38 yr old daughter Bipolar/BPD

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This is my first log on to the group...So hello fellow SURVIVOR'S!

Non BPD's are an exclusive club.. it's taken me years to discover

there's a name for what my husband and I are living with and that

there are other people going through this too! My daughter is my only

child and I've been prisoner to my love and denial. My own parents

and sisters have not seen the worst rage and physcial abuse and don't

want to believe there's a real problem. They consider it our " family

squables " at holiday's. That's made it easier for my daughter and I

to keep the denial going.

Since about 16 she's blamed and raged at and even a few times

physically attacked me. She is a high functioning BPD with a

stressful job in television. I recently gave up hope she would ever

find the right combination of medication or therapy to end this rage

so I cut off all communication with her. I know she takes med's for

depression, anxiety and panic attacks, but she will not share her

personal life with me, and I don't know her official diagnosis. I

suspect it's not BPD.

Two therapists I've consulted say she is very likely BPD or Bipolar.

I've read two books on BPD and she fits 5 of the 7 criteria for this

illness. Especially the Eggshell's book..described her, our life and

relationship. But how do I get her evalutaed for BPD? As only a Non

can truly understand...even in a friendly cycle... a diplomatic

suggestion that she be evaluated for BPD could start her rage.

Help Appreciated!