Re: Update on Mom

[Guest guest]

Dear Deb,

God will hear your mother and if she has a strong belief, He will be holding her

hand right in front of you and only she will know. I too put my strength in the

Lord our God and today was blessed as I was the soloist and sang... How Great

Thou Art. I would wish for God to touch and comfort you through these most

perilous times.

Karima

Re: update on mom

Oh yes Deb, Your mom has my Prayers!!! Ingrid

> Hey all just a quick update on mom , first thanks for the prayers

please keep them coming,

> They have admitted my mom to hospital , she will be there for

several days,

> They have diagnosed her with congestive heart failure and she also

has a spot of some sort on her right upper lung .They sent her for a

cat scan but wont know anything on it til tomorrow.

> Please let it be something simple .

> I honestly dont know if she would go through the surgery again or

even if she could since she only has a partial left lung as it is.

> And I know for a fact she wont do chemo ( she was suppose to do it

last time but refused)

> She puts her fate in the hands of God ,

> Please help Him to hear them

>

> Thanks

> Deb

>

>

> 33yrold husband Joe, was diagnosed with CC in Sept,

> resection on Sept 27th 2004

> found mets to the abdominal wall lining 3 lymph nodes involved

> open wound from infection until Jan 2005

> Ileostomy reversal Dec 7th 2004

> Chemo regiment begun Jan 2005

> 5fu/levorican/Oxaplatin/ Avastin added Feb 14 2005 (Happy

Valentines

> Calcium Magnesium added for the Tingles Feb 28 2005

> Ct Scan done March 23rd 2005 , 16 millimeter cyst like object on

liver found

> April 1 2005 PET scan done awaiting results

> April 11 PET SCAN SHOWS

NED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> May 9 Plateletts are low 75,000

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

>>>I am filled with so many regrets I don't think I

can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make the

right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. >>>

Dear Diane,

Sometimes the one who is so desparately ill is subconsciously just waiting for a

kind of " permission " from their loved ones to go on.

I am so happy you told her that you loved her. Bless your heart...that may have

been all she needed to hear to feel it was okay with you if she went on to be

with your Dad. Your love helped her in her last step, you are a precious

daughter.

I will keep you in my prayers,

nancy j

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[Guest guest]

>>>I am filled with so many regrets I don't think I

can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make the

right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. >>>

Dear Diane,

Sometimes the one who is so desparately ill is subconsciously just waiting for a

kind of " permission " from their loved ones to go on.

I am so happy you told her that you loved her. Bless your heart...that may have

been all she needed to hear to feel it was okay with you if she went on to be

with your Dad. Your love helped her in her last step, you are a precious

daughter.

I will keep you in my prayers,

nancy j

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[Guest guest]

-Diane,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom. I lost two

months ago and felt the same as you. I stood by his side for 5

years only leaving him for necessary outings. I was taking care of

my favorite aunt dying of lung cancer at the same time. Would you

believe both of them died without me by their side. Someone told me

they think God plans it this way. It's still not easy to deal with

but at least my last memory of him was smiling at me and giving me a

kiss and telling me to be careful on my way home. My Aunt Dee and I

were talking and laughing about how lucky she was in Las Vegas and I

ran home for a few minutes and when I came back she was also gone.

I am still having a very hard time dealing with their deaths but I

try to spend my thoughts on all the good and fun times we had. When

I think about the cancer it just depresses me and it won't bring him

back.

I have had so many phone calls from friends and relatives telling me

how told them what good care I took of him. He told them he

only was hanging on because of me.

Your Mom knew how much you loved her and you need to take comfort in

that and know that this Beast is not hurting her anymore.

I won't lie, it still hurts and will continue to hurt but I WILL get

thru this for him.

Take joy and pleasure in being with your husband, friends and

relatives because we are lucky to have them.

May God take you in his arms and give you comfort.

Joyce

-- In colon_cancer_support , " dianebrnr "

wrote:

> My Mom died this morning. We were trying to figure a way that we

could

> all take turns to stay with my Mom so someone would always be

there. I

> left last night to go home and my husband stayed there. Early

this

> morning my Mom fell out of bed and there was vomit all over. My

> husband went to her and she was moaning. He ran to call for help

and

> when he got back she wasn't breathing. I feel so horrible that I

left

> last night--maybe she was calling for help and if I was there I

> would've heard her??? I am filled with so many regrets I don't

think I

> can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make

the

> right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. I

never

> thought this would happen now. How do I deal with this? I can't

> believe both my parents are gone within months of each other. We

have

> no idea how to pay bills or anything and I guess we should talk to

a

> lawyer.

> I want to thank all of you for your help and I wish you all good

health.

> Take care.

> Diane

[Guest guest]

-Diane,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom. I lost two

months ago and felt the same as you. I stood by his side for 5

years only leaving him for necessary outings. I was taking care of

my favorite aunt dying of lung cancer at the same time. Would you

believe both of them died without me by their side. Someone told me

they think God plans it this way. It's still not easy to deal with

but at least my last memory of him was smiling at me and giving me a

kiss and telling me to be careful on my way home. My Aunt Dee and I

were talking and laughing about how lucky she was in Las Vegas and I

ran home for a few minutes and when I came back she was also gone.

I am still having a very hard time dealing with their deaths but I

try to spend my thoughts on all the good and fun times we had. When

I think about the cancer it just depresses me and it won't bring him

back.

I have had so many phone calls from friends and relatives telling me

how told them what good care I took of him. He told them he

only was hanging on because of me.

Your Mom knew how much you loved her and you need to take comfort in

that and know that this Beast is not hurting her anymore.

I won't lie, it still hurts and will continue to hurt but I WILL get

thru this for him.

Take joy and pleasure in being with your husband, friends and

relatives because we are lucky to have them.

May God take you in his arms and give you comfort.

Joyce

-- In colon_cancer_support , " dianebrnr "

wrote:

> My Mom died this morning. We were trying to figure a way that we

could

> all take turns to stay with my Mom so someone would always be

there. I

> left last night to go home and my husband stayed there. Early

this

> morning my Mom fell out of bed and there was vomit all over. My

> husband went to her and she was moaning. He ran to call for help

and

> when he got back she wasn't breathing. I feel so horrible that I

left

> last night--maybe she was calling for help and if I was there I

> would've heard her??? I am filled with so many regrets I don't

think I

> can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make

the

> right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. I

never

> thought this would happen now. How do I deal with this? I can't

> believe both my parents are gone within months of each other. We

have

> no idea how to pay bills or anything and I guess we should talk to

a

> lawyer.

> I want to thank all of you for your help and I wish you all good

health.

> Take care.

> Diane

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how quickly things can turn

trust me. With my mom I went homw for one week. Before i left she

was up I kissed her and told her I would be back. In 4 days she was

layed out in a hospital bed and a few days later gone. I am sure she

knew you loved her and that you did the best you could. It was good

that someone was thee with her and that you had a chance to tell her

you loved her. All that other stuff bills and suff will work itself

later. I knwo I will get in trouble for saying this but, if she has

any hospital bills check with the accounting peopel they might have a

program that will pay the bill and then check with anyone she had

accounts with and send them the death certificate, sometimes they

will cancel the debt.

Right now just focus on yourself and your family, try to get some

rest and get ready for the next few days

stacey

> My Mom died this morning. We were trying to figure a way that we

could

> all take turns to stay with my Mom so someone would always be

there. I

> left last night to go home and my husband stayed there. Early this

> morning my Mom fell out of bed and there was vomit all over. My

> husband went to her and she was moaning. He ran to call for help

and

> when he got back she wasn't breathing. I feel so horrible that I

left

> last night--maybe she was calling for help and if I was there I

> would've heard her??? I am filled with so many regrets I don't

think I

> can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make

the

> right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. I

never

> thought this would happen now. How do I deal with this? I can't

> believe both my parents are gone within months of each other. We

have

> no idea how to pay bills or anything and I guess we should talk to

a

> lawyer.

> I want to thank all of you for your help and I wish you all good

health.

> Take care.

> Diane

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how quickly things can turn

trust me. With my mom I went homw for one week. Before i left she

was up I kissed her and told her I would be back. In 4 days she was

layed out in a hospital bed and a few days later gone. I am sure she

knew you loved her and that you did the best you could. It was good

that someone was thee with her and that you had a chance to tell her

you loved her. All that other stuff bills and suff will work itself

later. I knwo I will get in trouble for saying this but, if she has

any hospital bills check with the accounting peopel they might have a

program that will pay the bill and then check with anyone she had

accounts with and send them the death certificate, sometimes they

will cancel the debt.

Right now just focus on yourself and your family, try to get some

rest and get ready for the next few days

stacey

> My Mom died this morning. We were trying to figure a way that we

could

> all take turns to stay with my Mom so someone would always be

there. I

> left last night to go home and my husband stayed there. Early this

> morning my Mom fell out of bed and there was vomit all over. My

> husband went to her and she was moaning. He ran to call for help

and

> when he got back she wasn't breathing. I feel so horrible that I

left

> last night--maybe she was calling for help and if I was there I

> would've heard her??? I am filled with so many regrets I don't

think I

> can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make

the

> right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. I

never

> thought this would happen now. How do I deal with this? I can't

> believe both my parents are gone within months of each other. We

have

> no idea how to pay bills or anything and I guess we should talk to

a

> lawyer.

> I want to thank all of you for your help and I wish you all good

health.

> Take care.

> Diane

[Guest guest]

I believe that, I did that with my mom as she was having a sezure and

she stopped shaking, I can't explain it but she stopped and was still

then she passed shortly after. It hurt really bad and i thouhgt that I

let her die, I still think on thatlike i let her go or something, nut i

know it was the right thing to do.

> Dear Diane,

>

> Sometimes the one who is so desparately ill is subconsciously just

waiting for a kind of " permission " from their loved ones to go on.

> I am so happy you told her that you loved her. Bless your

heart...that may have been all she needed to hear to feel it was okay

with you if she went on to be with your Dad. Your love helped her in

her last step, you are a precious daughter.

> I will keep you in my prayers,

> nancy j

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[Guest guest]

Diane, I am so sorry you lost your mom this fast. But she is not in

pain anymore. She is now in a better place with all her loved ones

that have gone before her.

Diane, The same thing would of happend if you were there. I do not

see how you could of prevented any of this. She would of fell out of

bed even if you were there. You could of not done anything to prevent

this. Please stop blaming yourself. It would of happened to you

instead iof your husband. Your mom knew you loved her and wanted the

best for her. Please, stop blaming yourself.

I am sending a Prayer for your mom's journey into the next world

and for you and your family. My deepest symphthy goes to you. Ingrid

> My Mom died this morning. We were trying to figure a way that we

could

> all take turns to stay with my Mom so someone would always be

there. I

> left last night to go home and my husband stayed there. Early this

> morning my Mom fell out of bed and there was vomit all over. My

> husband went to her and she was moaning. He ran to call for help

and

> when he got back she wasn't breathing. I feel so horrible that I

left

> last night--maybe she was calling for help and if I was there I

> would've heard her??? I am filled with so many regrets I don't

think I

> can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make

the

> right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. I

never

> thought this would happen now. How do I deal with this? I can't

> believe both my parents are gone within months of each other. We

have

> no idea how to pay bills or anything and I guess we should talk to

a

> lawyer.

> I want to thank all of you for your help and I wish you all good

health.

> Take care.

> Diane

[Guest guest]

Dianne I wish there was some magic words I could say to make you feel better but

I know there is none. All I can say is how sorry I am. May it be of some comfort

she is in a better place at peace and not suffering.

Hil

[Guest guest]

Diane,

I am so sorry for your loss; it is so very hard. You could not have

known that your mother would die in your absence. I was with my

Mother when she died, and it made it no easier.

Like you, I did not believe that she would die so soon. My Mom

simply gave up, and I could not accept that. I will deal with " what

ifs " for the rest of my life.

We go on because we must. That is cold comfort, but it is reality.

Prayers and hugs in this most difficult time,

Sharon

-- In colon_cancer_support , " dianebrnr "

wrote:

> My Mom died this morning. We were trying to figure a way that we

could

> all take turns to stay with my Mom so someone would always be

there. I

> left last night to go home and my husband stayed there. Early

this

> morning my Mom fell out of bed and there was vomit all over. My

> husband went to her and she was moaning. He ran to call for help

and

> when he got back she wasn't breathing. I feel so horrible that I

left

> last night--maybe she was calling for help and if I was there I

> would've heard her??? I am filled with so many regrets I don't

think I

> can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make

the

> right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. I

never

> thought this would happen now. How do I deal with this? I can't

> believe both my parents are gone within months of each other. We

have

> no idea how to pay bills or anything and I guess we should talk to

a

> lawyer.

> I want to thank all of you for your help and I wish you all good

health.

> Take care.

> Diane

[Guest guest]

Diane,

I am so sorry for your loss; it is so very hard. You could not have

known that your mother would die in your absence. I was with my

Mother when she died, and it made it no easier.

Like you, I did not believe that she would die so soon. My Mom

simply gave up, and I could not accept that. I will deal with " what

ifs " for the rest of my life.

We go on because we must. That is cold comfort, but it is reality.

Prayers and hugs in this most difficult time,

Sharon

-- In colon_cancer_support , " dianebrnr "

wrote:

> My Mom died this morning. We were trying to figure a way that we

could

> all take turns to stay with my Mom so someone would always be

there. I

> left last night to go home and my husband stayed there. Early

this

> morning my Mom fell out of bed and there was vomit all over. My

> husband went to her and she was moaning. He ran to call for help

and

> when he got back she wasn't breathing. I feel so horrible that I

left

> last night--maybe she was calling for help and if I was there I

> would've heard her??? I am filled with so many regrets I don't

think I

> can handle this. I told her yesterday I'm so sorry I didn't make

the

> right choices in finding her help and I told her I loved her. I

never

> thought this would happen now. How do I deal with this? I can't

> believe both my parents are gone within months of each other. We

have

> no idea how to pay bills or anything and I guess we should talk to

a

> lawyer.

> I want to thank all of you for your help and I wish you all good

health.

> Take care.

> Diane