skin color. I guess it just suddenly struck him as interesting. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2003 Report Share Posted September 25, 2003 Hi Constance: I had IBS for years before surgery and it was never an issue. In fact my IBS has yet to reappear since surgery and I'm leaning more toward constipation, which I'm hoping will lessen when I can add more roughage to my diet. I had been in treatment for depression for a year before surgery and it also was not an issue. The psych evaluation was geared towards whether I was able and willing to comply with the new diet, supplements and follow-up appointments. sorry I can't comment on heartburn, I was lucky enough to miss that bullet. Steele Open RNY 8/7/03 316/271/150 Hi Everyone! Today has not been a good day. I have tried to be " happy " today, but it s just NOT happening! I could be PMS'ing, I dunno. I feel fat. Very fat. My BMI is 45. I weigh 271. I saw a gyn yesterday and he told me I may have irritable bowel syndrome with my chronic pelvic pain. If I do have IBS, what does that do to the surgery? I won't be able to have it, will I? Should I just not tell my PCP and the surgeon? And, I have heartburn. Pretty much every nite. Does that mean that the surgeon will order an upper GI for me? If he might, I just won't tell him or my PCP about it. And, from what the psych. analysis is (from what some of you have posted) I really don't think that I will pass it. Has anyone on here been diagnosed with PTSD w/ panic attacks & flashbacks? Depression? Did you pass the psych. exam?? Can I use the shrink that I see now for my psych. exam? I am not even sure she will " ok " me! I want this surgery. I have NEVER in my life " wanted " surgery! I am very much afraid of dr.s and hospitals and tests, so for me to want this, I really want it. I am afraid of getting my hopes up and have something stupid hold me back from having it. Perhaps even my fear. I am sorry - I am not angry at any of you. Please believe me! Everyone has been so nice to me, putting up with all of my questions. I am just really depressed. (I am on meds and I have been taking them.) Can anyone help me? Please? Take care, cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2003 Report Share Posted September 25, 2003 Hi Constance: I had IBS for years before surgery and it was never an issue. In fact my IBS has yet to reappear since surgery and I'm leaning more toward constipation, which I'm hoping will lessen when I can add more roughage to my diet. I had been in treatment for depression for a year before surgery and it also was not an issue. The psych evaluation was geared towards whether I was able and willing to comply with the new diet, supplements and follow-up appointments. sorry I can't comment on heartburn, I was lucky enough to miss that bullet. Steele Open RNY 8/7/03 316/271/150 Hi Everyone! Today has not been a good day. I have tried to be " happy " today, but it s just NOT happening! I could be PMS'ing, I dunno. I feel fat. Very fat. My BMI is 45. I weigh 271. I saw a gyn yesterday and he told me I may have irritable bowel syndrome with my chronic pelvic pain. If I do have IBS, what does that do to the surgery? I won't be able to have it, will I? Should I just not tell my PCP and the surgeon? And, I have heartburn. Pretty much every nite. Does that mean that the surgeon will order an upper GI for me? If he might, I just won't tell him or my PCP about it. And, from what the psych. analysis is (from what some of you have posted) I really don't think that I will pass it. Has anyone on here been diagnosed with PTSD w/ panic attacks & flashbacks? Depression? Did you pass the psych. exam?? Can I use the shrink that I see now for my psych. exam? I am not even sure she will " ok " me! I want this surgery. I have NEVER in my life " wanted " surgery! I am very much afraid of dr.s and hospitals and tests, so for me to want this, I really want it. I am afraid of getting my hopes up and have something stupid hold me back from having it. Perhaps even my fear. I am sorry - I am not angry at any of you. Please believe me! Everyone has been so nice to me, putting up with all of my questions. I am just really depressed. (I am on meds and I have been taking them.) Can anyone help me? Please? Take care, cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2003 Report Share Posted September 25, 2003 Hi Constance: I had IBS for years before surgery and it was never an issue. In fact my IBS has yet to reappear since surgery and I'm leaning more toward constipation, which I'm hoping will lessen when I can add more roughage to my diet. I had been in treatment for depression for a year before surgery and it also was not an issue. The psych evaluation was geared towards whether I was able and willing to comply with the new diet, supplements and follow-up appointments. sorry I can't comment on heartburn, I was lucky enough to miss that bullet. Steele Open RNY 8/7/03 316/271/150 Hi Everyone! Today has not been a good day. I have tried to be " happy " today, but it s just NOT happening! I could be PMS'ing, I dunno. I feel fat. Very fat. My BMI is 45. I weigh 271. I saw a gyn yesterday and he told me I may have irritable bowel syndrome with my chronic pelvic pain. If I do have IBS, what does that do to the surgery? I won't be able to have it, will I? Should I just not tell my PCP and the surgeon? And, I have heartburn. Pretty much every nite. Does that mean that the surgeon will order an upper GI for me? If he might, I just won't tell him or my PCP about it. And, from what the psych. analysis is (from what some of you have posted) I really don't think that I will pass it. Has anyone on here been diagnosed with PTSD w/ panic attacks & flashbacks? Depression? Did you pass the psych. exam?? Can I use the shrink that I see now for my psych. exam? I am not even sure she will " ok " me! I want this surgery. I have NEVER in my life " wanted " surgery! I am very much afraid of dr.s and hospitals and tests, so for me to want this, I really want it. I am afraid of getting my hopes up and have something stupid hold me back from having it. Perhaps even my fear. I am sorry - I am not angry at any of you. Please believe me! Everyone has been so nice to me, putting up with all of my questions. I am just really depressed. (I am on meds and I have been taking them.) Can anyone help me? Please? Take care, cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2003 Report Share Posted September 25, 2003 Howdy Cheryl, I think everyone has bad days, but it is worse for someone who is depressed. I have clical depression, which is a term they put on those if us who are chemically depressed due to????, mine they chalk up to heredity. Any way it goes, I will be on medication for the rest of my life. This isn't such a bad prospect knowing what life is like without the drugs. Though it is a guessing game for the doctors to find the right drug or combination of drugs that helps you, once they have, take them RELIGIOUSLY, and life will be soooo much better. As far as pre op tests, my surgeon requires everyone to have an upper GI. Probably to see if there is anything that might obstruct or hamper surgery. It isn't bad, just don't breathe and drink...hold you nose helps. The phyc test. Well I saw one doctor that wanted an MMPI, which is 35 different questions asked you 10 different ways. How this tells something, I have no clue, but it is used for phyciatric diagnosis. The surgeon I have now wants you to see a social worker. My guess is to see if you really know what you are getting yourself into, and can you change your life to fit the procedure, since your new pouch won't fit your old life. A lot of the deaths related to this surgery are those people who didn't listen, thought the rules didn't pertain to them, thought that " just this small piece can't hurt " , or the one I love " I thought if I left the dorito in my mouth long enough to mush, it could be part of my liquid diet. " It is also thought that this surgery helps with some depressions, in the long run, though the first year or 18 months it could increase it. Hope this helped...sorry for how long it is. boogie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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