Do I or don't I?

[Guest guest]

After years of trauma/drama with my soon to be 21 year old daughter,

I have just this weekend discovered, Stop Walking on Eggshells, read

the whole book, and am now exploding with so much hope and a feeling

of ahhh, that I want to go straight to her to tell her this amazing

news.

The book says not to do that.

She has an aptt. with a psycologist on Mon. and I want to call this

Dr. to make sure she knows something about BPD.

I want to cry

I want to fly

It took me an hour to get connected to this support group and I am

obviously not sure how to use it best.

I read the only posts I saw on the home page and am in shock as to

how many different kinds of drugs there are for this disorder.

Is everyone happy with the drug part of the treatment?

What would you do if you were just starting out this process like I

am? Anyone?

hopefully,Myah

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In a message dated 4/9/2006 7:53:08 PM Eastern Standard Time,

skydog@... writes:

Is everyone happy with the drug part of the treatment?

What would you do if you were just starting out this process like I

am? Anyone?

hopefully,Myah

Hi Myah and Welcome! I'm glad you found us and were able to post. My

daughter is now 19. We spent 5 yrs. on the roller coaster, which has now

stopped

and I JUMPED off!

She is well, and I too don't like any of meds she was put on. I have a

basket full of untaken meds in my closet. She suffers genetically from

depression

and was taking zoloft, but because of the chemical imbalance that sparked her

disorders, the zoloft was working opposite, making her more depressed.

It took me three years to find this board and post. It took longer to

implement changes, but they worked. Setting boundaries, drawing up a contract

w/my

daughter, enforcing rules and consequences. That was April of last year. She

finished school w/o missing another day, graduated w/her class, works full

time, has ONE steady b/f and is doing well. I have my little girl back, I hug

her and tell her that everyday! I missed her so.

I myself don't like meds. I prefer whatever natural I can do. I bought my

daughter 5-HTP.

It contains serotonin which is ESSENTIAL in promoting mood balance and

psychological well being. Along with the contract and changing myself.

Changing my

REACTIONS to her ACTIONS was key in getting her thinking patterns

straightened out. I became someone else to her and treated her as if she were

someone

else's daughter. Stop thinking with your heart and think with your head. Would

you tolerate this behavior from a stranger? From a friend of her? I think

not, we would boot them out in a heartbeat. Don't be afraid, it works.

All the while still reinforcing to her that you love her with all your heart.

Hope this helps.

Anything I can do or tell you, let me know. I can also email you a copy of

my contract to you as a guide. Edit it to suit your situation. Keep reading

and posting here. You will find lots of hugs and support here from some great

people.

DebbieL