Guest guest Posted May 12, 2000 Report Share Posted May 12, 2000 Oh Michele i am so upset that your dr said no. I didn't realize that you went to your dr for a handicap sticker. I thought you had to go through a state organization for that. It's not something that i have thought about with jesse cause if he can't make it then i carry him part of the way. I would think he would want you to have to reduce chances of joint damage because i know that walking on hard pavement or a hard floor is murder on jesse and he hurts from his toes to his neck if its a long distance. That is just to cold for me to comphend.I would have been so mad that i would have had a few choice words for that dr. Not to mention your husband but i will keep my thoughts to myself where he is concerned. Old people my butt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am now as frustrated as you are for you. Sending you a hug A REAL BIG HUG!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2000 Report Share Posted May 12, 2000 Michele, I'm sorry your RD gave you such a hard time. You would think of all doc's a RD would understand the need for a placard. Beverly had a good suggestion, do you have another doc that you could ask. Don't give up! Admitting you need one is half the battle. I have had mine for about 3 or 4 years now and I use it when I need it and daily at work so I don't have to park in the back 40. Don't be discouraged keep asking until you find someone who will give you one. {{Michele}}. Tery Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2000 Report Share Posted May 13, 2000 , That doc is a moron, plain and simple. Do you have a primary care doc that has a heart? It takes alot to admit that you need help, and you did. You should not be punished for hurting. I am sorry that things did not work out but try another doctor that you have. You might be surprised at his/her compassion. Good luck and here's another *hug* Beverly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2000 Report Share Posted May 13, 2000 Michele, This is a such a sad story. I'm so sorry. You must be so frustrated and disappointed. Don't feel bad for asking and being refused. It took a lot of courage to ask, but it was your right. Your doctor obviously doesn't understand. This is not an issue of " mindset, " it's an issue of painful reality. Why doesn't he see that you need this to be able to conserve your energy when you need to? And that only you know when it hurts to much to cover long distances? He dispenses drugs doesn't he? Why can't he use another tool to help you, especially one that is guaranteed to work? I'm afraid your husband doesn't get it either. Maybe he should come to us for a little chat!!!!! Try to explain to him that you need better support than that. Handicap stickers are no more for older people exclusively than arthritis is. I like Beverly's suggestion about talking to one of your other docs if possible. Maybe you would have better luck with someone else. Hang in there, ----- Original Message ----- From: " Michele Craddock " <mcraddockrph@...> < egroups> Sent: Friday, May 12, 2000 5:19 PM Subject: [ ] Handicap Sticker > I'm so mad! Just went to the rheumy. The MTX is helping (minimal), but only > been on it 6 weeks. Along with the Arava and all the other stuff my stomach > is starting to not be a happy camper. Maalox seems to be helping more that > zantcac or prilosec. It just seems that I keep adding more and more meds! > The real reason I'm upset is that I finally asked for a handicap sticker. THE > DOC SAID NO!! Don't get me wrong. I am 100% better that where I was last > year, but I still have really bad days when I hurt. I only wanted it for > those bad days when I still have to get out and function. He said he rarely > gives out the handicap stickers and didn't want me to get into that " mindset " . > He believes that the MTX is going to be my saving grace and if not then we'll > look at Enbrel. I feel so flustrated!! I told him that it had really taken > alot for me just to admit and ask for something that I would only use when I > was really bad off. He said he appreciated that but the answer was still no. > He recommended better arch supports for my shoes!! All the arch supports in > the world won't help when you really hurt! I feel like I'm being punished > because I refuse to let this disease beat me down. Now when I ask for a little > help, my bravery (or stupidity) gets in the way. To top it off, I called my > hubby for a little comforting. He said that I didn't need one cuz they are > only for old people!!! I let him know that he really wasn't helping me very > much. I knew that I could turn to you guys. You have been there for me so > much. I'm really stumped as to what to do now. I'm just so flustrated. Got > to go take the kids to their baseball game. Thanks for letting me vent. I > try so hard to be positive because I'm a firm believer that negativity can > make a disease state worse, but some times it is so hard. lol Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2000 Report Share Posted May 13, 2000 Michele, Get a pile of rocks, bring them to that doctor and ask him to put them in his shoes and walk around for awhile. I think this is the first time I've heard of a doctor turning down an RA patient! Maybe the doctors are getting flack for giving out so many??? I can't begin to think of why else one would turn down an arthritic. Do you have a family doctor that would sign for you? a ----- Original Message ----- From: Michele Craddock <mcraddockrph@...> < egroups> Sent: Friday, May 12, 2000 6:19 PM Subject: [ ] Handicap Sticker > I'm so mad! Just went to the rheumy. The MTX is helping (minimal), but only > been on it 6 weeks. Along with the Arava and all the other stuff my stomach > is starting to not be a happy camper. Maalox seems to be helping more that > zantcac or prilosec. It just seems that I keep adding more and more meds! > The real reason I'm upset is that I finally asked for a handicap sticker. THE > DOC SAID NO!! Don't get me wrong. I am 100% better that where I was last > year, but I still have really bad days when I hurt. I only wanted it for > those bad days when I still have to get out and function. He said he rarely > gives out the handicap stickers and didn't want me to get into that " mindset " . > He believes that the MTX is going to be my saving grace and if not then we'll > look at Enbrel. I feel so flustrated!! I told him that it had really taken > alot for me just to admit and ask for something that I would only use when I > was really bad off. He said he appreciated that but the answer was still no. > He recommended better arch supports for my shoes!! All the arch supports in > the world won't help when you really hurt! I feel like I'm being punished > because I refuse to let this disease beat me down. Now when I ask for a little > help, my bravery (or stupidity) gets in the way. To top it off, I called my > hubby for a little comforting. He said that I didn't need one cuz they are > only for old people!!! I let him know that he really wasn't helping me very > much. I knew that I could turn to you guys. You have been there for me so > much. I'm really stumped as to what to do now. I'm just so flustrated. Got > to go take the kids to their baseball game. Thanks for letting me vent. I > try so hard to be positive because I'm a firm believer that negativity can > make a disease state worse, but some times it is so hard. lol Michele > > ____________________________________________________________________ > Get your own FREE, personal Netscape WebMail account today at http://webmail.netscape.com. > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Make new friends, find the old at Classmates.com: > 1/4052/6/_/478567/_/958169994/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > URL to change your membership options: /group/ > RA-support website: http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Our chat room: www.delphi.com/RheumatoidArth1/start > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2000 Report Share Posted May 13, 2000 Michele, Perhaps if that doctor had the pain then he would understand your need for a placard!! I am surprised that a Rheumy would say that to you......he of all people. We have always found Rheumys to be extra caring and compassionate. We agree that you should ask another doctor. We understand your frustration and the hurt when people say it's for old people.......they have no clue. (((((((((((((((((( Michele )))))))))))))))))) ~ Esther & Carol ~ ----- Original Message ----- From: Matsumura <Matsumura_Clan@...> < egroups> Sent: Friday, May 12, 2000 8:37 PM Subject: Re: [ ] Handicap Sticker > Michele, > > This is a such a sad story. I'm so sorry. You must be so frustrated and > disappointed. > > Don't feel bad for asking and being refused. It took a lot of courage to > ask, but it was your right. > > Your doctor obviously doesn't understand. This is not an issue of " mindset, " > it's an issue of painful reality. Why doesn't he see that you need this to > be able to conserve your energy when you need to? And that only you know > when it hurts to much to cover long distances? He dispenses drugs doesn't > he? Why can't he use another tool to help you, especially one that is > guaranteed to work? > > I'm afraid your husband doesn't get it either. Maybe he should come to us > for a little chat!!!!! Try to explain to him that you need better support > than that. Handicap stickers are no more for older people exclusively than > arthritis is. > > I like Beverly's suggestion about talking to one of your other docs if > possible. Maybe you would have better luck with someone else. > > Hang in there, > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: " Michele Craddock " <mcraddockrph@...> > < egroups> > Sent: Friday, May 12, 2000 5:19 PM > Subject: [ ] Handicap Sticker > > > > I'm so mad! Just went to the rheumy. The MTX is helping (minimal), but > only > > been on it 6 weeks. Along with the Arava and all the other stuff my > stomach > > is starting to not be a happy camper. Maalox seems to be helping more > that > > zantcac or prilosec. It just seems that I keep adding more and more meds! > > The real reason I'm upset is that I finally asked for a handicap sticker. > THE > > DOC SAID NO!! Don't get me wrong. I am 100% better that where I was last > > year, but I still have really bad days when I hurt. I only wanted it for > > those bad days when I still have to get out and function. He said he > rarely > > gives out the handicap stickers and didn't want me to get into that > " mindset " . > > He believes that the MTX is going to be my saving grace and if not then > we'll > > look at Enbrel. I feel so flustrated!! I told him that it had really > taken > > alot for me just to admit and ask for something that I would only use when > I > > was really bad off. He said he appreciated that but the answer was still > no. > > He recommended better arch supports for my shoes!! All the arch supports > in > > the world won't help when you really hurt! I feel like I'm being punished > > because I refuse to let this disease beat me down. Now when I ask for a > little > > help, my bravery (or stupidity) gets in the way. To top it off, I called > my > > hubby for a little comforting. He said that I didn't need one cuz they > are > > only for old people!!! I let him know that he really wasn't helping me > very > > much. I knew that I could turn to you guys. You have been there for me > so > > much. I'm really stumped as to what to do now. I'm just so flustrated. > Got > > to go take the kids to their baseball game. Thanks for letting me vent. > I > > try so hard to be positive because I'm a firm believer that negativity can > > make a disease state worse, but some times it is so hard. lol Michele > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > CLICK HERE AND START SAVING ON LONG DISTANCE BILLS TODAY! > 1/4125/6/_/478567/_/958178381/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > URL to change your membership options: /group/ > RA-support website: http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Our chat room: www.delphi.com/RheumatoidArth1/start Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2000 Report Share Posted May 13, 2000 Hi Michele,what a bummer of a dr. Tell him to put gravel in his shoes,barefoot and see how far he could walk. I know what you are feeling because I was turned down at the hospital by a dr who said, " why do you think you need one,you can walk " . I was so ashamed,he made me feel so unworthy,I started to cry,more out of anger than anything else.Needless to say, I never went back to this dr. But, I have never been able to bring myself to ask again. Don't let this happen to you Michele,get another dr or physio to fill out the form for you. I live in a very large city and at times it seems like every other person has a sticker and a lot do take advantage. The sad thing is, the people that deserve to have them are the ones that would park somewhere else if they were having a good day. Hugs June Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2000 Report Share Posted May 14, 2000 Michele- I'm really sorry to hear about the lack of compassion your doctor showed. I would try to get the primary physician to help you get the handicap sticker. Its distressing when people don't understand that handicap stickers aren't just for old people, or for visably disabled people. It's to help everyone who has pain or difficulty. Please keep your hopes up. Take care, Donna Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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