Re: Cussing at me / Liz

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Liz, have you thought of consequences for her cussing at you?

I mean, obviously you can't go and wash her mouth out with soap (however

tempting that might be...) But you could 'fine her' monetary amounts, like

withholding allowance, if she gets an allowance, making her pay money back each

time she curses.

Also, you can just leave the room and refuse to listen to a tirade.

Or have her leave the room..... Just try not to get into any shouting

matches with her, since these are definitely a no win situation. Reasoning

didn't

seem to help with mine, went in one ear (if it even got there) and out the

other, if you know what I mean.

Grounding her from communication with peers might help, if she cannot talk

respectfully to you, then she has no privileges to talk to others. Less use

of things around the house that she normally takes for granted : ie: hair

dryers, make up, car (if she drives yours, or you pay for it in any way).

There are a number of 'incentives', that you might employ to show her that this

behavior will not be tolerated.

Let us know what's working, or not working, ok?

Blondie

In a message dated 4/1/2006 7:07:12 P.M. Central Standard Time,

harmjosh3@... writes:

My daughter lives at home .She is 17 yrs old.My daughter at one time

acted like she Loved me. When she was little her dad would tell her she

was not good as her brother because she was a girl. I have all ways

been there for my children. After their dad walked out on us they was

scared that I would leave them.Sometimes she makes me feel like she

hates me.She dose not like for me to leave her along and my son gets

mad at her because how she treats me.It will take a while but I will

learn how to deal with her. It has taken me a lot of years to find out

what she has. I will take one step at a time.

Liz