Guest guest Posted March 8, 2006 Report Share Posted March 8, 2006 ok - i kinda had a husband like that - and mine NEEDS to lose weight (overweight a bit, early heartattack history in his family,etc..) here is what i did - i just quit fighting with him about it - i ate what i needed to eat and i didn't fix extra things for him at dinners. If he wanted to eat hashbrowns at breakfast, i wasn't gonna stop him, kwim?? And for dinner, i would fix what i could eat and then add a bit of brown rice or couscous for the girls and if he wanted to eat that too, then he could. Now, i did pack his lunch for him and gave him good SB things, but he still has a free will and could have gone out to lunch at work or picked up a Snicker's bar in the afternoons Well, after about just ONE week of doing that, and him eating what we ate at nite, and eating what i packed during the day - he decided he wanted to do the plan with me. Fighting with him about it just made him all that more resiliant to NOT do it. So when i quit fighting about it and just cooked it and packed it for him, even though he had free will to go and buy whatever he wanted at work, he kinda fell into line. So my advice would be to clean out the house of anything you can't have - cook some great Phase 1 meals, pack him some great phase 1 foods for lunch and just quit talking about it. If he wants to POUT and not go out to breakfast, then say " Fine, but i want to go out and eat " - you can ALWAYS ask for extra eggs, extra whatever in place of the potatoes - or go somewhere that it's a la carte or a buffet, etc.. find new places to go and new ways to make things SB - we do tend to eat out several times a week and i've had NO problems at all - Red Lobster, Applebees, even Mcs one day - LOL! So long-winded as i may be, that is my advice - just get the house ready and just do it - don't allow his pouting to jeopardize your success - cause guess what? He'll eventually get over it and you will be MUCH healthier.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2006 Report Share Posted March 8, 2006 In a message dated 3/8/2006 9:26:27 A.M. Central Standard Time, mrlaursen@... writes: Stubborn, stubborn man! [:-s] OH, man! He sounds JUST like my dad, except I've never been successful in getting him to diet. You mention something is healthy, and he stays far away from it. Just other things in life he handles just like your hubby. It's called a " guilt trip " honey. Don't let him pull you in to it. Just ignore him, and he'll probably eventually come around. That's what I do, at least. Keiva Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2006 Report Share Posted March 8, 2006 Maybe you could pack him foods he can eat for breakfast and lunch when he's working until he gets the hang of it. For breakfast, when I skip the toast and potatoes, on phase 1, I get Canadian bacon instead. On phase 2, I get a fresh fruit cup instead. I don't know if he'd be willing to make substitutions like that or not. You could always eat Sunday breakfast at home and go out for lunch instead. I actually prefer to do that now that I'm on SBD, because restaurants are better about making substitutions on lunch foods than breakfast foods. ann > > > I am having a really hard time with my husband - he's never had to diet > in his life - he's always been tall and thin - and now that I've > suggested that he go on South Beach with me because of his triglyceride > levels, and he's really putting up a fuss. > > Yesterday I printed up a list of the things he COULD have during the > first phase of the diet so when he went out for lunch he'd eat properly. > On the way home from the office, he was rather cranky and short, so I > asked what he had for lunch and he said " NOTHING! " I asked why, and he > said that he got " confused " when he read my list, so rather than eat his > usual bagel and coffee for breakfast, he skipped that, and then because > he was confused about what to eat he chose NOT to eat anything so he was > REALLY hungry. > > I tried to explain that he had to eat SOMETHING because going without a > meal is as bad if not worse than eating the wrong things, and then he > asked what he could eat, I told him to go to salad bars and suggested a > couple, then I said he could go to Burger King and get a BK broiler > without fries, toss the bun and eat everything else. Know what he said? > " WHY would I do that? I'd be wasting the bread and they'd charge me the > same whether I eat it or not, so I'm not going to waste money or food - > I'll just skip a meal if I have to. " We usually go out for breakfast on > Sunday mornings, and his usual is 2 eggs, bacon, toast and hash browns. > Now he says we're not going out to eat breakfast for the same reasons > he's not going to Burger King - if he can't eat the bread or potatoes, > then he's going to be wasting food/money and he'll be hungry besides. > After all, 2 eggs isn't going to fill him up. I suggested omelettes, > and he STILL argued that an omelette without toast just WASN'T going to > fill him up. I rarely eat potatoes when we go out, and even then it's > just one or two bites - same for the whole wheat toast. I usually give > them over to him because he's alwas been so skinny I figured he could > handle it. Now he says that with BOTH of us not eating bread or > potatoes, that's REALLY wasteful and that's another reason to not go out > for Sunday breakfast. > > Oh, here's the topper... He's been looking at a fully restored 1948 > pickup truck to drive in parades and use as business advertising. He > said that we most likely would be driving the truck to town for Sunday > breakfasts so people would recognize it. Because he's so crabby about > going on a diet he even said that now he probably wasn't going to buy > the truck because we weren't going to go out to breakfast any more! > > Stubborn, stubborn man! [:-s] > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2006 Report Share Posted March 8, 2006 You may have to make your husband breakfast and pack him a lunch and snack so he gets used to this new way of eating. Make him a big fritatta with all kinds of veggies in it, and melted cheese on top. Make it a 4-egg fritatta if necessary. When you go out to eat breakfast, ask the waitress if you can have sliced tomatoes instead of toast and hash browns. If the restaurant also serves hamburgers, likely they will have tomatoes ready to go. We do this all the time with no problems. You might also suggest that you stay home to eat Sunday breakfast while you are both on Phase 1. It will only be two that you miss, and that isn't much. Once you are on Phase 2 you can have sourdough toast with your breakfast, and that should help some. And let him know that after the two weeks are up, you'd be very proud to ride with him in the truck to breakfast, lunch, dinner, or any other place! -- Ann hayakawa@... You spend your life fighting dirt, and when you die they bury you in it. North Bend, OR USA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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