Re: Holiday visits with autism

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thanks for sharing this barb..i showed this to my son's father and now he finally understands why i won't let him take my son to a giant game..ugh!!!! i also plan to send this to alot of people who dont realize just because they can't physically see anything and that i'm not just a neurotic..thaks again

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I hope you try and let that dad take his son to a giants game if he is willing to try and realizes he may have to leave early..

hi all thanks for the reply..his dad doesn't realize that he will have to leave and will get very frustrated with my son..i dont like my son to see people close to him get frustrated because i have a feeling he wonders what he did wrong..he gets a puzzeled look on his face..and i know that he is just doing what he needs to do to calm himself.

i do take my son as many places as i can.out to dinner, shopping..etc..but also my son has running issues..takes off the first time you let his hand go..so i do take him many places and encourage his speech and interaction but i am very careful who he is with in situations that are new or overwhelming to him. people just dont get it how hard it is for these kids in unfamiliar situations or in crowds and think they're just spoiled brats..

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I agree Jonathon. It is important to have our children doing as many normal, social things as possible. We take to the mall quite often (started small with one store for 15 minutes and have worked our way up) and to restaurants just for the experience.

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Please excuse my suggestion..I had a feeling you were going to tell me that

just as I typed it pushed the send now button....This is a hard package to

deal with..Most can't.. I congratulate you on your insight. It takes special

people like yourself to decide whats best for your child.

Stay well.

JB

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Consider having one of your ABA teachers take your child out. We have had our coordinator taking out, with me or alone, to learn how to behave correctly in crowds and questionable situations. If he runs away the teacher can use strategies to help get rid of that behavior.

Good luck,

Barb

I hope you try and let that dad take his son to a giants game if he is willing to try and realizes he may have to leave early..

hi all thanks for the reply..his dad doesn't realize that he will have to leave and will get very frustrated with my son..i dont like my son to see people close to him get frustrated because i have a feeling he wonders what

he did wrong..he gets a puzzeled look on his face..and i know that he is just doing what he needs to do to calm himself.

i do take my son as many places as i can.out to dinner, shopping..etc..but also my son has running issues..takes off the first time you let his hand go..so i do take him many places and encourage his speech and interaction but i am very careful who he is with in situations that are new or overwhelming to him. people just dont get it how hard it is for these kids in unfamiliar situations or in crowds and think they're just spoiled brats.. eGroups Sponsor

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Please excuse my suggestion..I had a feeling you were going to tell me that just as I typed it pushed the send now button....

please not at all..i joined this list to get advice from other parents with more experience with these special little guys and i welcome any and all advice you can give me. i think its the parents who have the better insight than the doctors on how to deal with these children. thanks again..diana

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Consider having one of your ABA teachers take your child out.

thanks barb..right now she is teaching him to walk down the hallway in our apt building instead of running up the stairs, down the hall and since i live in a very family orient building everyone leaves their doors opened while they in another apt, doing laundry, etc..and he just runs into their apts she is working on having him wait until asked to enter before going into their apts.

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Well there you go, that is part of the process. He is now learning to behave appropriately outside of your apt. Thats an early step to what we I have suggested.

Barb

Consider having one of your ABA teachers take your child out.

thanks barb..right now she is teaching him to walk down the hallway in our apt building instead of running up the stairs, down the hall and since i live in a very family orient building everyone leaves their doors opened while they in another apt, doing laundry, etc..and he just runs into their apts she is working on having him wait until asked to enter before going into their apts.