A different opinion Re: AARP Query

[Guest guest]

Actually, I was *relieved* to read this portion of the doctor's answer.

What I read is that the doctor is recommending that the man *ask* his

partner about *her* experience rather than assuming that her sexual

response should be the same as his.

I don't have orgasms with my partner. I have never had orgasms with any

partners. The orgasms I've had on my own aren't particularly satisfying.

I *am*, however, *very* satisfied with my partner's and my sex life. I

don't feel cheated. Sex feels good to me even if it doesn't result in

orgasm, and yes, I appreciate and need the intimacy of it.

Everyone's sexual response is different. All this poor guy wants is to

satisfy his partner, very commendable, in my opinion and the doctor in this

column recommended to him that he and his partner explore together how she

might be more satisfied. How is that wrong?

--Lee

--On Sunday, June 06, 2004 7:53 PM +0000 uterinefibroids

wrote:

> " Also, don't assume that she feels cheated until you've asked her.

> > From your note, it doesn't seem as if she's complaining. " Many women

> enjoy the closeness and warmth of sex, even if they don't climax, "

> Zoldbrod says. "

>

> Yeah right, we only do it for the cuddling. I'd like to hear a man

> say that he doesn't mind not having an orgasm because he really just

> likes the cuddling.