RE: HELP ME!!!

January 27, 2006

,

I am sorry to read this. I dont have experience myself yet (SU OR

UD) but I can tell you a story about my sister with BU. She got

pregnant with her dh B.J. and she was 6 months along and her

girlfriend was preg same time. she didnt know she was BU at all.

Her baby died at 6.5 months preg and they named ds . She

got preg again with my nephew and had complications but delivered

sucessfully and found out she was BU in C-section.

2 years later, BJ died unexpectedly. She buried with BJ. She

found love again after a few years, now Walter. She got preg again.

Lost baby after 8 weeks. NOW...preg again, she is due 05/04/2006 and

everything looks good. HE only gives what we can take and even if

you dont feel you are strong enough, you will prevail and be a better

person in the end for it. REMEMBER, you will appreciate your babies

every single minute where someone else without these problems wont.

Hang in there ~ WOMEN amaze me everyday and I can only hope to be

half as strong as my sister is when my time comes. Hope this helped

and take care.

Darleen

>

> I cannot take this anymore. I just found out my sister-in-law is

pregnant. Just when I think that I'm going to be able to get through

all of this and then BAM! She didn't even tell me my mom did because

I made her promise to tell me if she found out any of my sister-in-

laws were pg so I could prepare myself. I can't do this. I have to

watch her carry her baby so easily and she already has two children.

I want to be so happy for her and so happy I'm going to get a new

niece or nephew but its so unfair. My doctor told me on Monday to

just start TTC again if I want to after my next period. That will be

two periods since the last m/c. But what if I get pg when my sister-

in-law is pg and I lose another one. I just don't know if I can

mentally do all of this. How much do you think a person can take? She

went through all the tests she could run but said she doesn't think

that anything besides the UU is wrong with me. She does want to see

me the next pg at 7 wks for a ultrasound.

> I just don't know how I'm going to make it through all this. Its

like a cruel joke. I can't pull myself together today. I'm sorry this

is so depressing but really I don't know where else to turn.

>

> Left UU

> m/c - July 11, 2005-19 wks

> m/c 12/17/05-10 wks

>

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January 27, 2006

,

No one should ever have to bear what youve had to

bear. I was just thinking of you and your story

today, when I opened this email. I am so sorry.

Just be angry at her/the situation and dont deal w/

sis-in-law for awhile: Keep your head focused on your

goals and ignore the rest of the family if you have to

(if they dont understand what your doing and arent

sympathetic, then you can do w/o them!!!) Take care

of yourself and stay focused on your goals. Sending

much love and prayers for a healthy pregnancy and baby

for you.

xo

Heidi

--- Manwaring nicolemanwaring@...>

wrote:

> I cannot take this anymore. I just found out my

> sister-in-law is pregnant. Just when I think that

> I'm going to be able to get through all of this and

> then BAM! She didn't even tell me my mom did because

> I made her promise to tell me if she found out any

> of my sister-in-laws were pg so I could prepare

> myself. I can't do this. I have to watch her carry

> her baby so easily and she already has two children.

> I want to be so happy for her and so happy I'm going

> to get a new niece or nephew but its so unfair. My

> doctor told me on Monday to just start TTC again if

> I want to after my next period. That will be two

> periods since the last m/c. But what if I get pg

> when my sister-in-law is pg and I lose another one.

> I just don't know if I can mentally do all of this.

> How much do you think a person can take? She went

> through all the tests she could run but said she

> doesn't think that anything besides the UU is wrong

> with me. She does want to see me the next pg at 7

> wks for a ultrasound.

> I just don't know how I'm going to make it through

> all this. Its like a cruel joke. I can't pull myself

> together today. I'm sorry this is so depressing but

> really I don't know where else to turn.

>

> Left UU

> m/c - July 11, 2005-19 wks

> m/c 12/17/05-10 wks

>

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January 27, 2006

,

I just want you to know I am thinking

of you and I am so sorry you are going

through this pain.

You're absolutely right - it does seem

like a cruel joke - one that I think many

here can relate to. Some women it seems

get pregnant if their husbands glance at

them from across the room. And they can

carry baby after baby with no problem.

My best friend is that way.

Some have " accidental " pregnancies - those

that aren't planned or wanted. WHY??

This question, honestly, is at the top

of my list for the day I meet my maker!

I understand that having a sister in law

pregnant (again) would be awful. I hope

that she is sensitive to you. Hopefully

she is a good-hearted person and understands

that you may not be in a frame of mind to

be doing cartwheels over her news. I also

understand that the prospect of becoming

pregnant again is downright frightening,

not knowing if you'll face another loss.

I think you need to be extra kind to yourself

and though nothing takes the place of your

losses, some extra pampering might be in

order to help soothe your soul. I don't know

what the answers are, but I know that some

of the really tough stuff I've been through

(2 yr old going through open heart surgery,

husband of 14 years flipping out, having

affairs, treating me badly, and leaving me

and his 4 yr old son...) ... those things

have shaped me into a stronger, better person.

Sure didn't feel like it while I was walking

through those dark places, though.

I don't have the answers for your losses.

I pray you are able to conceive and have a

successful pregnancy (or three!) and fill those

loving arms of yours that long to hold a child

of your own.

You will get through this tough time. Today

was lousy - I hope tomorrow is much better.

Brighter days ahead for you, .

Big hugs,

, 35

SU - resected 6/28/05

ds 3/13/98

17w 4d w/#2

HELP ME!!!

I cannot take this anymore. I just found out my sister-in-law is pregnant.

Just when I think that I'm going to be able to get through all of this and

then BAM! She didn't even tell me my mom did because I made her promise to

tell me if she found out any of my sister-in-laws were pg so I could prepare

myself. I can't do this. I have to watch her carry her baby so easily and

she already has two children. I want to be so happy for her and so happy I'm

going to get a new niece or nephew but its so unfair. My doctor told me on

Monday to just start TTC again if I want to after my next period. That will

be two periods since the last m/c. But what if I get pg when my

sister-in-law is pg and I lose another one. I just don't know if I can

mentally do all of this. How much do you think a person can take? She went

through all the tests she could run but said she doesn't think that anything

besides the UU is wrong with me. She does want to see me the next pg at 7

wks for a ultrasound.

I just don't know how I'm going to make it through all this. Its like a

cruel joke. I can't pull myself together today. I'm sorry this is so

depressing but really I don't know where else to turn.

Left UU

m/c - July 11, 2005-19 wks

m/c 12/17/05-10 wks

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January 28, 2006

,

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with such a hard blow. You

have been through so much! You don't have to try to make

yourself feel happy for your SIL--I'm sure she will understand.

I agree with the others--try to focus on healing yourself and

keeping yourself strong, healthy, and hopeful. Also, don't

worry about posting " depressing " messages. We are happy

to listen and be sad along with you whenever you need it.

HUGS to you,

a

February 2, 2006

,

I am so sorry to hear your sadness. It is very hard to see the women around

you get pregnant just from touching their husbands. When I got pregnant I

was so excited, I had a big dinner and surprised all of my family with the

great news. I also found out that 3 girlfriends were also pregnant at the

same time. It was going to be great; we were all going to be pregnant

together! But life had a different road for me. The very next week they

discovered I had a su and told me that I had a pseudo pregnancy. (all this

the day before I threw my best friend her baby shower @ my home.) It is

heading into what would have been my 7 month, and it has been hard to see

everyone around me get bigger and get ready and me just about to get the

green light to ttc (just one more cycle). Talking, moaning, and complaining

about it on these message boards has really helped me. It has help me let

go of my sadness (well for the most part, either that or my unconscious mind

is really good at hiding things from my conscious mind). So… if you ever

want to moan or complain, I am here to listen! I have to just stay positive,

“it will happen one day” is what I keep telling myself. And when it does,

we will appreciate it 10000000 times more!

Nickey

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